Mama's Health Problem and her wishes,

If she wants everything done possible to keep her alive, thats what we should do. I'd like to think that if I were in the same situation, and I had expressed my wishes that everything possible be done to save me, that my wishes would be followed.

If she has stated that you do all measures to keep her alive, then if it is within your powers, I would suggest you would honor it. If she has the will to live, then the best you can do is support her. I'm not sure if she talk and express her wishes, but I assume that she can. Until things change, like she goes on coma or life support, the decision with regards to her health care is ultimately hers. I think that as long as were lucid and coherent, every person should be given the chance to decide what he wants to do with himself, including how will he be treated when he is sick. I pray that your mother get well soon.

If the only reason she didn't want it done was because of the fact that it made her panicky, then the fact that she is sedated and already on the vent, the panic becomes a non-issue. If she wanted all measures taken and only changed course because of the panic of not being able to breathe and now the inability to breath is not a problem,i would have to carefully weigh what her wishes would be now.

I think we are doing the right thing.

Well, she did say anthing necessary to keep her alive. BUT how do you know it will help to keep her alive? And there is no guarentee she will make it through the surgery. How do we know GOD and Papa need her more than we do? HOw do you know when to let go? No matter what we choose to do she's gonna know we love her. How do we know they won't do the cath and then her lay there a few hours and pass anyway? But who wants to sit and watch her laying there like that. I feel so guilty not seeing her more, but i don't want to remmeber her that way. I want to rememeber her getting on to me for not bringing her boiled pnuts. I want to rememeber her sitting there fussing about nonsense stuff. I dont want my last memory to be one of her sitting there with all that in her. I feel REAl guilty about it, but it's something Im gonna have to deal with in time. I know I should probly feel another way toward it, but that's how I feel. There is no guarentee on anything. I know you know that though. I guess I haven't been much help, but just my opinion. Best opinion I can give you is to PRAy about it.