Does your partner have a say in your dress, or the way you wear your hair?

My husband has strong opinions which are highly irrelevant to me other than I enjoy his compliments versus the lack thereof. He likes my hair short and blond as this is how he met me years ago. On my fiftieth birthday I cut off 18 inches of my hair and donated it. I also turned it mostly blond. Much different than it is the picture. He also has opinions on dress. Difference in our styles is vast...but our age difference is also not small. We also work in very different industries and so have different demands in our work dress style which translates to different styles overall. He is more casual than I am I think. But I am still a "hippy" throw back and it shows in some of my choices. He is a golfer and a musician and his clothing choices are a odd mix of these. Sometimes he will tell me that he hates something I am wearing and I laugh at him. Usually I ignore him because he really has no taste in womens clothing and can't tell the difference between good taste and value vs. Hoochie Mamma. Ah well.

Forbade is a strong word. I have heard similar, but do what I want, yet I enjoy my hair long so usually it coincides with their desires. If he told me why he liked my hair the way it was, how he thought it made me look, and what he thought about it, I would listen to his reasoning. The thing is, when he first met you, you were you. Your hair, your clothing. If he wants to be with you, he wont try to change you. (although he might not like you changing yourself) If he's trying to tell you, one of his favorite qualities about you is your long hair, then you should listen. He's telling you he thinks it works for you. I take his advice seriously, he is the one that is supposed to be attracted to me, and if he already likes it, why change? But if it's something that I think will look better, and I've had a professional opinion, or its the weight and the headaches I keep getting (I've always had this problem) and I want it cut, I'm going to have to cut it. Or if it is something that will make me feel more confident or better about myself, I'm not going to look in the mirror, upset everyday, because someone else thinks I shouldn't do what I know will make me happy.

Actually my Hubby and I do alot of compromising. Take my hair for example. Hubby loves it long and I love it short. We compromise, in the Winter I grow it out and in the Summer I cut it off. Problem solved. As for my clothes, we both stick mostly to pants and shirts so it's not an issue. I don't dress like a hootchie mama and he doesn't dress like a pimp so neither of us have complaints there LOL I don't think women need to "conform" as much as they need to share thier preferences and then find a way to compromise. If your happy with long hair and so is your husband, then I'd say you both win. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I will do or wear something I know my husband likes, just to please him, but if he forbade me to do something? Well, he just wouldn't. He knows better than that. Sometimes he sees me when I'm angry and then he tells me to remind him not to ever make me angry. That would be a bad thing. Forbidding me to do something would make me angry. He does not own me. He is not my lord and master. I am my own person with my own thoughts. Do I ask his opinion on something? Of course. Do I always accept his opinion? No. Likewise he will ask my opinion, but that does not mean he has to accept. He is his own person, as well. He knows if he forbade me to do something, that's just asking me to go ahead and do it. So, yes, I do things or wear things that I know will please him, because I love him and I choose to do it, but he also does the same for me.

I take my husbands opinion to heart he likes my hair longer so I have grown it out but just last week I went to get it cut and told my guy do what you want just don't cut it all off and he did a great job, I will not color it because he likes the color but I have told him when I turn grey I WILL color it any color I want. And as far as dress I dress how I like just not quite as showy as I use to but I am getting older I don't want to wear the same things as my 19 year old

I take my husband's opinion in to consideration, i mean obviously I want to look go for him, but I would never not do something I wanted to do simply because he said so. In fact, I think after 7 years of marriage that it's better not to say anything, disagreeing me with is the best way to push me into doing it! :)

If my husband wanted a woman who would obey him in any way, shape or form, he would have dropped me and moved to Stepford!!! I am my own woman, AND he is his own man. I wear what I want, and he thinks I look beautiful because I am MYSELF, and no one else. I am not a doll for him to dress, and design, I am a liing brething human whom he loves because I AM that liing breathing human.

It is my partner who decide what I am going to wear for any party. I leave the choice to her and I do not break my head on the issue. Because people who see you in any particular dress can tell you how do you look in that.

