Some what of an update on my mom

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She went from bad to worse and the doctors think it's her medicine that's doing it. Here's a copy of an email that I sent to a friend so you'll get the gist of what has been going down. I had to modify some of it so you'd understand. Yesterday: I'm so scared right now because mom isn't acting like herself. One moment she's fine and then the next she's delusional. She kept fighting an invisible string most of the two hours we were there. Her mind seemed to be in tact 'most' of the time. She swore there was a string tangled in her fingers even when we kept telling her there's nothing there but she'd talk about other things like she's in her right mind and few times not in her right mind. We left soon after Dad got there for we had things to do, Dad called me and said she fought him the whole time he was there. Dad calls back later and said the nurse called him to let him know that they tried to give her something to sleep but she wouldn't take it but they did get her to sleep finally. Mom had gotten a phone call earlier from a friend who told her not to take that sleeping aid (what ever one it was and for what ever reason, gotta find that one out.) Hubby and I think it's not the sleep aid but the other medicine she's on because she was delusional when we got there and she had taken a crushed pill from a nurse and soon after we had left and Dad said he had a hard time with her. So hubby and I think it's what ever that crushed pill was and not the sleep aid she was getting. Another thing, mom and dad just moved. So they haven't had time to get a Primary Care Doctor yet, Mom's favorite doctor is 4 hours away and she's talking to him and had him call the doctor that's caring for her to see what's going on. They've ran all kinds of tests and she didn't have a stroke and they all come out fine so they don't know what the hell is wrong with her so they think it'll ride itself out so they're going to send her to a rehabilitation center, more or less a nursing home. Hubby and I say, "what the hell good with that do when we don't know what's wrong?!?! It's just going to come right back or happen again!" I want to, so badly, yank her out of that hospital and take her to the one that her favorite doctor is because he saved her life once and I just know he's the best for her. She loves him dearly and trusts him a great deal but dad is like, "Let's see how tomorrow brings and bla bla bla" but I don't want to because I'm afraid that if we wait too long it could be too late. Not to redirect the concern, so to speak, I'm the only family they've got here, my brothers and aunt are 3.5 hours north, My uncle is in Delaware, I'm severely hard of hearing and don't have any hearing aids, do you have any idea how hard it is for me to keep up? It's a true nightmare and I can't wake up. Now today, she was really combative towards dad and then at the nurses, yelling and demanding, when they all wouldn't let her get out of bed or when we tried to correct her on some things (other than that we'd agree with what she says). She has no strength and would fall to the floor and being delusional... you get the drift. She's so far out of her mind that it's not funny in the least. I've had to leave the hospital a couple of times just to get out to cry. It's so hard to see her in this state. She's such a strong woman and very independent and to see her in this condition really takes a toll on me. Anyway, the doctors, the one she loves is working with the doctor here by phone, have removed all her medications which I found out are, Ambien - a sleep aid and Valium to keep her calm which did the complete opposite and has been known to do that, and said that she should be back to her old self tomorrow morning. I so pray so!! We found out that Ambien is very dangerous and has been known to cause heart attacks. Lovely. Just lovely! WTH??? However, they believe she has an inner ear problem and is why she's dizzy which is called "Vertigo" and that it will be 2 weeks to months before it goes away. She has to go to a rehabilitation center for up to 21 days then she'll be coming home because that's all Medicare will pay for. Dear God in Heaven if she isn't well by then!! What are we going to do?!?! So in the meantime, I've got to help my dad figure out his bills so that he can get them paid. Both are retired and so they get retirement checks at the beginning of each month so all their bills are paid then just as ours are. I've still got ours to do but tomorrow I'm hoping to be at dads after visiting with mom a little while and try to get things straightened out with their bills. Oh God what a mess!! So please forgive me here, I won't be able to respond to any discussions for quite some time other than to maybe to give updates every now and then when I find the time. It's going to be overwhelming few weeks or even months for me and I'm not sure how I'll keep up but I have to some how. And I pray that my dad holds up too because he has a very weak heart. The doctors have told him he won't live through another heart attack. Hubby is going to see his mom for a few days tomorrow so it'll be just me and my dad so we really hope mom is back to normal but we know she'll still be dizzy because of the Vertigo. Again, hubby's mom is dying. She has a week maybe two. Want to hear something strange? Hubby and I lost our grandmothers one month apart. Strange that both our moms are in such dire straights. Very eerie and scary as all get out!! I'm sure my mom will pull through but gosh.... I think you get what I'm trying to say. Thank you to all of you for your thoughts and your prayers!! They're so very appreciated!! Please!! Keep them coming!!!! ((((Hugs))))