which of the two statements will you choose?

United States
April 30, 2008 7:54pm CST
"I love you because I need you" or "I need you because I love you" Personally for me, I will choose the second statement " I need you because I love you".and this statement is the one I always love to hear from my husband, It's more romantic for me.How about you? Which one do you prefer to say or hear from your partner? I know we have different views about this, so, let's start sharing our wonderful thoughts!
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
Hello checapricorn, I think I prefer the second statement. If he loves me because he really, really needs me ... I will be the happiest person in life. That shows that he is really sincere and honest towards me. My husband doesn't like to show his feelings openly but being his wife, I understand him. As long as I know that he loves me and I do love him, that's just wonderful enough.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
Hi gr8life, I agree with you...second statement is the sweetest to hear and it will really melts our heart! LOL! Thanks for sharing!
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
4 May 08
Definately the second. I can't imagine it is really love if you love someone because you need them. I would be upset if my husband said the first to me.
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• United States
4 May 08
Exaclty, it sounds very unreal and conditional!Thanks for dropping by ladym!
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@joimarquez (1836)
• United States
1 May 08
i agree with you. i choose the second one too...i need you because i love you...
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• United States
1 May 08
hello joimarquez, thanks for posting! Have a great time!
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
1 May 08
i need you because i love you because i don't think i can face the day and my day wouldn't be completed without him
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• United States
1 May 08
Thanks for sharing rhane! Happy posting!
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@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
1 May 08
i actually agree with you big time there!
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• United States
1 May 08
hello athinapie, thanks for sharing! Happy posting!
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• United States
1 May 08
"I need you, because I love you" When you love someone the need to be with that person is sometimes overwhelming. Love comes first and need comes from wanting companionship, advice and sharing. Tosemary decosales
• United States
1 May 08
I agree, it's more real and sincere feelings! Thanks for sharing Tosemary!
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@jayalaksmi (1039)
• India
1 May 08
I too will choose the second statement "I need you because I love you". This statement symbolises that you love your partner not for anything but for the feeling towards that person.
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• United States
1 May 08
right on jayalaksmi! Happy posting!
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
1 May 08
"I love you" is not something which I say easily because I take it very seriously. I do not like needy girls and I do not consider being needy as a positive trait. I do not like to say I need you to anyone. I might say I love you and when I do that I am sure to mean it.
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• United States
1 May 08
I respect that opinion underdogtoo! Thanks for dropping by!
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 May 08
I would Just say "i Love u" as its complete sentence and If u love some one then other things are not important
• United States
2 May 08
hmmm....got also a valid reason cupid! other things will follow as long as love is there! thanks for dropping by!
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• United States
2 May 08
You're welcome cupid, I always respect other's opinion since I am very much aware we have different culture and orientation in life! What may work for me may not work for you, as long as we are here to enjoy, that matter most! Cheers!
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 May 08
Thanks for agreeing it and sure i like to comment on ur discussions Take care
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
2 May 08
hello checapricorn, this is one easy question LOL my choice is like yours and i guess the most - "i need you because i love you" i think the sentence already express how i feel and how my hubby feel. it always makes me teary eyes whenever he says i am his everything and that he needs me to live., i think though we have been in a almost 5 years relationship we already have been through a lot and i know that he have given so much for me and i am grateful for all that he is to me. anyway to answer your other question, I LOVE EVERYTHING my hubby says to me, sometimes he says it in a silent way too and it sure makes a different level of love and romance as well. i think the fact that i love everything about my husband makes me love the best and the worst in him and though he can say the dumbest thing sometimes, i still love the kid in him coz that makes him the man he is now. the man i love and the man i want to spend the rest of my life with. takecare and keep the love alive.
• United States
2 May 08
Thanks for the inspiring words from your real story jairgirl! Stay in love and I know you will..Have a great time!
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@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
2 May 08
you're very much welcome, i have a feeling that you are as happy as i am so im sure your story is base on real story as well, haha. kidding aside i am happy that i know someone here who do knows what it is really like to be in love and love. takecare and have a great night
@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
3 May 08
ammm can i choose both well if you ask me i choose "i need you because you needed me" but your asking for those 2 so i choose hhhhhmmmmmmmm i love you because i need you....
