Don't want cry in front of him anymore
By gxnfly
@gxnfly (1147)
China
May 6, 2008 8:19am CST
I've got a headache,cause I'm too upset about what my boyfriend said to me.I know it's not about what he said to me ,it's about what he said lead to my miseries.I don't want to talk about it,even here at myLot.
My boyfriend is sitting just next to me.He sensed my abnormity and asked why,but I don't what to tell him,or anyone.If he couldn't understand me,then just go away,I don't need him.I don't need anyone to understand me!I know I'm just being childish.I do need a little understanding,but few understand me.
Now I really what to cry out loud,but with my boyfriend sitting around,I just can't. I don't know form when I don't want to cry in front him anymore.Sometimes I really need a should to cry on,but I don't know why I just play strong in front of him.
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16 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
6 May 08
Y u wanna be strong in front of someone who really cares for u?? U can cry and yet dun tell him the reason, i'm sure he will understand that and kind enough not to ask wat happen.. Because u are his gf.. Some things just happened without a reason.. Guys are not as sensitive as gals, so there are times the things we say may not be wat u wanna hear.. Just cry out loud on him, dirty his clothes, make him feel bad.. LIke that, u will feel better.. Really..
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
6 May 08
You might not believe this, but letting your feelings show every once in a while can actually help to build up your relationship. Now I'm not telling you what to do, because I really do understand how you are feeling hon. I go through that myself sometimes. But I honestly think that you would do well to talk to your boyfriend and tell him what the problem is. Tell him how his words upset you. And tell him what it was that he said that hurt you so much. Sometimes guys are completely confused by women, and they don't know how to react. You need to be upfront with him so that he can at least try to turn the situation around. At any rate, we're here for you hon. You have lots of shoulders to cry on when you need them....especially mine. Hugs to you hon.
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Thanks for caring.I cried out loud last night at last.It was good,I let out my feelings finally.It's not that hard as I thought.
@catsender (67)
• China
7 May 08
you can speak it out,it is bad for you to hide the sadness in your own heart. maybe talk to your girl friends. just talk to somebody. mylot is a good place.
i had such experience like you, i did not talk my grief and solitude to anybody. after a few years i found myself always had a bad mood, as cross as a bear, and thought every body around me do not understand me and i do not want to talk to them. now, i talk to my some girl friends. they are so kind to me, console me and make me happy. please don't close the door of your heart.
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
7 May 08
You are not being childish, you are hurt and upset. But you really should talk to him and tell him how you feel. And never be afraid to cry infront of him. Let him be the strong one and let him help you. You may find that you feel better once you do. I hope things work out for you!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
6 May 08
You are being childish and really not fair to him, he does not know what is wrong and you won't tell him that is unfair. How can he fix it if he does not know what is wrong?
What if it was him and you knew something was wrong and he was so unhappy yet he would not tell you, how would you feel? He is not a mind reader, you are not a mind reader, whatever it is you have to be fair and tell him.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
thank you for best response hon, I hope you will tell him what is bothering you, so that together you can both make it better.
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
7 May 08
Whatever you feel you have to tell your boyfriend so he will know and so he will understand but i am glad you already sorted it out. Sometimes we need to burst out so we can take out those heavy feeling inside us. Woman sometimes have this so called tantrums or moody feeling about things once in a while. You just need to let it out and don't keep it inside coz it's part of the relationship, HOw can he understand you if you will not tell him? Communication is important in the relationship so you have to be open to him and so he is to you. In that way you will understand each other and learn to adjust with each others shortcoming.
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
6 May 08
Try to talk to him about your feelings and if he hurt you with what he said! Relationships are tough, and we have to discuss what is bothering us! You are young yet, and crying is a part of life! It releases a lot of bad feelings, better than to let it get all pent up and come out as anger on a later day!
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
10 May 08
if you trust you boyfriend you are ashamed to cry infront of him even on his shoulder. i know he will understand you, no other person in this world understand you except you boy friend. be transparent to you boy friend. don't hide your feelings. by doing this cry with your boy friend you will feel comfortable.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
7 May 08
I understand you. My guy hates it when I cry in front of him but I just can't help it if I do especially when he is the one who caused the pain. I knkow the feeling of him not understanding and it is just normal. It is good to be alone once in a while to really get those feelings out. It's better then to keep them inside and make you more miserable.
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
7 May 08
Hi Darlin,
Well I see the picture of a beautiful baby and I have read several posts from you that you are depressed and sensitive. Have you spoken to your doctor about postpardom? This is a real disorder and you might need to get yourself a little help. I wish you the best of luck please take care and try to smile :)
@subha12 (18441)
• India
7 May 08
i can understand your situation. there are times that the situation becomes so much emotional. we feel bad inside and we bleed from heart. may be to others it seems over reacting or childish, but it actually hurts the softest part of you.try to control tears while he is around. you can cry to heart's content when he is away. its going to make the pain lighter.
@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
7 May 08
Perhaps it is within you to think that crying is a sign of weakness. Actually, I have always heard that it is one of the bodies greatest self defense mechanisms. If you bottle up negative feelings such as anger, sadness, depression and such inside without any form of relief, eventually they will come out and often in a devestating manner. You can only fill a bottle so full before it breaks. Hope everything works out for you.
