am I wrong?
By stacyv81
@stacyv81 (5903)
United States
May 3, 2008 2:02pm CST
Last Christmas me and my step sister (who was 19) got into an argument and she basically said she would never be like me, being in a relationship with a man and having kids with a man who was like mine. (which, there isnt much wrong with him) And I told her I wouldnt argue with her over something she knew nothing about. I told her that my family was first. and that ultimately all I cared about was my kids, and their father.
So, a month ago she found out she was pregnant with a guy she had been dating for 2 months, (she is 2 months pregnant) they were married last week.
Am I wrong to feel a little like karma has worked its magic? I want the best for them I do, but I feel a little justified.
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13 responses
@Remmie7 (167)
• United States
4 May 08
Hey Stacyv81, I think that you were right in saying that you wouldn't talk about something your stepsister didn't know about. Smart move and a very smart lady. Subjects like this could have caused a physical move on either party. I'm not saying that you two are physical but sometimes people snap. I think that something may be bothering your stepsister and she's hiding behind "I wouldn't be like you" comment. Sometimes Stacyv81 you never know until you open up to her with compassion only showing her how to treat people. By doing this you will show her what road to take the next time she wants to say something out of the way to you or anyone else. You'll be helping her and be a great Teacher at the same time. You both will be sharing the role of motherhood and wouldn't it be great to bring that knowledge to your children. On how to deal with life? Keep Growing for the better. Remmie7
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
4 May 08
well, sounds to me that it is karma to your step sister... she shouldn't said those harsh words to you and now she experiences it herself... i didn't ask you to feel happy for her or anything because i never believe revenge is good... but i can understand how you are feeling... i just hope that you can forgive her and forget everything... good luck and have a nice day...
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
4 May 08
Feelings aren't wrong, they just are. I would likely have a few guffaws and smirks had I been exposed to a similar situation as you.
I don't understand why they are getting married so soon into the relationship though. Is it only because of the pregnancy? Because if so, I don't think that is a very smart thing to do. Of course, that's not what this discussion is all about. lol.
@xiaolongtion (17)
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4 May 08
Everyting will fade from your memory as time goes by
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@xiaolongtion (17)
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4 May 08
Everything xill fade from your memory as time goes by......
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@jing_ocampo (135)
• Philippines
4 May 08
It does sound like karma. My friends and I always joke that karma is digital. It comes fast and at the moment you least expect it.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
4 May 08
Unless she has done a lot of bad thing son the past, that is one heck of a kick from the karma fairy. I wouldn't wish that kind of misery on anyone. I feel bad that she got pregnant, even worse that she rushed into a marriage like that. Is there a bet on how long it will be until they are divorced?
My brother got married for the same reason, but they were together for over a year. The onyl reason they aren't divorced is because they rarely see each other.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
4 May 08
You know the saying walk a mile in the other persons shoes before you say anything. Forgive her for she is your sister and that is a special relationship. But I do believe that karma has been visited on her. Always think before you speak no matter what you think. I hope your sisters husband is a good man and good to her and her child. Your sister will find out that things are a little different when things happen to youself. It is normal for you to feel justified. Because she was judging you for staying with the man you love.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
4 May 08
Hi stacyv81! I think there is nothing really wrong about that. We're just humans and we have all those kind of emotions we can't just control. I, too, feel that way whenever I kind feel justified somehow. I do feel guilty afterwards but I really don't wish anyone harm or will be happy when things go bad for anyone. There is just this feeling or thought that just come in without being invited at all. haha...
The important thing is we know that we do feel happy for anyone who is doing good in his/her life and feel bad when they don't. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day! 
The important thing is we know that we do feel happy for anyone who is doing good in his/her life and feel bad when they don't. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day! 
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 May 08
I'm not able to respond to many discussions due to my situation but I saw this and just had to respond. First of all, you're not wrong if and only if you keep it to yourself. Don't say a word about it because it's like rubbing it in more and more and it'll only make it worse. I'm sure you don't want that.
Secondly, at least you know she won't go after your man! Not her type! LMBO!!
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
3 May 08
I can understand your feeling of justification.
People are so quick to critizise things they dont fully understand. Now that she is experiencing the same thing no doubt she'll see things diffrently.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
3 May 08
I think it is natural that you are feeling a bit like this. She was unkind to say the things she said to you.
By the same token, I would try my best to forgive her and feel that forgiveness in your heart. You don't want Karma to come back to you for sending out any negative vibes.
