How patient are you?

There is no way I would wait for anyone for an hour and a half. Without a phoce call, I would wait 30 minutes maximum, usually about 20 minutes past the time you were supposed to meet. I used to wait around for people when I was younger(like in high school), but now Ive realized they are just using me. If they can't give you the respect to meet you when they said they would, there is no need to keep themas friends. While I understand things can go wrong, cars can break down, extenuating circumstances, etc., but in 1 and a half hours, they could have found a phone to reach you. As for her telling you that you wern't patient enough, I would have ended the friendship. That is just a lack of respect on her part. Find some new friends that value you and your time. If you really feel the need to remain friends with her, I would talk to her when you are calm and let her know that you were really mad about having to wait for an hour and a half for her, and you will only wait 20(or whatever period of time you decide) minutes for her past what time you are supposed to meet.

For me you are very patient and good since you have that attitude to wait them..LOL, if it happens to me, my friend will never see me and she has to find her way to meet me in my house or wherever I am. since, I will not not any effort to waste my 1 and half hour again! I don't have that patient to wait since I am not late in any appointment. So, I will always make it clear to my friends that if they fail to show up for more than 20 minutes, they will not find me not unless they will call and explain what's their reason!

Hi LilyPad. Sorry to hear that you had to wait an hour and a half for your friend to discuss on matters. Is she a close friend to you or just a friend that you go out with for fun but not the one that would be your shoulder to cry on. To me, my level of patience is short. But that also depends on who or what i'm dealing with. Any meetings or appointments i'm normally on time. I don't like to be late. I always arrive 15-30minutes early as i don't like the guilt feeling when people start to wait for my arrival. In your case, it wasn't the first time your friend was late and she still has the guts to tell you that you're not patient enough. If that were to happen to me, i'd tell her off that this wasn't the first time you had to wait that long for her. Ask her when she says meet at 11am sharp, why were she late and if she give unacceptable reasons, you ask her why would she say 11am when she knows she can't make it at 11am sharp. Tell her that you have other things to do too besides having to wait for her all the time and you end up sacrificing your time by just waiting for her arrival. Normally after an incident like this, either she feels offended or both feels offended. Relationship might not be as close as before but if the incident didn't have any effect on your relationship, thats a good news. I have a suggestion to see if she still has the habit of coming late or will she change after the incident. The next time you meet each other, say for example she says 1pm sharp, this time, you try to come a little late, say about 5-10minutes late. See if she's already there or she isn't. If she's there, and she scold you for arriving late, tell her thats how you felt when she arrived late and you're only late for 5-10minutes unlike her an hour and a half lateness. If she's not there even though you're late, i guess you better start telling her honestly that you won't be willing to wait for her if she keeps coming late. In my opinion, to deal with this type of people, you have to put them in your shoe and see how they react towards it. and then thats the time you explain your situation you've went through when they made you wait that long. Good luck!

well i would say newton's third law.to evry axn there is an equal and opposite axn.meaning that u should do the same to them so they understand wht u feel when they are late and u r left waiting.i m not a very good at keeping timings but i never complaint when others r late cause i cant say anything about being on time when i late myself.and about being patient i m not the best but i m quite a good one.

i do not blame you being annoyed. she should have called you and told you she was running late. it was rude of her not to. i would not have waited past a half hour though. who has time to waste like that? if this person is perpetually late then she obviously has no regard for others. i love how people turn things around on you when you speak up and get annoyed about something you have every right to be annoyed about. like her telling you you are not patient enough. give me a break.

she's totally ridiculous regarding but not being patient enough! i hate that attitude. i agree with u. she should be punctual or atleats apologize on her late.. waiting for more than one hour, is ridicoulus. she should respect u more.

That's unbelievably patient! I would have been gone in half an hour probably less than that! With mobile phones a plenty nowadays, there's just no excuse for people not to let you know they are running late or something has happened. I'm such a stickler for time keeping I hate being late for anything, but things go beyond your control and if that's the case then you let them know! I would have told them in no uncertain terms what I thought! I've got a couple of friends that I know are bad for time keeping and I always take that into account if we arrange to meet - but I wouldn't put up with that no way!

Patience is my middle name.....NOT! If someone tells you to meet them at 11, and are late by an hour and a half, that's just plain rude, and the nerve of the woman to add 'sharp'! I don't blame you for telling her off, I'd be pretty p*ssed off if I was made to wait that long. Actually, I don't know that I would wait that long, I probably would've thought 'stuff them' and left earlier. At least I have a pretty good idea of the people I know, whether or not they are punctual, or whether if they say a time, I just add an extra hour to it.

Oh I don't think so. Are you kidding me? An hour and a half? that is beyond RUDE! You are more patient then I would have been and I have been told that I have the patience of a saint. Your friends who are doing this to you are taking advantage of you. I mean 15 or 20 mins I can understand. Maybe even 30 or 40 mins on a good day but an hour and a half is incosiderate and rude.

Your friend is way out of line. She should have apologized to you for being late but she was arrogant enough to say that you weren't patient enough. You were right to tell her off. A friend should understand that you have other things to do better than waiting for her inconsiderate self. Oh well, it's been done. I would suggest that next time that she'll be late that long, She should text you so that you could probably do some quick errands before you guys meet.