Children, lessons,

I think this is a very good way to parent. Our State there is a mandatory 12 drunk tank stay, then you can bond out. i do think sitting in jail until court date is a wise idea for children who find themselves behind the wheel of car after drinking. I have not had to do this But I told my boys this would be the case if it ever happened and I am pretty sure I could have carried out that threat.

hm thats a tough, i think that in the heat of the moment because i would be furious i would leave them in jail over night just to make sure that it sinks into thier head that this is not cool, or okay in any kind of way.then i would bail them out the next and then they would be grounded for a year no keys to a car no car period. i remember my brother did that when i was young my mother bailed him out but he didnt breath fresh air in almost 8 months.

i wouldnt bail my kids out of jail regardless.. fact if they got busted for drunk driving.. theyd be safer locked in a jail cell than where i could get my hands on them for endangering not only their own lives.. but the lives of countless innocent others on the road.

That's a good question, and it's really hard to say because you don't know what you'll do until you're there. Common sense says make them stay in jail and learn their lesson, but your heart says take them out and bring them home. I hope I am not put in a situation like this.

i am sorry to say this but i am like u i would go see them but i would have to leave them there. and just to let u know mother i am only 26 years old and ur other daughter is only 28. but i think that if they were dumb enough to drink and drive then they need to stay where they are.

My Mama and Daddy always told us if you get in you better know how to get out. I didn't put ya there and I am not gonna get you out. It worked for me cause I knew they meant it and what would happen when I got home too!

no I cannot think that were I in the same situation I 'would leave my teenage kid in the jail overnight. What little punishment might be derived from this would be overcome from your kid thinking you did not love him or her enough to bail them out. the things that they might learn in that one night in a jail are almost worse than what they did. no bring them home then punish them but not by leaving them in jail overnight.

I agree with you, I had rather leave them in jail where them may just learn the hard way than visit them in the morgue where it's too late.

Well, it would depend on which child of mine was locked up...hehe....just joking....

I did this with my children but it just wasnt for dui it was if they ever get arrested, the tough love is very difficult. I received the phone call that he had been arrested for trespassing on a public baseball field. Which threw me for a loop, I asked the police officer if he mouthed off or try to run he said No. Well this was stupid so not only did I bail him out in 15 minutes I went to the courts and asked the judge if the officers have better things to do with thier time. It was 4 pm and a group of kids were playing ball, There was a sign on the outside of the fence on the opposite side of the ballfield that said No tresspassing which was all rusted. The judge dropped the charges and told the officer to start bringing her real criminals. That was the only time he got arrested and he told me it scared the crap out of him. My son was 16 years old when this happened. He had later told me this same office would pull him to the side and frisk him, and when he asked the officer what he was looking for he said nothing you just look like a punk. I called the police dept and reported the harrassment and it stopped.

I don't know what i would have done. I thank goodness never had to make such a choice.