My hubby lost his job!
By Bella75
@nixxi76 (3191)
Canada
May 5, 2008 5:26pm CST
Last monday morning I got my child off to school and started doing my dishes. My hubby walks in the house and I ask him what he's doing home and why he's not at work. He says that his boss and supervisor call him into their office and tell him that they are parting company with him.
I asked him why and he couldn't give me an answer except that they told him that it just wasn't working out. He asked them to be more specific but they said they wouldn't do that so that left him clueless.
I didn't take his word for it and decided to call his boss for myself just to ease my mind. When his boss answered the phone he asked how I was doing. I told him that he had a lot of nerve asking me how I was when he just sent my hubby home and proceeded to ask why? He told me it just wasn't working out. I then asked him why wasn't it working out and he said he wasn't going to tell me. Then at that point I knew that my hubby wasn't just trying to get out of telling me why he was let go. Now I understood why my hubby was so miserable at work when he came home and why it would take me a very long time to cheer him up! I told his boss that he can expect the labor board to be calling him that day! I hung up.
We then called higher up in the company and that guy wouldn't tell us why he was let go either! We were just getting no where at all!
After we hung up the phone we proceeded to the Labor board and they told us that because this company is not Unionized that they don't have to tell him anything, on why he was let go.
I think my hubby does have a right to know and so do I!!!!
On the lighterside, my hubby had a new job within one hour later. He immediately was looking in the paper at the want ads and called and was employed over the phone. Now he's working for less money but for more hours, and he's a lot happier, so he says. His paycheck will be better now than the old job's was. Plus, he won't have to be looking over his shoulder for backstabbers all the time.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
6 May 08
So good and bad news all at once. At least you ended on a bright side! My husband lost his job a few weeks ago, so I know how stressed you much have felt. He is at week 2 at the new job and in the process of finding something better. Keeping fingers crossed for an interview this week.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
Everyday inbetween my breaks here on mylot I'll visit different sites that I usually go on everyday and the Job Bank is one of them. I've been sending his resume to different places for him as he's asked me to do this because he's at his new job during the days and doesn't have time to do it himself. I figured that's the least I can do for him in helping him find a new job.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you sedel and myself also.
Thanks for your comment
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
6 May 08
I can't imagine there are companies who will just fire without having any justification. I hope they will be reported so at least, employees will be protected too for some reason! Great news then for your hubby, he find a job so quick! I understand how it is when you are working and the environment is not healthy like full of backbiters..
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
6 May 08
I agree nixxi, and it has been said that things happen for reason, so, I am sure, it was the best for your husband to be away from unhealthy environment(his old job).I know you can handle that changes in your life as long as you will just there for each other! Have a great time!
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
Yeah backbitters are not even close to what I would use to describe these people. I'm glad he's out of there but I'm not so happy with re-budgeting. Now he's got more of a travel to get to work going from 10 minutes of travel to 1 hour. Now he's had to squish high gas prices into his budget.
It is hard to believe that workplaces are allowed to just let someone go without giving them a reason but it does happen and has happened to my hubby unfortunitly. Oh well.. we will just have to do what we can to make a buck I guess. Tough times will pull us together even closer.
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@bronie123 (4587)
• United States
5 May 08
Wow!!!! Thats great that your husband found a new job that quick!!! I understand the part about being unhappy at work!!!
Thats terrible that the company would not even tell you or your husband why he wasnt working out for that company!!! Terrible but im so gald to here that he is happier with his new job and that his check will be better i know that must make you happy :)
I have been job searching for a long time applying for anything that i see that look decent but so far no luck i did 2 appications today so maybe my luck will get better
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@bronie123 (4587)
• United States
6 May 08
Thanks so much for the thoughtful words :)
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@monishavakil (1019)
• India
6 May 08
hi dear, guess everything happens for the best doesnt it. i am realy glad that your husband got himself a new job so fast.
hey let it go thats what i would suggest. as long as youll are happy and he has a better job that is important isnt it.wish him all the best with his new job.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
6 May 08
glad your husband was able to get a job so quickly. sometimes people do us favors without us realizing it at the time but if they are just going to fire someone without giving an explanation then are they really the kind of people your husband would want to continue to work for? wish him good luck in his new job.
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@kareng (61152)
• United States
6 May 08
Sorry about your hubby losing his job and the complications. Usually if it is contract labor, they don't have to give a reason. My daughter was in a similar situation, only she was part time. I'm glad he found another job so quickly and it sounds like he will like this one much more. Good luck!
