what do you use brains or heart?

obviously, we use our brains. we think when we love. if we feel when we love then that is not love ,one only feels romantic. usually, people ask why do you love that person and there is usually attached to it. if there is none then be careful that is not love.haven't you noticed that the brain is positioned above the heart because it dictates if its going to beat or not.

when we fall in love, mostly we use our hearts at first. hehe and then when we are in the middle of the relationship, when we use our hearts, we have to use our minds with it too... we need to balance everything.. too much use of heart can hurt us, too much use of brains may cost us our loves and life that we have hoped for.

i think most we need to use is the brain because i noticed that i use most is my heart, i really get in trouble..the relationship will not really work for me because i love the person more that my self, and he always take advantage on me..and i'm sure it's not right because loving a person need to have love and respect to yourself as well..

i think once you fall in love you tend to listen to your heart more and you don't rationalize most of the time.love is sudden and it involves feeling so using your heart in such matters can't really be questioned.and i feel that at times flowing with the current does prove beneficial since love is the ultimate feeling one can experience.but when you decide on the partner and it's a thought out idea to start dating someone one tends to use his mind then thinking of all such practical issues like the background and how you want your partner to be.

I use my brain but when love come the heat rules.

most of the time we really dont used our mind when we are inlove. its always our heart thats why if love is wrong already we can still think because we are still inlove. we can only realized it when we are hurt and finished already. anyways, love is really blind.

i think we need to use both, use your heart to explode what you have inside & use brain to show how you really inlove or what really you feel for your partner.

They say love is blind. When in love, everything is ruled by the heart and every decision made is follow the heart. But when the relationship goes into more serious commitment, best to use our brain.

Dear panther04, I think it is an intriguing and romantic idea that we humans have employed over centuries, that we can isolate parts of our being, (heart, brain, spirit or "essence"), and use them independently like choosing a crayon from a box to color our lives. The fact is of course, that though we think of our hearts as our emotional center, the brain is where it all comes from. As a poet, I do it all the time when I write, using the words heart, mind, soul, etc. to express meaning. I do understand that what you are really asking is, "is it wiser to follow cues from my emotional self or my logical self in matters of love?". I am a woman with some years of experience in life and love. If your question is a serious one, I will try to give you the best advice my own experience can afford you. Here goes- Use it all! A carpenter doesn't think he can build a house with only a hammer. A doctor cannot diagnose and cure with only a magnifying glass and an aspirin. An artist can't paint a portrait with just a brush, nor a poem with a single word. I say use every sense, every emotion, every tool, every "color" in your crayon box! Think of your relationship as a picture of a rainbow in a coloring book. Use your emotions, (heart), like crayons to make it beautiful . Use your logic, (brain), to make you stay inside the lines-------- There is no simple answer to your question, but that's what works for me. smiles, ink

i always used my brain than my heart. heart is put below our brain because don't know the real one that we are going to love that is why the brain is there to decide. i don't let my heart decide itself, it's always my brain.

Hmmm.... I guess I use my brain first. My brains feed all his good and bad qualities first then it goes to my heart to feel if I can stay with this person regardless of his good/bad attitude. hehe... So, both, we need to use both so that we can make the right decision for us.