O.k. I've Had Enough!!!!!

Take me with you! My children are nine and eleven and the bickering is driving me absolutely insane. I swear, neither of them can say one word without the other telling them how wrong they are. They're arguing within fifteen minutes of waking up. Sometimes I drag the laptop in my bedroom and hide, but they just come bang on my door. They worst thing about having them only 17 months apart is having two preteens at once!

I remember those days. I raised three kids by myself...worked two jobs and still had to housework..cooking etc. But my girls really helped out! They just about raised their brother. Though I did get child support it was $80.00 a month!! That didn't go very far but I did get it. My family didn't live around here either so I just did it alone. My parents however took the kids for a week in the summer. And believe it or not I would miss them so much I could hardly stand it! You should tell hubby that he can watch the kids for just a bit and you could got somewhere and have a coffee all by yourself! Or soda whichever you like....just sit...sip and relax!

You know, lady, I used to feel the same way once in awhile. Now however, my kids are grown and gone, and my husband and I are alone. I'd give anything to go back and have the kids home again. Enjoy what you've got while you have it, because it won't last forever!

Well I don't have any kids so I can't really say I know how you feel but I can imagine. My husband and mother drive me crazy sometimes themselves. I don't think I could handle children on top of that, lol.

If you need a break, take one. Get out of the house. Are you a stay at home mom? You need your freedom too! I go to a Yoga class 4+ times a week for an hour. It is my salvation. If I didn't have it, I would lose my mind. My husband encourages me to go because it keeps me happy and level headed, he says its cheaper than therapy, lol. I have no idea how the "supermoms" do it, because I know I couldn't. I feel so much envy for these women that can stay home with their kids 24/7. I love my son more than anything, but I could never stay home 24/7, we would both go crazy.

Sometimes I do take a break. In fact, I take a break every day when I go to the gym lol! How old are your kids? I'm not against taking a 'mommy time out' either and locking myself in the bedroom - effectively locking OUT the kids for a few minutes. Don't worry, none of them are little enough to get into any serious trouble without me. Generally you have to remember to take each situation one step at a time. Instead of trying to accomplish 10 things at once, willy nilly all over the place, do it first come first serve. If you are trying to finish up one thing and all the kids come milling around you asking and demanding stuff, explain that you will help them in order when you are done with what you're currently doing. Same with hubby, he's an adult, he should understand the concept of waiting a couple minutes. Remember to take a breath now and then. Redirect, separate, re-engage with the kids. Try to remain calm.

i can totally understand what you mean... yes, we need a break sometimes and we just have to go away from everything and have some peace time by ourselves... i will definitely go out from the house if i feel that i can't take it anymore and just have a time off... either i go shopping or take a walk by myself... hope you will feel better... take care and have a nice day...

Well, I don't know how old your children are,but if they are over 5 they should be able to help some. Plus, I believe that your husband should be helping out too. I understand how crazy things can get as I work outside the home, sell on ebay, do several sites online to make money,and homeschool my kids. It can get crazy here but I think that I always can talk to my husband and get him to help me some. Maybe you should just tell your husband that you need a few hours alone and go somewhere by yourself or with friends and let him keep the kids.

That is a very bad situation and there must be several millions in the same spot. I don't have the best family life ever but I can understand what you're going through. It is difficult but I am sure something will change if you want them to change. You would be surprised at how much power you really have once you know how to use it.

take a sabatical away from it all everyone wants to at one point and time. Nothing wrong with it and it is natural to want to do for yourself once in a while.wew all get that way even your husband who has to go all the time and work all hours of the day. you might find that he would love to sit at home for a change. Just talk about it before its to late and you do blow up. If he loves you he will understand

You have read my mind!!!!I feel the same way...Kids running and fighting..Husband putting a lot of extra things to do on my things to do list...I don't no wether to scream ,pull my hair or just run away for maybe a few days!

I am no supermom, but I've got 5 kids, including a 3 month old who's teething. I swear this whole week he has done nothing but scream his head off and my husband is working 6 days this week from 8am to 9pm. I have no help because we have no family or friends in this area. I must just be used to all the stress from doing this for so long, but sometimes I do feel like I am going to blow up. I have had to put the baby upstairs at least once a day and just let him cry while I calm down. It's not that easy with the other kids who will just not stop even when you're at boiling point. Just gotta keep reminding yourself, only X more hours until they're in bed and it's finally me time!

I'm with you on this one. I was just thinking this earlier, I need a break before I lose my mind. I am a stay at home mother so my husband thinks I can juggle 100 things a day on top of taking care of our little girl. It is a non stop job but we need a break ever now and then too!!

Well darlin I have been there done that. I would suggest that you always make a little time for yourself. Even after the children go to sleep dont just go and pass out, Take a nice long bubble bath and relax! (calgon take me away ) Try telling hubby to do some things for himself. The June Beaver days are over lol. Communication is the best asset that any mother/wife can have. Plan out the days with your children and remember they want to do some fun things as well, so maybe if you have errands after those they can go to the park and unwind some of thier bottled up energy. I hate to say it I think most of us moms are so busy with everyday life that we tend to forget our children need to be children. I use to do one on one time with my kids, each week it would be mother and child day rotating them. Just like us they also need a break from one another as well. Always take that time for yourself it is okay to be selfish for your sanity. Good luck and many blessings!