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
6 May 08
Loosing your job always sucks no matter how crappy the job was. . its like getting rejected!! i am glad that your hubby found a better job, better as in he can stand to be at his job!! Working a job that you hate sucks equally!
I find as long as you keep an optimistic view in life, things seem to always have this way of working out on a regular basis, not to say that they just fall into place everytime, but sometimes, and its really nice when that happens.. like it did for you guys.
Tell him good luck with his new joob, and I hope that he keeps enjoying it ;-)
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@joimarquez (1836)
• United States
6 May 08
im so sorry to hear that..but im glad that he got back on his feet and got him another job. this happens to almost everybody. usually theres always a better job that will come along so you dont have to worry much.
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
6 May 08
i have never experienced losing a job but it looks like tough to face it. for sure there is a deep emotion and struggle within your hubby's mind and heart. that could then affect his daily treatment to anyone - firstly, of his own family. so now you have the duty to comfort him and give him the right encouragements and moral support. backstabbers are always pain in the bass hehe.. congrats to him for getting the new job. good day!
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@midautumn (219)
• China
6 May 08
congratulate that your hubby had found a new job again.it's unfair that the company faired your hubby without any justifiable reasons.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
Thanks midautumn for your concern but I'm thinking it was meant to be and he's just not suppose to be there or only was suppose to be there for that length of time?
It was unfair that they wouldn't tell us why he was let go and left questioning what he did wrong but what's worse is that we went higher up and asked the labor board and they told us more useless information. They told us that an unionized company doesn't have to give the employee any reason if they don't feel they should. It's rediculous!
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@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
6 May 08
I'm sorry he lost his job, but considering he found a new one right quick, maybe this is a positive change for you both. Sometimes bad things happen for a good reason, he needed to get rid of that stress and the job, in order to pursue other things that in turn will result in both of your happiness. I wish you both the best of luck.
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@dolphins821 (12)
• United States
6 May 08
I'm sorry to hear about the problems you and your husband had with his previous employer, But I am glad to know that he was able to find another job, that he seems to like, so quickly. I had a situation like that with one of my previous employers - they got away with firing me with no reason given, because they have an "employment at will" clause in their hiring policies - this clause basically states "all employment is on an at will basis and either the employee or employer may, at their discretion, terminate employment with or without notice or cause."
This type of clause would make it nice if a person would find better position than they currently have because they would not be required to give a notice - but I don't agree with the fact that a company can terminate an employee without a reason.
Tell your husband - Good Luck with the new job. Hope everything works out for you and your husband.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
I believe he's just going to work here at his new job until he finds something better. It's not fair that employment places can do this to employees and get away with it and not to mention not even given a two week notice of parting company? They didn't even give him that much. As for being lucky, he sure was.
Thanks for your comment and concern
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
6 May 08
these are life’s experiences and I am glad he got employed soon after. Others are not that lucky and neither was my husband. He was transferred to a remote area of the country just because the management wanted to accommodate somebody their own in his place. When my hubby reasoned that he was a much better and efficient worker, he was told that just because he was efficient, he was needed more to develop the company’s market in the remote area and hence he was being sent there. Well he did not go of course and after lengthy war of letters and counter-accusations, he quit on July 2006. For six months, he was without job, doing the rounds of employment centers, union offices and contacting old friends for any references. Finally on January 2007 he did get a job but not upto his satisfaction both in work and in pay. Well he continued just because we had to keep the fire burning at home but I could see that he was not happy at all. He was so depressed at times, that I was scared for his physical and mental health. And the times can be real bad when they ARE bad. All these months he was desperately looking for a change but to no avail. Things were so bad that he was even thinking of changing industries and venturing into unknown territory. However, only last week he got a call from a good company and this week he is going there to check out mutual prospects and it seems that at last he has joined a company which is to his liking. These 2yrs have been hell for us and I am glad its over (at least for the time being). What I can tell you is that never lose hope, patience and determination and yes, love each other a lot without any expectations. Good luck to you and your family.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
7 May 08
Regarding bills, well haven’t really thought of it that way. After all, while he is earning, he is the one feeding me and he has been doing it these past 11 years! Also to both of us, marriage is a partnership were we both are accountable equally for everything…its always ‘us’ and never ‘me’. I have a lot of peace in mind by thinking this way. Maybe I have missed out on many things, life hasn’t been all roses and we have very little resources to spare and splurge but we are at peace with our only son.
Thnx once again for your nice words.
