depression...

May 1, 2008 10:23pm CST
i have two step kids that i dont cope well with and a 1 and half year old that knows how to drive me up the wall.... im pregnant again and very confused about what happening to me.... i seem to be really depressed latly and cranky at every one all the time and i have become obsessive about the housework but at the same time really un motivated to do anything..... i havent yet been to the doctors to have them diognoes me with depression because im scared that if i leave my husband and take our babys that he will be able to ring the police and they will be able to take my babys off me if i have be clinically diognosed as depressed..... i need help i know that but im scared they will class me as an unfit mother if i am diognosed as being depressed and try to take my babys..... i was wondering if ayone has been in the same sort of position to be able to tell me how i go about this situation???
4 responses
• United States
6 May 08
I don't know where you live, but I live in the United States. I am a depressant and I have three children. I am not married to any of their fathers. None of their fathers can take them away from me just because I was clinically diagnosed as being depressed. I am on medication and it is controlled. You really need to go see a doctor about this as it could get worse. I know, because I almost killed myself right before I got help. If not for you, get help for your kids. You will be happier and so will they.
@ctyhhz (47)
• China
5 May 08
i just feel sorry about that ,but i can do nothing to help you.good luck
@LaurenR (54)
• United States
3 May 08
I haven't been in your situation, however I suggest talking to a psychologist. If there is depression, they can tell you how to go about it and what the next steps would be to break you out of it.
• United States
3 May 08
Most pregnant women are this way. I know I was. Every little thing bothered me, and it's normal for pregnant women to feel that way. Including after birth. I was diagnosed with Post Partum Depression because of my moods, and my reactions to things (very irratic). What country are you from? I know at least in the US, women diagnosed with depression during pregnancy is a norm. If you don't want to go tell your doctor's about you feeling this way, find some ways at home to make yourself feel better. Plan time each day to have yourself a moment of peace. Find a piece of chocolate, or if you don't like chocolate, research online foods that have endorphines. I know still, 9 months late, when I get into one of those "moods", I eat some chocolate, find a moment of peace or "zen" to collect yourself. Get a hair cut, or do something nice for yourself. I know you're probably saving up for the new baby, but taking care of yourself is just as important. Continue to post online, and make friends. They will improve your mood more than anything else. And don't blame yourself for feeling down, and unmotivated. Your body is chemically imbalanced, and you're going through many changes. I wish you the best of luck. And take care of yourself and your beautiful child!