How much stress can you take?

well it isnt easy to leave but sometimes you gotta to do what you gotta do you can only take so much stress i am my ex split up about 5 yrs ago and its wasnt an easy task it broke my heart because of my self loving him but not able to stya and i hurt for my kids also

I can understand the stress in a marriage,i think i will try to bear with my spouse and understand him, and adjust myself.I can not change the spouse facilely because i love my kids,and i like one word which is abou the marriage,that is, don't draw hands facilely and don't loosen hands facilely after draw hands.

My marraige has always been my sanctuary. The tough times we have been through, I could not have gotten through without my husband standing with me to support me and vice versa. I believe that marriage, as well as life, is what you make it. There was a time when I focused on only the bad times. The only things I seemed to see or remember were the moments when my husband snapped at me or when we argued. I didn't remember or focus on the good times or the happy things. It almost disolved my marraige and my own happiness in life. Then I began focusing on the good times. I started letting the bad moments just fade away after they were gone. The more I focused on the good, the more good we had both in our marraige and in our lives. My husband is my best friend. And I am so happy we chose to work at our marraige and our happiness. I know this will not work for everyone. Sometimes it is not healthy or safe to remain in a disolving relationship and life is too short to be unhappy all the time. If you have given it your best shot and done all you can to make things better and it still isn't working then you have to decide when it's time to let go, but you should only do this when you are sure because you don't want to look back and wonder what might have been if only you had tried.