@livewyre (2450)
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7 May 08
You have really been through the mill, but it's great that you have endured the bad times together and shared the bad and the good alike. We are now a single income family since my wife decided to be a stay at home Mom. We made the decision together and have pared down our spending to match our new budget. All the budgeting has meant that (bizarrely) we are now better off!
We are careful about spending because we HAVE to be.. that's one thing I should have mentioned to NIXXI... If your income is going to drop, you MUST adapt your spending - it's a really easy trap to fall into... Hopefully it will only be temporary, but making a new budget based on your new income is an absolute necessity otherwise you are working hard just to drive yourself into debt.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
Wow sudiptacallingu, you are amazing and your hubby is so very lucky to have you. There's a lot of people who expect, want, and take in this world and you are definitly not one of those people! I don't know what I would do if my hubby didn't have a job for six months. I have to give you credit for hanging in there and being patient with your hubby for that amount of time! I'm guessing you were the one that paid the bills at home then?
I will never lose hope and thank you for your advice. Your story is enlightening
@suhascg (227)
• Australia
6 May 08
i'm sorry for your hubby but congrats on the new job..he has every reason to know as to why he was fired from the job. but as long as he is happy with his new job, i think its fine.. i think ob satisfaction is more important than any thing else.
ya money matters a great deal but i think job satisfaction is above that..
all d best for his new job..
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
Yes I know what you mean suhascg, it's great to work in a place that you like and get paid good money for. It's really hard to find something that suits a person in that sense though. It's either good money and crap you have to put up with, or crappy pay and great people.. why can't there be a happy medium in this case?
Thanks for your comment
@livewyre (2450)
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6 May 08
Certainly in the UK you can't just let someone go without explaining why you are doing so unless it was during a trial period ie. first three months of being employed. It's outrageous that any company would do this just from a moral stance let alone a legal stance, they are obviously plain gutless. Anyone who makes a decision to get rid of an employee but can't tell them why must be some sort of coward surely?
Anyhow, sounds like you are in a better position now, I really hope the new job works out - I think it would be good to make the old employers sweat and get the Labor board make them tell you what their reasons were, if only if it brings them to the attention of the Labor board as potentially bad employers....
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@livewyre (2450)
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7 May 08
Well, I didn't know that having a union made a difference like that in the US, over here anybody can join a union if they want to whatever job they are in, and employment laws do not allow you to sack someone without giving at least a reason. In most cases, they would have to issue three warnings before sacking someone, we have good employment laws, but there are still thousands of employers who exploit their workers and most people don't have a clue about their employment rights.
You can still sack someone that you suspect has done something wrong without absolute proof, but you have to tell them why.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 May 08
When we phoned the Labor board they told us that it was okay for a workplace not to give any reasons on why they are letting someone go.. because they didn't have a union where my hubby worked it was okay. As for my workplace because I have a union who is suppose to stand behind an employee were to pull a stunt as such, then they would be up sh*t's creek without a paddle.
I think they are a bunch of cowards too and talk about embarrassing, my hubby was escorted out like he was going to blow up at someone. Now that's indecent if you ask me. My hubby is a pretty big guy and he intimidates people with his looks but he's nicer than anyone you could ever know. I guess they were scared of him or something.
Thanks for your comment livewyre
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
5 May 08
Wow well your husband must have a guarding angel because he sure got a another job fast. I'm really glad that he at least has a job now. Although I am mad at the fact they they couldn't tell you why they fired your husband. Don't worry about it and just think that your husband is way better off without those people. He will do just fine in his job and he will probably like it better. I wish you and your husband a lot of luck.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
5 May 08
Well I hope he's a lot happier too. Thanks for the serge of luck and I must say that I'm still holding that grudge towards his old boss because he wouldn't tell either of us why my hubby was let go. You'de think they would be more mature and act like adults and just tell him. I guess they were cowards.
Thanks for your comment
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Sry about them letting ur Hubby go at his job and not explaining both of u y they let him go. I think every boss should tell an employee when their fired why their letting him go. But that's cool he was able 2 find another job that same day wit better money! Good 4 him!
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
7 Sep 08
Thanks blondie,
I think I wrote this a few months ago and since then we've been doing great. I've started an in-home daycare with a friend and co-worker from the nursing home, and my hubby he's working a wayyyy better job then he was back then.
THanks for your comment
@donbukriv (58)
• Philippines
8 May 08
I'm sorry for what happened but I'm also glad your husband found a much better work. I hope he gets more appreciated there this time.
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