I finally found out what is going on in my daughters life.

From what you've wrote, continuing with this pregnancy could possibly kill your daughter. While I could never abort a baby myself, I support women having the choice. I would prefer if women chose to give the babies up for adoption over abortion, but there are circumstances, such as your daughter, where an abortion is necessary. I say, she's your daughter, support her no matter what her decisions are and no matter what your own beliefs are. That's what being a good parent is all about, right?

I think I could only accept it if the doctor said she was likely to have another risky pregnancy. If he/she says she will be alright then I couldn't support it. That is the ONLY reason I would support abortion, for medical reasons. I hope things work out for your daughter.

I think you are doing right by supporting her and I do totally understand the problems, but I strickly don't believe in abortion for any reason, no matter how good it may be. I don't blame her for wanting to do this, as you said, she can't afford another child or to be sick in the hospital like she was the firt time. I think maybe a doctor should be involved in the decision. See if it is what she had the first time before she does anything. She does need to do what is best for her. Going back to school, let me give a little advice on that. If she does go back, don't let her get a student loan. She will be haunted by that for the rest of her life, I know I am trying to get mine dismissed after over 20 years of having it on my back and no ged or hs diploma OR A JOB from the studies I took! If she can get a grant, that is great, free schooling. I wish you all the best of luck. Your daughter has to do what is best for her and any good mom would support their child in any decisions made by them.

Hello linda, I can say whatever decision you will come up with, I know that it's for the best of your daughter and I know that you know what is best for her, Just support and be with her all the time. She needed you most.

I am not against abortion and I am not for it, certain times we have to make decisions that we may not want to make but we have too. Your daughter has to do what is right for her and it is wonderful that she has the support of a loving mum because her burden will be easier to bear. It is so sad that it had to come down to this being the only choice but with you all sticking together you will get through it and be stronger together. She sounds like a very admirable girl and I think you are totally doing the right thing for your daughter.

I can see where you would be torn two ways and its a darned hard decision to make. Youwould love to see your unborn grandchild but still you do not want your daughter to suffer again and maybe even lose her life. It is her body and I guess under the circumstances her decision too. If she has the abortion she could go back to school and maybe make a better lifefor herself. Of course there is the chance with proper medical care she might not get a kidney infection if she did decide to go through with it and she still could go back to school as other young mothers have done.but it is still up to the two of you as to decide.Abortion sometimes is the best solution but not the only one of course. She could decide to offer the baby up for adoption. my blessingsand prayers to you both whatever you decide.

I was in the same situation, except it was my first grandchild. I supported my daughter through wanting an abortion, then she decided to give it up for adoption. I finaly sat her down and told her I loved her and wanted this grandchild more than anything. I know have a wonderful grandchild. If I where in your situation, I would support her in her decision again. I know my daughter very well, and as she went through these changes, her mind reeled. Icould see her worring about the same things; money; health; job; home... The best mind frame I can suggest is don't count your chicks befor they hatch. My grandma told me this; I know it's for eggs, but you can apply it to this by not thinking about the embryo as a child. There are so many things to consider here.If she gets ill who else can raise these children? I know it hurts, that alone is what makes us human. But, what type of life would the child have if she kept it? Would she grow to resent it? How would the other child feel about a sibling tthat could cause a potential melt down in mom and grandmom? I wish you much loveand will pray for you. Just continue to love and support your daughter; and remember, life goes in cycles, good, bad, fantastic, sad...

Hi linda345! This is a very difficult situation you are in and i know your heart is being broken right now. You can only be there to support her and hold her hand while she decides for herself. You can't dictate anyone to follow your beliefs. All you can do is stand by her whatever decision she makes. Hold her hand and pray for her as I will be praying for you and your daughter as well. Take care dear friend!

I hope you will not be offended with my response in here. I think this is a private matter, a family matter between you and your daughter. Being a good mother, you do not come out here and burst out what is happening to your family, particularly in your daughter's situation. Yes, she has committed some mistakes and caused you some pain. But it's not the reason for you to display it to the world about her misfortunes. I hope you keep it in the family. If your daughter is reading your post, what do you think will she thinks of you as her mother?

What a heartbreaking situation for both of you! I feel as you do about the issue but she has to think about the child she loves and cares for right now. What would that child do without her? I can't imagine what she's gone through, coming to this decision. I would do the same as you are, be there for her. She has enough that's weighing on her right now and needs her mom. Has she thought of having her tubes tied? Sounds as if pregnancy is dangerous for her and if birth control failed she might want to think about a more foolproof method. It's not guaranteed but much better than standard methods. I hope everything turns out alright for her, and for you. What a horrible thing for you both to go through.

I am against abortion if a person has one just because they feel like it, I know a few people who have done that, but in your case my daughter and her health would come first, I would support my daughter even though it would upset me.

right now your daughter needs a lot of support. IT Wont be the end of the world for her. Even if you agree what she is going to do is wrong . I think its so wrong when I parent doesnt agree with something that their grown adult does, and they let it hinder their realationship, that wouldnt be good for you or her. Your family is in my prayers

Yes you are doing the right thing, she has to do whats best for her and it will be slightly easier if she has your support. Im totally against abortion but I was there 100% when my friend chose to have one my veiws dont come into it then she had her reasons and I would rather support her than see her go through it on her own.

I think you did the right thing by supporting her. I am completely against abortion but it sounds like she has a more serious matter going on right now as well. I would just stay by her side and keep giving words of encouragement.

Personally I am against abortion EXCEPT in a few cases and one of those is where the pregnancy will endanger the mother's life. This seems to be the case here. In any case... I am also not one to push ANY of my beliefs on anyone but I just thought I would give you my opinion since you asked.

Am I doing the right thing by supporting her decision? It kills me to think that she is carrying another grandchild of mine but it is her body and she has to think what is best for the situation she is in now. What do you all think? Yes linda you ARE doing the right thing..She has obviously made up her mind AND did it logically, thinking it through etc etc JUST LIKE YOU JUST DID...so yes, rather than trying to talk her out of it and risk ruining your relationship etc, do what any wonderful mother would do and SUPPORT HER CHOICE... I applaud you for doing this in the biggest of ways I really do!! Even though you are opposed to abortion here you are being a great mom and doing what is in YOUR DAUGHTERS best interest...That must be very hard for you feelign the way you do about abortion ya know..Kudos to you!!

Your doing the right thing by supporting her decision. Like you I am against abortions but if its going to make her sick if she does carry this baby then maybe its the best thing she should do. If she wouldn't get sick then I say she should carry it even if she needs to give it up for adoption. There are many families out there looking for children which I'm sure you already know. Sorry you guys have to go through this. good luck I hope everything turns out ok.

I would never have an abortion. But on the other hand, some people have situations on their hands and that my be the way they have to do it. I think tha tyou are doing right by supporting her if it is life threatening to her.

The best situation for her would be to have an abortion, or have the new baby adopted (if it is against your belieft for abortion). I can honestly feel you pain because I was in your daughter position before. It is best that she concentrate of taking care of her first child who needs her mother more. She made a good choice and you also made a wsie choice to support her. She made a wrong choice, but since she came to you for help and support it is great that you still have that honesty and open communication line between you and your daughter. Best of luck and I wish the best for you and your daughter. Being there for her regardless of of her actions- is already one of the best gift you can give her and your granddaughter. Good luck.

It sounds like a difficult situation, but you are correct in that all you can do is support her. It sounds like she has put a lot of thought into this decision, like you I don't believe in abortion but when her life could be put at risk because of it- it becomes a different story. My thoughts are with you.