how old were you when you got married?
By lucky_mom
@lucky_mom (62)
United States
May 4, 2008 4:20pm CST
I was 19 when I got married almost four years ago. I married my high school sweet heart. Everyone said it would never last, and now we are the only two in my family who have not been divorces. I'm wondering if people who get married young have a better chance of staying together. It use to be that way in the old days. So I would like to know how old you were and how long you have been married.
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18 responses
@ruby222 (4847)
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5 May 08
I was 17 when we got married and that was thirty five years ago,now three children later and three grandchildren life is still ticking alaon nicely ,yes we are very lucky indeed.My patrents were horrified that i was going to marry so young,but i dug my heels in ,and in those days you had to get your parents permission if you were under 18 to marry,eventually they gave in.
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
5 May 08
I got married when I was 20 but had know him since I was 16. We now have been married for 28 years this June. WE raised 2 kids and now have a grandson. Life is not easy all of the time but I could never live without him he is my best friend.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
5 May 08
I was married when I turned 18, we were dating since I was 16. Three kids and seven years later we got divorced. I was 24 when we separated and 25 when we divorced. We get along better now that we are not together. He is very controlling.
I remarried right before I turned 27 years old. We have been married for 3 years now. We have one daughter together who just turned 2 a couple of days ago.
@ahmedbadary (58)
• Egypt
5 May 08
Hi Lucky_mom
I was 28 when i married my wife i think it is the right age for marriage
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
5 May 08
I got married when I was 19, Feel in love with someone that I met threw a friend.. I do have a child with him a 8 year old son.. We've had our differences for sure.. I think though if it weren't for my son, I think we wouldn't be together today... I have always believed as my husband has a child needs both mom and dad there together..
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
5 May 08
Statistically, younger marriages fail faster and more frequently. "In the old days", people got married young and stayed because a woman without a husband was considered not only a failure, but a black mark on society if she was a divorcee. Not to mention that very few women had any means or ability to take care of themselves.
I am not married yet, but I'm getting married in 3 weeks. I'm 21, my fiance is 23. We've been together for 4 years.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
5 May 08
I got married at 28... not too young and also not too old... we have been together since college days... but age doesn't guarantee a successful marriage... right now... despite the fact that we have been together for quite a while... i am contemplating on separating with my husband...
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
5 May 08
It has to depend on the couple and how seriously dedicated they are to each other. I got married right after highschool at age 18. We hadn't known each other long and it was not one of my brightest decisions. Still, we lasted 5 years and had a beautiful daughter together and learned much from the experience....no regrets.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
5 May 08
Well, I was married at 19 and divorced at 31.
I had my first child at 23 and from then on the relationship slid downhill. Hubby said that he viewed me as the mother of his children rather than his lover. Of course it didn't help that I put on a little weight after having the kids so I was no longer the slim, gorgeous woman he married... what the heck, personally I like that rounded look of women who are mothers.
Having said that though, my sister was four years older than I and married three weeks before me but was divorced within two years.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
5 May 08
Wow, it seems like the most common age to get married is 19! LOL. I was 19 as well. 2 months before my 20th. We started dating when I was 14 and when I was 19 I married him. I am now 22 and have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 4 and a 5 year old stepson. We have been married 2 years 3 months. I'm loving every minute of it.
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Very young ha but I am glad you are still living together till now.
I was 26 when I got married and were now on our 11th year being husband and wife. Thanks God for keeping us strong till this time.
Good luck!
@Bizziebod (3497)
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4 May 08
I was 19 when I got married - thought I knew it all as you do at that age! We were married for two years although we were together since I was 16. Suffice to say I haven't got married again, but he's just split up from his third wife! some people never learn!
@anawar (2404)
• United States
4 May 08
Oh, I failed the marriage part of life. I met someone in college I should have stayed away from. I was a nice, Catholic girl and perceived him as a bad boy who was nice on the inside. Wrong.
We got married at nineteen and I stayed with him for fifteen years. I had three children with him.
My kids did very well. Both my daughter and my son married their high school sweethearts, but their marriages are very young. Still, they look so perfect together and love each other so well, I can't imagine them ever parting.
@babygirl35768 (27)
• United States
4 May 08
I got married when i was 16. It lasted about 4 years, it was the BIGGEST mistake I EVER made. The only good thing that came from it was my 2 children. Not all marriger that happen when you are young wind up like mine did, I just jumped in too quick.
@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
4 May 08
I was 19 when my husband and I got married. We have been best friends our whole lives and dated on and off throughout jr and sr high. We have been together now for 18 years and we are still very much in love and still best friends.
Thats not to say there have not been difficult times because there have been. We have had our share of arguments. We have had our differences. But always we would fall back onto our friendship to resolve them. We feel that friendship is the core of our happy marriage.
Things won't always be perfect but if you are willing to work at each difficulty with that friendship that you obviously have, then you can make the long haul.