Yes my significant other has not forbidden me to cut my hair as such but I am not allow to wear it short. It does not really matte to me because I love long hair. Although if I really wanted to cut it short I do not think he would stop me. He would let me know that he prefers it long and then leave it up to me knowing that I would keep it the way he likes it. I suppose it is the same with clothing. He likes me to wear skirts rather than pants but I prefer skirts and have warn them most of my life. I do wear pants when it is cold. It certainly saves on heating if I rug up rather than put a heater on to stay warm. The thing is that I do not think he makes me conform to his tastes at all, I think it is a matter that are tastes match each others. He likes me to dress the way I like to dress and so we are both happy.

My husband makes comments and if I don't object to what he's saying I listen. But basically I make those decisions for myself.

Hi property, My boyfriend can't tell me how to dress or have my hair, otherwise I'll get really mad at him. I don't tell him how to dress or keep his hair so I don't expect him to be laying any rules on me. Now we do tell each other how we find each other looks in certain clothing, etc. So that's cool. Like he might tell me he likes my hair long, yet I keep it short cause it's more manageable but I do plan to grow it for Divali this year. Same with his hair, his is short at the moment and I like it like that but he had it sorta long when we first got together and he is growing it back out. It doesn't make me love him less though. As long as he doesn't turn into "the boss of me" I'm cool!

'Forbade' you, hmmm that is a serious word to use. I guess it is lucky you didn't want to cut your hair but I would not be comfortable with someone forbid me from doing something. Luckily my partner isn't like that, he prefers my hair long but how I have it is my choice.

I listen to my partners opinion, but if I want to change something about my appearance I will do it regardless. I think that he is the same. He wears a pair of army style combats that I really don't like, he wore them because it was summer, but knowing I didn't like them he went out and bought more combats so he could have 3/4 lengths for summer and keep me happy. I think it is about meeting each other half way. I try and wear the clothes he likes more often than the clothes he doesn't, but this doesn't stop me wearing them at all.

My husband lets me know what he likes and doesn't like but he lets the main decision of how I dress and wear my hair up to me. I have though promised him that I will never cut my hair. My hair is medium length and I want it to grow. There have been times that I wanted to cut my hair, but I prefer it longer. But with him telling me how to dress, I kind of take his advice. I dress however I like when I am with him, but I stay more conservative when its just me. He really doesn't care though.

I respect my husband's opinion as far as what I wear and how I wear my hair, but I still do as I please. I have asked him in the past if the outfit I was wearing looked ok. And I have had my hair permed because he likes it, but not because he told me to get it done. He respects me enough to let me live my life and do things as I please as long as it's nothing that will harm our marriage. My husband doesn't tell me what to do and I don't tell him what to do. We are married to each other, not each other's parents.

I wear what I want, when I want, how I want. No one tells me what to do. I am my own person and that's how it stays. I wouldn't let my partner tell me what to do unless I enjoyed that sort of thing.

My hubby doesn't really tell me how I should dress or how to wear my hair. The only thing he really says anything about is that he doesn't really like my hair short. And, as far as that goes, just not like a pixie cut or anything above my chin. Right now my hair is down to my bra strap and, while it is naturally blond, I color it a rich dark brown and he likes it either color. As for how I dress...as long as I am not showing too much cleavage or wearing skirts or dresses that are way to short, he doesn't care how I dress. A little cleavage goes a long way. LOL!

Not if I can help it!! I don't mind having his opinion, but I have final say on what I wear and how I look. If I agree with him, then fine. If I don't, then too bad. He has an abnormal (to me) fondness for striped clothing....keeps trying to get me to buy tops with horizontal stripes. Unfortunately, my body is already too horizontal and anything that emphasizes that is NOT something I will wear. Plus, there are very few striped materials I like on adults who aren't referees or soccer players. He often dresses the way I used to dress my son when he was little. But, he likes it. Oh well.

No. The only thing mu husband will do, is compliment me. I too have long hair and he wants me to wear it out more. He is not controlling. I am sorry that you have to go through this.

oh yeah she has a say in wat ever i wear.yestwen we were going out for a dinner party i was wearing a kurtha pyjama(ethnic indian dress)and she said why on earth was i wearing that and i look very good in that..i was confused by the opposing views..then as usual our discussion turned to argument and the whole evening was ruined...so i say live wear do wat ever u do and let others do the same thing....wat say others??