• United States
4 May 08
Hello carinio, I don't have any blog site! this is the only site I am joining!
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• United States
3 May 08
Hello carinio, Thanks for the response and I will not ask anymore for your reason for choosing that,I know whatever it is, it is valid enough!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
3 May 08
yep a valid reason for the whole family.... can i ask a question if you dont mind? do you have a blog site or blog page? if you have then tell me if you are earning in you blog page.
@popocan (222)
• Hong Kong
1 May 08
The first statement sounds no love to me. If my partner says "I love you bcos I need you", I would think that he's after me for something. There must be a purpose behind. I would much prefer the second one :)
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• United States
1 May 08
I agree popocan! More genuine and real, the second one! Thanks for dropping by!
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
6 May 08
"I need you because I love you" Because these phrase would mean that he wants you in his life truly and looking forward to spend the rest of your life with him. That is what I want to hear from my man. For better or worst, he would still need me because he still loves me. Cheers!
• United States
6 May 08
You got it jes...thanks for sharing! That would be the sweetest thing we always want to hear from our man and they want to hear from us!
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• Philippines
8 May 08
Yup, what a nice word coming from someone we really love!
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
1 May 08
I would choose the second statement as well. "I love you becasuse I need you" seems more like you are in the relationship out o dependancy on another person, regardless of who it is, you just happen to love them. "I need you because I love you" means(at least to me) that you want and need them around to share things with, to show affection to, and to enjoy time with them. I would prefer to hear the second statement as well. The first one is accurate in some ways, for instance he can't make grilled cheese without alerting the local fire department. The second statement is also accurate though, Im not sure what I would be doing if he were not in my life. Something retarded and not professional, im sure.
• United States
1 May 08
Hello Adelida, Thanks for your response and sharing your wonderful thoughts! Happy posting!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 May 08
i love the second one for all obvious reasons. the person needs me because he loves me. for his love for me, he thinks he can't stay without me. its nice.
• United States
14 May 08
I agree subha, more intimate and more sincere feelings rather than the second statement! Thanks for dropping by!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
1 May 08
I agree with you I would also choose the second statement "I need you because I love you". Love is felt within and need is rather a by product of love.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
2 May 08
You are welcome! I enjoyed reading responses to your post and post itself.
• United States
1 May 08
I agree, Needing not because of something else but by pure love! Thanks for sharing dpk!
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@babymar (359)
• Philippines
1 May 08
i need you because i love you.....it is so sweet, i love hearing that from my fiance, it makes me feel special....
• United States
1 May 08
Hello babymar, thanks for dropping by! I also find it more genuine rather than the first one!
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@babymar (359)
• Philippines
2 May 08
yes, that's right...it means that he really loves you that's why he needs you......if you say i love you because i need you, it means that he don't really love you, he just needs you that's why he say he loves you
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
1 May 08
I prefer "I need you because I love you". That's love while "I love you because I need you" is not in my opinion. If one day I do not have that something you need, you won't love me anymore. I have to worry about that something always? No way. Thus, I would like to hear my partner say to me "I need you because I love you".
• United States
1 May 08
Correct chrissieatu! Its more of conditional love, the first one which makes it less meaningful!
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• China
3 May 08
I totally agree with you:-)
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
14 May 08
I think they are both good saying and I hope you and your husband are together for a long time,I would prefer to say and hear I need you because I love you because I love my fiance and I have loved her since I met and her,and if I didnt have her I wouldnt have anything and my life would be meaningless.
• United States
14 May 08
wow! That was so sweet! Thanks for your wish to my relationship to my husband, I can say,that we complete each other and very confident to say that we will really last lifetime! We both have the extreme care and love for each other! Have a great time hellcowboy and stay in love!
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@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
14 May 08
I would choose "I need you because I love you" because it shows that the person whom I love is needed and the reason is that I love that person...
• United States
14 May 08
Hi excellence, thanks for dropping by and i agree with you, the best reason to make life beautiful and worth living for is love! LOL! Cheers!
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