Tomboy - what would you do?

Of course not leave her be id never change anything about my children not to suit me let alone anyone else! My eldest is 4 and a tomboy but her little sister she is as girly as they come and a complete drama queen to boot! How they behave what they like to wear makes them who they not a chance id change a single thing

Why do you feel you need to make any changes at all? We're all different and don't all have the same tastes, don't mature at the same rate, etc. I see nothing wrong with her not wanting to dress up and wear makeup - she's 10! I say let her go to do what she wants. She should be expected to dress appropriately for whatever the occasion is (family holiday, etc), but other than that, who cares? If you're tired of people telling you to make her into something she's not, then why do you think she would feel any different about YOU telling her?

HELL NO! leave that child be damn it!!!!! *shakes a finger at you* There is NOTHING wrong with being a tomboy, I'm a tomboy through and through, so is my girlie (though she kinda takes it to the extreme LOL but I think I know why)....Bottomline Mare as long as she's growing up to be a good person with kindness and compassion and as long as she is doing well in school, behaving at home and in life etc who cares how she dresses ya know...Leave her well enough alone or I'm sickin my tomboy daughter on ya Next time I'm in Roch I should have you bring the kids to Ames place...your girl would get along great with my two and her boy LOL

Not to worry! My daughter was very similar! She even refused to let me wash her hair more than 2x a week! She's 12 now and although she is still very active (she's a black belt in Taekwondo) she has started to "change." Now she washes her hair everyday and uses up all the hot water! She doesn't wear makeup but I did buy her a pink Hollister t-shirt and she said it was OK. (She's always hated pink) She will come around when she's ready and then you might want the tomboy back (I do sometimes). Be careful what you wish for!LOL

As a former tomboy myself, please leave her alone. I became girly when I was ready. I'm still not real girly but I like myself and I raised my boys to be great people--their father couldn't be bothered to do much with them and wasn't a good example. Because I had played sports and climbed trees and such as a girl, I was able to do all that with them and it certainly didn't compromise my femininity any. Likewise, your 6yr old is fine the way she is. We're all different and our childhood prepares us the things that happen to us as adults. Had I been anything but a tomboy, my boys would probably be the worse for it. Good health and happiness to you and your family! I know parents are always assailed with doubts, but you're doing fine!

Hi mare. You're not wrong.I think it would be wrong to force her to be something or someone society deems acceptable.As long as shes not being distructive let her be.I have a cousin that was the same way and she grew out of it,the first time i saw her in a dress i was speechless.There is no written rule that says she has to be a girly girl.

My 5 year old grandaughter is the same way. I think she figured out that boys have more fun.She hates pink, loves athletics. My daighter put her into a karate class, which she loves. I told my daughter to teach her that girls can do anything boys can. I also advised her not to make a big deal out of it. I believe in letting a child be what he is. Forcing girlieness on her will not make her change. Enjoy her the way she is and ignore well meaning but ignorant people!

I wouldn't worry about it now shes still young and once she gets into boys then she will start to change more. Shes young let her have fun and tell other people that your letting her be her own person and when she is ready for change then you will stick to her decission. Its not like she is doing anything wrong. Tell them maybe they should be worrying more about their own children then others.

Hi Mare, You are absolutely right! Your daughter is only ten years old, and she will change when she is ready. You cannot make her into a girl until she is ready for it, without her being angry with you, and I'm sure you don't want that. Let a child be a child and enjoy the things they love to do. Once she is grown you will never get those days back. Blessings.

If we push them into what we believe they should be, they will never be comfortable with themselves. My 2 daughters are both somewhat tomboyish. They're not into the skateboarding or such activites, but they're also not into dresses, makeup or other girly things. And they both like to beat up boys. LOL. I know eventually as their interests change and as they progress into the upper grades, they will start to care more about how they look and act. Right now though, I just let them be, with only a few words of encouragement toward the girly stuff now and then.

