People who are stubborn or selfish how to tell them anything?

I don't play with the people who selfish. The selfish men don't have a friend. Everybody say the true but they alway say they true more. Stubborn men can advised by everybody. Although they stubborn but they can think what is right and what is wrong.

Lilypad, it sounds to me like you are trying too hard. I have had similar experiences with people. One girl was going out with a guy who was abusive and no matter how much I explained that the abuse would eventually get worse, she still would not leave the guy. She would say, "Yeah, you're right," but she wouldn't do anything about it. I eventually realized that people will do what they want to do anyway. You are sweet to be concerned for your friends and relatives, but if they are stubborn there is nothing you can do to make them otherwise. Believe me, if there were a way to do this, I would have done it with my mother-in-law, the most stubborn woman on the planet. In the end, all you can do is wash your hands of it, know that you tried to help your friend, and let them make their own mistakes. They will learn from them and possibly realize that you were right. We can't save everyone from themselves.

Hmm unfortunately I cannot help you there. I am stubborn with some things and yet flexible with others. But my husband is somewhat stubborn but my mother in law is as stubborn as can be. Disgustingly stubborn. If its not done in her way, its the highway.

First of all, mostof us have friends, or family that suffer from the "overactive stubborn gene." But, you have to realize that sometimes stubborness in a person regarding a particular idea, suggestion, system, etc., doesn't necessarily make them wrong. They make be right or know what they're talking about without all the facts and figures (That I rely on a lot to to prove a point too). Their gut feelings may be so strong, that they can't let it go. And getting around such people, what does that mean / You should'nt have to even consider getting around someone when you considering something as serious as going into business with them. There's got to be some meeting of the minds and compromises if you really want to succeed. You can't continue to be somewhat of a pushover, "I just let them have their way". No one should just tell someone to stop being a certain way either, It doesn't work like that! You would'nt want your feelings about something to be taken so lightly; and you thought of as being so weak that you can just be told to stop. In your case you could just discuss, debate, talk over, or whatever of mean syou use to settle a disagreement. (Especially, without character attacks on either side.) Just let everyone have their opinion, we're all entitled to one. Because when it all boils down to it, grown people are going to do what they want to do anyway. If you disagreements are so strong and too many with your future web project partner, maybe you both should go on you own if there seems to be no resolution in sight. Good Luck!

Being stubborn is one of a person's trait, it is a measure that we still believe ourselves and wanted to pursue what we think is right. But there are instances that this trait of us is also a threat to our success because we do not want to listen. To deal with them, just let them do their way atleast you shared what you think is right, in the end if they are wrong they will easily learn from their mistake and approach you again to say " you're right" i will do it your way this time. cheers!!

My husband tells me that am selfish all the time and I look at him like he crazy, am so not selfish and it really makes me upset.

I know how hard to deal with the people like that. But I like to be frank and I don't care about it. I just finish what I want to speak to them and that's all. If they don't listen to me, it's their choice. Time will prove which one will be right or not. I love China

Well I guess you'll just have to see how it turns out to be. Who knows that your friend's idea may work? But if your friend's idea is proven wrong, perhaps you can talk to him about it to be receptive to one's idea.

oh my, your right it is the most frustrating thing, when people are very stubborn. i take it for a long time, i bare with it keep giving them there way and then one dayi just flare up real bad. either i loose it and just dont bother with them, or i keep persisting. sometimes if you just refuse and do not give in it works. guess stubborn people try their luck and when they know it is not working they give in too.

there isn't much you can do, there are some people who jus can't see it no other ways than there way, i normally leave them to their opinion and allow them to learn from there mistakes.i have family memebers when you are explaining anything pertaining to work or normal discussion , the first thing they say is "i'll hear you out but that doesn't mean i will listen to you ", i say what ever.don't fustrate your self .

i just ignore them. it is their project, let them do it their way. if it is wrong, they will learn from their own mistakes. and if it works for them, they are happy.

Let him do it his own way. Live and learn? He can't say you didn't try? Stubborness will eihter make him fail..or he'll WAKE UP and learn and study? You tried. Now let it go and let him learn form the school of "Hard Knocks."

just highlight the things with more benefits pretend u r ignoring them and just see they will exactly do as u think things to be done

What I usually do is reverse psychology. People who are stubborn or selfish would like to do things that are contrary to what is expected of them. They find happiness in being distinct in every way. If that doesnt work, I'll try to stroke their ego. Like making them think that my idea was their idea.

well that is really difficult. i mean, he or she is stubborn already so why would they listen? anyway, i find that prayer is an effective tool. it may not be as fast as we may think, and may depend upon several factors, but the results are more favorable and lasting. that is my experience, you can try it to, and exercise your faith. :-) good day!

Hi lilypad, Some think they know batter and they do not listen to others at all. I have seen those types and I would not go near them with an advice good and convincing or not. It is as if you are just shouting into the deaf ears. There is no point at all, whatever we keep telling them either convincing or not , they will not believe. They think that they can do better and that we did not handle correctly and that's why we could not get the result. So let them do what and let them face it. After that I learnt to keep away from people of that type. Why waste my energy over there?

just highlight the things where it gives more benefits and pretend ignoring them.