Parenting: By what age should a woman give birth?
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
United States
10 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
6 May 08
All I have to say to this is I give a ton of credit to those who still want to have a baby when they are in their 50's.
I am 44 and I run a daycare. By the end of the day, I am happy to give these precious babies back to their mommys so I can get a good nights sleep.
One factor I looked at when I had my children was how old I would be when the graduate high school. I wanted to be alive and still working to help them with college. I want to be around to see them marry and give me grandchildren.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
Well, I hope to have a long life...people still think I am in my 20's. One person I had to deal with about two years ago said that I should make sure my mother signs my application...I said why? I am 45! She said, I thought you were 16!
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
6 May 08
Wow, what is your secret?
I have been proofed once since I hit my 40's and I was so thrilled.
People say I look younger than I am, but not in my 20's! You go girl!
@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
6 May 08
If you're physically fit, and go for a thorough check up, you could very well have a healthy baby. Pregnancy risks for a 47 year old might be more than for a younger woman, but most of those things can be taken care of. My cousin had a baby at your age. She already had 4 kids, all grown, and had her tubes tied years ago. The pregnancy was a complete surprise. He turned out to be a pretty cute kid, here's his picture.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
What an inspiration! I really needed to hear about this. I am going to the doctor this week to talk and find out what would be best. I have meds I will have to change.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
6 May 08
I think that as long as she is up for it, a woman can continue having babies as long as her body will allow it! I'll be 38 this yr and still want more kids (though my husband doesnt which sucks)..In fact i'd still be willing to have kids well into my 70s LOL
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
What a ray of sunshine you are today, Ravenlady!
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
6 May 08
I would never get a child at that age - I bearly would like to have one now...
Most women I know that had babies after 40 says that their bodies didn't get back to "normal" arfter that. I for sure knows that I wouldn't like to have kids at home after 60 - there are some cons about getting babies late in life
Higher risks for problems with baby and pregnancy
Higher risk for the child to loose their parents at a young age and so on
The risk of you never getting to meet future grandchildren and see them get grown up.
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@chirantani (1379)
• India
6 May 08
You can look forward to it, but I think, a woman should give birth within 37 year.
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@mobler (38)
• United States
6 May 08
For health reasons they recomend you not have children when you are either to young or to old--in your 20s and 30s is ideal. However, with today's medical expertise a woman can give birth pretty much whenever she wants. Just bear in mind that you are likely to have complications with your pregnancy.
Also remember that if you have a child now you will not be able have the house to yourself again until you are 67 (and that's if the kid moves out early).
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
That is so true....not having the house to ourselves! lol
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
10 May 08
Well, if you look in to it - they say the 'best' age bracket to have children is like late teens to about mid 20's - the body is at it's healthiest & so on but i think early to late 20's is better for the fact of responibility & maturity - plus financially you'd be out of school & more than likely working.
I think having a child at 60 is irresponsible/inconsiderate - why would you ever want your child to have a 'Grandparent' aged parent who cant do anything with them - will a Mother of 60 even be around to see the high school graduation? I think the older people get the harder it would be for the child, kids are full of beans & you need to be sure that you can keep up with them. I know my Mother has trouble keeping up with her only Granddaughter sometimes & my Mum's just over 50.
Yes, it seems to be a trend with women giving birth later in life, i guess it just depends on how healthy you are & whether you're happy to be pushing 'OLD' age (so to speak) when your child is entering primary school, high school or if you'll even be around when they graduate college.
You also have to think about the complications & problems that 'can' occur if you leave it too late. I'm pretty sure the last i heard, the risks & possible problems start increasing from about 30 years old so the longer you leave it, the higher & higher the risks become, the more chances there are that things will go wrong & so on.
If you want to leave it until later then that's a personal choice of course but i think you really need to think about the child & what is best for them rather than just thinking about yourself.
I hope that helps SOME!!!
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
11 May 08
I don't know why some of the people answering this question think I am 60. I am 47. Two years ago when I applied for a job in the library the women said to me make sure your mother signs the application before you bring it in. I said why? She said as a minor, it was necessary to do this. She thought I was 16. That was two years ago. Most guess my age at 25. Not all 47 year olds...are really that old.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
10 May 08
I just wanted to add that if you think you can do it - then there's no reason not to do it :)
Although you'll never be 16 again & your body will show you that as the years go on! I guess if you're happy to be 60+ when your child becomes a teenager then that's up to you ^_^
Just remember, the later you leave it, the less likely you are to be around still to enjoy Grandchildren, i guess it depends on if that is important to you or not so much.
Good luck with your decision!
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
6 May 08
I am not having any more kids after 30. This is my personal decision and obviously everyone is entitled to their own choice on when to have kids.
I want to be done having kids after 30 because I want to be able to do whatever I want to do by the time I turn 50, lol.
My mom had a baby when she was 41 - so it's certainly not impossible.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
This Thursday is my appointment with the doctor. We will see what she says.
@kezabelle (2974)
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6 May 08
The only thing that would put me off having a child at 60 is the fear id not be around to see them grow up, ok so that could happen at my age 24 but its less likely.
Its up to each individual but definatley not for me I dont think I would cope runing after a toddler at 60+, my mums friend is 38 and just had a baby (her second the eldest is 4) and she said she feels it some days being a mum is hard but she said with being older she feels that she finds it a bit harder being more tired etc.
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@kezabelle (2974)
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7 May 08
I never said you were I was answering the part about women giving birth when they are 60, I also said its up to each INDIVIDUAL and wasnt in anyway judging anyone for having a baby later on in life I simply said it wasnt for ME!
@viewpoint (137)
• Philippines
6 May 08
Well, I think a woman should give birth when she is mature and responsible enough to be a parent. I became a mother when I was 23. You are 47, and I believe you can already be a good parent if you want to.
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
6 May 08
Thanks! We will find out this week if it is possible, according to the doctor.
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