Nope, don't push her to become someone she is not. Help her to be comfortable being the person she was born to be. Pink dresses and made up faces do not make a person a girl. My mom is 40 some years old, she rarely wears pink(only to make the grandkids happy) and doesn't wear make up( unless its done by me and is VERY light), yet she is the best woman I know. She's in a very loving relationship with a MAN, so she is definitley not g@y. She has raised me to be who I am, whoever that happens to be, and successfully raised two boys as well. I have three girls of my own, one is very girly, and likes the make up and all that. One is a tomboy to the fullest, the skate board, cutt off jeans and tossing a ball with the neighborhood boys. And then my little one who is a beautiful collection of both. SHe loves her pink, but don't try to take that foot ball away from her. Our jobs as mothers is not to force our little ones into a mold society has created for them. It is too help them learn who they are, then help them become comfortable enough with that person to live their lives to the fullest. Peace and blessings!!

Well, if I were you, leave her as she is. She will change in her own way when time comes. I remember I was like her when I was at her age. My mom didn't push me to change. Don't listen to what others will say listen to your daughter.

My mom bit*ch and complain about me when i was younger too. I was a tomboy until about 7th-8th grade, then i finally wanted to slowly change. By grade 12 i was a girly girl! lol But its a slow process.... Let her take her time and enjoy life, if she wants to be a tomboy thats cool lol. At least you dont have to worry abou the guys lol.... Either way as young adults/kids, we are stuborn! If wanna dress this way or that way, we will do it. Let your child take your time, dont worry about it to much. She will change in time. Its just a faze!

I think your daughter sounds wonderful. When my dauaghter had her first birthday her uncle gave her a trusck. Everyong thought he was awful, but I thought it was a great idea. They all grow up too quickly, let her be herself for now.

LOL, I wouldn't worry about it too much...Both my daughters were huge tomboys when they were younger. My younger daughter was actually so frilly and girlie not wanted to be ever dirty until she was about 6 or 7. Then all of a sudden, she plays in the dirt, loves baseball, skateboarding hated pink, etc. Now she is grown with her 4th baby on the way, still hates pink but is a great mother, grown her hair longer again and is very feminine. Both daughters still love sports and cheer on the pro baseball and hockey leagues and are not afraid to get out there and help their kids play and practice too. The both wear tiny amounts of make up at times now. Yep 10 years old s a great age. Let them play how they want. Once they are a bit older and 'discover boys' then it is a whole new ball game. Then you NEED to sit up and take notice!

NO!! Let her be what ever she wants!! If she was smoking or cussing I'd say STEP IN, but As the mother of a 11 year old tomboy, I assure you she will be fine. i have dealt with all the questions; is she gay? will she grow out of it? And many more. People call her a boy all the time, I just say "HER" or "SHE" and go on. She wants to have short hair and from time to time I let her. She shops in the boys dept for clothes, and all I got to say is THANK GOD I don't have to worry about her wearing hoochie momma pants!! Accept your daughter for who she is!

Gosh, no. Always allow your children to be themselves, parents' jobs are to GUIDE their children...not mold them to the image that they or others desire. Creativity and your kids learning who they are...should be encouraged. If she's a tomboy, let her be a tomboy. She's so young anyways! There's no gaurentee that either of your daughters will stay girly or tomboyish into their teens..they could both switch those roles later in life, it's definitely possible. Anyway, "they" are not the best people to listen to, "they" tend to be idiots in my opinion -- no offense to anyone you know, since I'm speaking very generally. Trust your own instincts. As the saying goes, "The wise man speaks little, and the fool speaks too much." -- that's the general population for you, heh. Let your kids be themselves. As their example, you can do them a big favor by not bowing to peer pressure yourself =)

Who is to say that she is not being a girl? That is what girls need to do, to stay fit! It is so disgusting to see little girls trying to be sexy and wearing make-up and nail polish! Most of that stuff is toxic and it can really harm little kids! Their bodies are smaller and they need to run and play hard so they can be fit, not fat like most adults!

Let her be who she is. I know a fantastic woman who is a tomboy still and she is 29. She just had her first child she is a great mother, fantastic person, and very caring. She works with special needs children and adults for a living. She is very active and healthy, has a healthy body image, which is so important for girls. Tell people to butt out your daughter is happy with who she is and you love her no matter what. Don't force changes on her encourage her gently, but never force. She may not be ready to make any changes in who she is. As long as she is healthy and has good friends and you support her no matter what she will turn out just fine.

your daughter is still 10 years old and she still has her whole life ahead of her. maybe when she reaches puberty she will be more girly and leave the traces of her being a tomboy. it's just a phase and i'm sure she'll get over it. she's still young.