Manners

I just know whenever I visit a small town and take a walk down the streets the residents of the town always greet me. That is something that you will rarely see in a large city like Toronto. And I also find it rude whenever I keep the door open for someone, and they fail to thank me for it. Fortunately more times than not, I am appreciated but for the odd time, I think its rude and I have gotten to the point of yelling out "your welcome" anyway :)

The lack of manners can be linked to the lack of respect shown to people/things today.It feels like people are so interested in themselves and what they can do at that minute to benfit them right then and to heck with the consequences.I still have the bad habit my parents taught me of opening doors for ladies and the elderly(bad parents!!bad!) and when I receive a "thank you" it creates a springy step in my walk.

I live in Fairfax (going on two years now) and have not noticed that. I found many people are quite friendly, and when I smile, they smile back at me. I suppose it depends what area in Fairfax that happens. I'm in Vienna. There is the odd occasion when someone doesn't hold the door open for another, or jumps the queue when waiting for the bus and sorts though. When I use to go on my bike trail walks and jogs, everyone smiled at each other and said Hi or Morning or nodded their heads with a smile.

Actually, I have to say that here we have a pretty equal mix. There are some people here both young and old that are quite rude and lacking in manners. I have to also say that I am impressed not only by the older people but so many of the younger ones that I see that actually have very fine manners. I know what you mean tho. I have been in places where people are just not as friendly as others.

dfollin_ Oh, I love that thing when the man half stands when the woman walks in. It's so sexy. I live near a military post and the soldiers are trained to be polite. The people in town are somewhat polite. If they're rude, I go out of my way to be polite to them and flash them a great big smile. That usually does the trick.

Like you I am older and my parents brought me up proper. I just recently went to my sons school for a meeting and the teacher just kept on saying I can believe the manners your son has, my answer was "that is the way we are suppose to be". I am so bad with manners I will say something to a complete stranger if they do not use thiers. Example" Just the other night a woman was walking hastily by me and banged into me, I just said loud enough Excuse me then she turned around and looked at me and said I am sorry. My response was oh thats okay. I run a group home of mentally challenged individuals which all have beautiful manners, if another house visits and do not use thier manners I have no problem reminding them how important those manners are. Then you have the staffing, oh they make me crazy if one of the individuals says thank you they never respond with your welcome. I have to actually take the staff to the side and also tell them they need to use thier manners. My staff will constantly say why do you always have to say please and thank you it is my job, come on now. I have to explain that is a way of saying I respect and appreciate your hard work. I do not know where manners have disappeared too but I will continue my conquest to make sure that I remind all I am around, to use thiers.

Simple manners are so important. People aren't being taught them. My 3 yr. old grandson has better manners then most people I know. He says please, thank you, your welcome, excuse me, he even blesses us when we sneeze. I always hold the door open for people if I am the first person at the door, if someone holds it for me I say thank you. As I think about it, the people around here mostly do have good manners. Last week I held the door open for someone, he walked through the door without pausing, like he was some king. He never said thanks, smiled or nothing. I don't run into people like that too often. Its nice seeing you around, haven't seen you for awhile.

Manners varies in different parts of the world, but one thing that is common is that it shows respect to the opposite party. However, it seems tht with the advent of technology, the need for manners seems to be of less importance to people who are too caught up with their own daily lives, which is a real pity for social graces

I always use my manners not matter what.. Some people don't and I think it's rude but than again some people grew up no really knowing manners either so it's really not there faults.. When I go places even at home I say please and thank you, Have a great day things like that are always nice to hear from someone no matter what.. A person could be having a hard day and little words like those helps out alot.. I know it's happened to me a few times myself... It doesn't matter matter where you go though manners always should be used... Just my oppion!

They are pretty good here with most people. Actually it seems the younger men and boys are more mannerly than the older ones. Of course it just depends on how they are raised. Speaking of manners I saw on the news last night where this 19 y/o pulled and 81 y/o woman out of her car and beat her badly because she was driving too slow. It made me wonder what has the world come to.

It depends on the person here i think....I always speak and say hello and some do and some do.not..Some people have manners and some was totally left out when it came to manners...I am like you i love to see people who have manners,and are friendly...I guess you could say that most of the people where i live is pretty friendly...I could never imagine someone spesking to me and me look at them like they are crazy,but i am a friendly person and i like people..

Actually, today I found some good manners in the citizen of this city(Zhuhai,China). Before, I thought they are rude and know nothing about good behavior. Today, an middle aged gentleman held the door for me because I was taking some luggage. When I was on the bus, some youth gave their places to the old and to women carrying baby. I think it's great to see that. Of course now people do not pay that much attention to manners. Some even think being rude to be cool. I personally do not think so. No matter how others do, I just try to keep some of the manners I have learn and hope it would influence somebody.

I still believe that manners matter. But with our society now a days it so hard to find those "last of the mohicans" type of chivalry. Maybe because we see a lot of ill mannered celebrities that generation today thinks its cooler to act that way. But I believe home is where we should first learn manners. Parents should insist on teaching kids such stuff. But it would be harder if the parents themselves were not taught about such things as well.

Well I dont live that far from you, so the manners in Richmond are no different, there are just less of us down here. Your post caught my attention because I am actaully heading up to Loudon county tonight for a few days. I try not to go out too much up there, the traffic is unbearable in the late afternoon. As I drive through Fairfax Ill wave and say hi to you!

Well, the world now is more dynamic and theese are some of the bugs of the modern civilization: that we loose some of our good traditions. And then more, we loose our national indentity, some of theese small habbits and maners what make us unique. The old fashioned maniers are charming, i think. But some of them dont fit to the modern life and i dont know is this really good. Because we became more selfish, more cold, more brutal...:(

ohhh its getting worse too.. men have no respect for elders now and they are like non existent. people are less polite and less caring.. as if they live only for themselves.

they're pretty bad.a lot of people in town are self-serving anymore.they'll no more hold a door for a pregnant woman than stop at a crosswalk for the elderly.the kids in town are horribly rude and ill behaved,i wonder sometimes if it's just this town. once in a while i'll be surprised and some one will open the door for me,but it's rare.