Are men scared of ''the talk''?

Gosh men are in a league of their own, especially when talks steer towards the future and dare I say it commitment! The best thing you can do is be frank and come straight out and say it, you'll only be tying yourself up in knots if you don't. Hints don't work with men so it's not even worth dropping hints for them lol! Just sit him down and say something like 'can you give me your views on where this relationships going?' try to explain that you feel that you are dangling on a string, ask him what he wants out of the relationship. I wouldn't start talking about marriage and kids right now, but just a gentle conversation of where he wants to be! Good luck!

most guys know that the talk is coming , they know for sure but they dont want to know or talk about it period , please beleive me if a guy has been dating his GF for about lets say 3 or so the talk , has passed his mind he jsut doesnt want to bring it up to her cause he has nothing to say , ..in your case you guys been dating for a year , i would kinda say its sorta rushed a bit ...but dont throw in marrage and all that let him speak on that subject .

Well there's nothing that would happen if you would allow yourself to be stopped by your own fear. You will never know what's on his mind if you would not open up what is inside of you. The earlier the better to know than prolong it and same results would just happen. Be brave enough to know what is the truth and I am pretty sure that if he truly loves you he would welcome that thought so what are you waiting for.

LOL! Are you not aware that men are different. I agree with you and can think about your state of mind. No body likes uncertainty in life, so if your boy friend does not talk to to you about furture plans, he is evading something. You need to press him for the same and you can ask him what is on his mind.....you can tell him that you want him to be honest and transparent in his (future) approach and if he does not budge or agrees to open up, you can threaten him up....that you will have to give a serious re-thinking about your relationship with him. Best of Luck to you!

Yes,These days it has become common that one gets scared when invited to talk on future. This is more so in intimate relationships like marriage. I personally think that it not the fault of any individual but the times we are living in. Nobody wants emotional closeness and taking responsibility for some body's security. That is why now there are 'live-in' relationships. Because people are scared of taking responsibilities of a formal family life and the emotional situations one gets in to due to them are driving them to think differently or not at all.

It's really a classical quetion.As a men,I will feel pressure,if my girlfriend keep asking me about the future.The reason is that if you are not the woman he dreams for,he will be afraid to be responsible for you.He may just think "It's okey to stay with you",not marry you.Men thinks very clear whether they look for a wife or a love.

I feel like one of the lucky ones. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and he always goes "where do you see us?".. he asked me yesterday, actually. Where I saw us going. So we have the talk all the time. I think you just need to bring it up with him. Honest and simple, tell him you wanna have an 'alone night' where you can sit around, watch movies, talk and all that. Not like bedtime conversation but real conversations, and then just kindly be like "where do you see your future going?" and take it from there, after he tells you what he thinks of his future, ask if he sees you in it. When I first brought it up with my boyfriend I did it in a joking way and when we goofed around about it, I said "ok now seriously" and it went from there. If you've been together over a year you shouldn't be afraid to ask him something like that. He should be comfortable enough with you to have that discussion aswell. :) Goodluck!

Hello RavenFireMaiden, You will not know what's on his mind if you will not bring that issue to him. If he is sincere in your relationship, bringing that topic will not be an issue for him in fact, he will appreciate that you are thinking your future together. Just be honest and ask him at least, as early as this time, you will know what is he thinking! I had that talk to my fiance now my husband when we were in our first year of relationship and he started to be open after I brought up the topic!

Well, I think it depends. I know I'm a little young discussing on this topic, I just want to express my opinion. If he is also serious, he won't be. Otherwise he will. Maybe over a year is not a long time, but it is long enough to know his own feelings. Even if he has not well prepared, he will not be scared of this talk. Instead, he will have a serious talk with you, calmly. He may tell you that he dosen't think you two are there, but he wil not be scared. If he becomes not just scared, but even in panic, I don't think he considers this relationship the way you do. Just my view, maybe not right. Just wanna to help.

If he is serious with you, anything you say will not turn him off. Better talk to him about this now so you know where you stand in his life. He has been married before so he knows how. He has experienced about it and he knows what he is going through the second time around. In case, he has some phobia with regards to his last married, I think he will not be shy to tell you about it. He now have an idea how to make his married work for the second time, I hope. Good luck and hope for the best.

i think most men do tend to behave like that to talks on future ... but if you are desperate better ask him better soon than later ... because you have to know what's in his mind right?

That is a good question! I would also like to know! : )

Babes i'm feeling your pain. My ex boyfriend was the same way thats why he's my ex! but if you really love and care for this guy tell him. Forget the past because he needs to realize that your the present and the future and if he doesnt realize that, ur wasting time. Years would go by and no success and honeslty after two attemptes of tryin to bring it up give him a chance don't run him down yet don't settle for less. Yor woman u rule your world u could get what ever man u want and who wants u back!