Do you easily say YES if your friend asks you to help her/him EVEN YOU CANT?

That is a very good discussion Manya.I just cannto say No.The first word that comes to my mouth is OK No problem ,though that habit has landed me in so many problems in the past.But habits die hard.Aren't they?

In the past, I have overcommitted myself. Now, I don't want to get a reputation as a "flake," or someone who is irrepsonsbile. So, I try to just say "I will see what I can do." And get back to them. Or something like, "Hey, don't count on me, but I will certaily try to be there..." and then explain what else is going on. Sometimes I just need time to recharge my own batteries, too.

im guilty of it, i say yes first and then regret it, i cant always help lol blessed be

I think honesty and trust play a big part in friendships and relationships and if you're not in a position to help a friend, then you should be open and honest about the fact. It's better to admit that you can't help than to fail them, and destroy the trust between you. Ok, you might need help in the future, but when asked a favour by a friend, this should be furthest from your mind. You don't help others so that they help you. It's nice if they do, but your help isn't your friend's debt. So, I think I would come down on the side of honesty if I couldn't help. If you think you might be able to help with a bit of effort, then by all means, tell them that you'll try your best but you're not sure whether things will work out done your way. This will also ensure that they don't bank on you too heavily and become upset if you can't make it through. But, they will appreciate your effort. Brightest Blessings.

If I can help friends out, then I will, I cannot help friends out financially as I am not in a position to do so, plus helping financially is sometimes the quickest way to end a friendship!! I have the same problem in that I am always on hand to help a friend out, but whenever I need some help then not a friend in sight!! One of the reasons that I do not have too many friends.

i feel that by nature i am a person who is willing to help a family or a friend. helping people close to my heart makes me feel good and proud of myself that i am capable of helping others. when someone would ask me if i could help them i would of course help them with in reason. i would say, sure what can i help you with?. but, if i do feel that i cannot help them complete that specific task then i would say that i cannot make any guarantees that i could help them 100%. i feel that it doesnt matter whether you can do it 100% or not as long as you are doing your best to help that person. sure there might be other people that can do it better than you but your being asked to help out someone. and its only right to help. but if i feel that i cant help out that person because i know that its beyond my capabilities then i would decline or offer an alternative and say i could help you look for someone who knows this craft or that.

hi manya! i used to. but now i value my time alone and my time with my husband. so i consider now if and when i can help. i try to keep my word as much as i can and so i dont want my friend to be left hanging if i cant comply with her needs. so i might as well be frank so that he or she can still find help elsewhere. but of course, as much as i can, i still try to help out. i just dont like breaking my word just because i am too busy. good day to you! :)

actually, yes. i am always doing that and it is always hard for me to say no to friends, actually. but if what my friend is asking for me would be really difficult, i will really tell them / him / her that i cannot really do it for him/her now and would be glad to do something else that i can. i have learned my lesson about these stuff and i do not want to be put into a situation like that already.

Earlier I was used to say yes if any friend asks for help even though I was not sure whether I could give him any assistance or not. I always felt embarrassed to refuse him. I always felt uneasy after saying yes but actually was no. I don’t want to have such awful and miserable feeling so later on I learn to say no if I really couldn’t give any help to him and ask for apology then.

If I am asked and I can help some, even 30-40% I will explain that is all I can do and let them decide if they want the help. Sometimes just the company makes the job go easier.

I usually still do it. I try to find time to do the favors that my friends would ask me. I think in those little ways I can repay them from being true to me..

I always try to help my friend as much as I can and if its not onehundred percent I still have tried and I will keep helping him until he is out of whatever problem that he was in. Friends are friends and they should help each other every chance they have when ever they can.

Yes, I often offer a yes even I can't manage to help that person before. Thus sometimes it's quite a mess for me, becasue I had to deal with my things and that person's problem at the same time. Now, I learn to say no. I do not mean I am not willing to help others even I just can do little. I am saying if I am too busy to help that person, I prefer to give a no. Because if I say yes before but do nothing later, it definitely will affect your relation with him/her. But I am always willing to help if I could. Just think about how desperate I am when I am in need and no one comes, I will offer them my hand.

If my friend let me help him,i would say yes! If i can not help him,i will be honest to tell him that i can not help! But i will try my best!

I'll do the same.. I'll at least tell yes that will give some confidence to my friend....

I try to help out all my friends when they ask. I always try. If I honestly cant then I will tell them no sorry I cant this time and they understand.