Teenagers!

Maybe something hapenned to her at school. When I had arguments with my friends, I came back home really cranky. Or maybe she has new friends with bad influence and maybe they told her about the teenage revolution against chores lol. Right now, all you can do is to talk and find the problem. You can work out if you don't know what the problem is.

ok try to give her some space...then when she want to go somewere or wants something...ask here "first,tell me why your acting like this??" or take her out to the movies or for new clothes...but this will all pass and u will figure out whats wrong...im sure you have had these moments too...

Tips? hang in there and pray lots, she is probably getting ready to cycle soon, although this could go on for a year, it did w/ my daughter, like dr jeckel and mr hyde. She is getting her independance, trying to see what she can and cant get away w/. Stay strong on her getting her chores done or she will think she can get away w/ other things. Welcome to the wonderful world or teenagers, try to look at her in a different perspective, as a young woman trying to figure who she is, and when she acts totally unaceptably, let her know that. This is a phase. this time will pass and she will be the wonderful child you have grown to love again. If may not be real soon. sorry to have reality hit there but it will happen. Good luck

well it coud be she is ready or its just because she is ready to get the teenage you see once she hits 13 things will change to what you said when she answered i dont know thnigs will get a littl worse in come time with the attitudes to i dont know if you seem like you gottan more if you have it will only get wore if you have it is to come so i warn you be ready i know i have 6 daughter well 3 step i consider my own and 3 of my own 5 of them are teenagers so i know how these things work im a smart dad catcha later good luck

Well she might be going through the I want more independance moment. Are you always with her or is she alone/with friends out of school? She may be just confused herself or may have felt some pressure from friends?

Try to give her more time alone, maybe is because she share the room and she thinks she don't need to do that shores, this is just a step in her life.

Just because her actual cycle hasnt started doesnt mean her hormones arent in an uproar ya know...My daughter has started hers (several months ago)and though its still not regular she was PMSie long beforehand...Its possible thats whats oin on with your girl

Welcome to having a 'tween. That fun age before they become a full on teenager. It is hard for them because they are "too old" for so many things and "too young" at the same time. There is also a lot going on hormone wise especially for girls. You have a lot mood changes at this time along with trying to rebel. We went through this with my one niece who is now almost fourteen but my brother is finding out with his daughter its the same thing, she's going to be thirteen this summer. My suggestion is not to let her get away with things. You don't want to make everything a fight but you want to let her know that certain behaviors are not acceptable. It won't be easy but it will get better. It just takes time.

Hi keasling, Your daughter is on the verge of being a teenager, and it's often a very difficult time. Give her some space, and don't be too angry with her. You are the adult here, remember that she is still a child with a lot of things to work out. Just continue to be a loving mother, and make sure she knows that she can come to you with all her problems, big or small. Blessings.

She is on the verge of teenage so she is going to have some hormonal fluckuations which will upset her and you too probably. I would pick my battles with her and nix some that are not too awful then make it clear what you expect and keep your temper with her as she goes into the terrrible teens. remember when shewas at the terrible twos wellit was a phase and so is this and she is as confused as you are. be firm but also be patient and remember your own teens also.

Please check out her friends throughly! Many times the influence of others is just too much...From your post I'm understanding that you are always there for her, at home, in school, and that's a good thing but many times things can be going on right under our noses and we haven't a clue...being a Mom is the hardest job in the world and remember that "Kids do not come with a book of instruction!" Take it easy, breath in through your mouth and out your nose...count while breathing, it'll relax you a bit...whatever you do, don't get into an all out screaming match with her, you'll lose and nothing will be accomplished. I feel for you, been there, done that!! I am at work right now but would like to share my heartbreaking Mother/Daughter story with you and the Lot...Remember me, I will soon share :-) ~G~