Do you think children should be a part of the decision making in your family?

Most definitely!! We are parents to teach our children. How are they supposed to make good, sound decisions if they are never taught?

Yes, this is very valuable and a regular occurence in my family. I think it is extremely important to include the kids in any major decision. It gives them a taste of what life is really like, and helps them understand why things change when they do. When I first started dating my fiance, it was my girls who came to me and asked about him being around. As we got more serious and they started form a bond with him, they came to me and asked if they could call him dad. They knew their father and knew he wasn't their father, but felt a connection with him. I left it up to him and the kids. Well, now they are all so very close I wouldn't dare anyone to say they aren't his kids. If your feet didn't get stomped on by one of the kids, or your shins kicked, you'd get something from him as well. When we were trying to decide whether or not to move out of state, they were involved in the whole process. ANd when we decided to buy a house, they had the final say yes or no to the one we chose.

children although we think have no sensible reasoning should still be part of the decision making or at least their opinions should still be considered. i guess it will a good practice and will be beneficial to children in the future, by making them a part of discussion and asking their opinion we are teaching them the value of consulting anything to the family before doing it. this will also make them feel valuable and in return will value your decision and opinions when the time comes that they will be needing it.

Yes, I do think that this is a vital role for a child to play in a family. Obviously there are some issues that are beyond sharing with a child, but generally speaking, it makes the child feel like a valued member, it makes them know that their opinion counts and can teach a number of valuable lessons.

hello tjades, your family sounds like a perfect one, i know there is no such thing as perfect but i sure wish such thing happens in my family when i was a kid till now. anyway, to answer your question i dont have a kid yet but my husband and i believe that our kid should be bale to express himself and be part to whatever we do in life and in our family. we want our kid to know that we value their views and perspective in life. a kid who can express himself with no problem seems to grow with much more respect about life and others point of view as well. i feel that a kid who have such experience in family will not want to be always on the middle and push himself to hear what he says. such practice at home is so valuable and will make him a better person in the end. my husband and i would like our kid to reason and stand up for what is right and fight for it. we believe in freedom of speech and a kid should practice that as well. anyway, thanks for sharing such a wonderful and loving family of yours. it sure makes me wish to have one as well, oh well i can only hope to have it on my own in the future then. takecare and good night!

children should be a part of the decision making in family. It can help them to be independent in future life. They will know more about the real world, and they will treasure the happiness and unhappiness in later life. It will make them more success later.

absolutely... they are part of a family as well and as long as they are old enough to understand, they should be involved in discussions and have a say in making a decision in the family... this will help them to think maturely and grow up as well... my parents always involve me in the decision since i am a child and i grow up to be a responsible and much wiser person now... have a nice day...

childrens are childrens they should not be included in decesion making in our family matters..........if they are mature enough then they can be included......and their suggestions can be listend to .......

yes our boys were always included in Family conferences. Everyone had an input and it was a fun time for everyone. Kids like to feel needed and will do their best to help in any situation. Problems between parents are better solved in Private as Marriage is a private arrangement between 2 people.

Yes, I think allowing my girls to be a part of the decision making helped not only make us closer and helped them to feel more a part of things but it also helped in their decision making skills. Every thing i did affected them in some way so it was important for us to discuss things. Of course the final decision was mine but I always listened to and considered their thoughts. They also knew about my finances etc. Some people thought that was horrible but I will tell you, it was realistic and it helped them to understand why I could not buy certain things. Yes, family meetings occured pretty regular in our home.

Sounds like a beautiful thing tjades. Growing up my imediate family was small just my dad,sister,brother and me. But my dad also let us take part in some of the dicision making, and mostly called meetings when there was some dispute between us children. I do the same thing with my kids because i feel that they should at least have a say in anything that effects the family. I feel that this is valuble to a family's unity, the family works together when they know that they can have an imput in certain decision making.

i think children is surely to be a part of the decision making in your family. i am a child of my family,sometimes when the thing is related to me my parents will ask my view on that decision.but at most times they are always thinking that i am just a little boy knowing nothing! that's not equal.

To answer the question I absolutley feel like children should be a part of family decision making... to the point they are able to understand. Understanding where a child is coming from is essential to having a close relationship. When I was growing up, my parents included my brother and I in decision making that we were able to definitively contribute to. Even if it came to decisions that my brother and I could not yet make, they included us in most everything and allowed us to know what they thought we could handle. When I was 6 years old, my brother was 3 and my mom had just given birth to our baby sister. When she was 11 months old she was diagnosed with a rare form of childrens cancer. Our parents told us that she was sick and they were going to work closely with the doctors to try to make her better. We were always included at the doctors visits but they kept us away during the treatment, because watching what chemotherapy can do to a sibling can be frightening. They didn't want us to remember her that way. After many treatments and surgery's the conclusion was made that she would not win her battle with cancer. My parents told us that they had done everything they could and the doctors did everything they could, and she wasn't going to get better. She was coming home. When she came home we just enjoyed each others company and took a trip to disney, our last trip all together. They made it so special for us. My sister passed away at 23 months. I can honestly say, that I have such great memories of my sister that had my parents not included me in what was going on with her, I would have resented them. Now at 24, I have my own family, and 2 lovely little girls of my own. I find that I am letting my girls in on what they can handle, while still allowing them to be kids.

ya i do.definitely the children should be a part.but they should not be a decision maker.their suggestions must be asked.if so then it will be easy for them to take decisions when they are grown.so it is a serious thing take care of it.

Family time is the most valuable thing that you can give your children. When I turned 50 I was very touched when my daughter got up and made a speech about how I was always available for her and her sister and even her friends made a comment that I was the one mom that never moaned to cart kids around.....

Hi tjades, I believe that children should be a part of family decision making. Family time is a great idea for all families, and while children can't be expected to understand situations as adults do, they should certainly be included. Stressing togetherness is important and facing problems together will certainly help the child. Blessings.

If the choice being made is going to directly affect them then of course they should have their say although I do think as adults its ultimatley down to the parents to make the final choice and it always helps knowing how your children feel to come to the right choice. Mine are only 4 and 2 so obviously big choices they have no say in but we often give them chances to make their own choices or help us to come a choice how else will they learn to make responsible decisions as they reach adulthood.

Children, depending on the age, should definitely be involved with making family decisions. And it also depends on what needs to be discussed as a family. How about moving, for example, if you don't have to move for a job related reason, just because you wanted to and your child doesn't want to leave their friends, shouldn't their be a conversation somewhere? My family didn't take enough time with me to include me in that particular situation. And I lost a best friend because of it. A child is very much a part of the family home.

I do believe that children should be included. When I was growing up my sister and I were always included and I feel that instilled us with the morals and values we use today. Now I am older I have a 20 month old son of my own and I love including him in on our discussions, especially since he is talking clearer every day. When I look back on my childhood one main thing I will never forget is every night we had dinner as a family and discussed our day, no tv, no videogames at that time, it was family dinner. That is something my fiance and I are instilling in our son too. We sit down and have dinner as a family every night.

children play an important role in our family, so i think they should join in decision no matter things is important or unimportant.