Do you get mad at friends that do not agree with you?

Mad isn't the word for it in my case, because I have friends of all kinds of persuasions, but there are certain things that are principles of mine and I could not be a friend and have such opposing principles, one is racism, I would not be a friend to a racist, a member of the KKK etc. That person and I have no common ground and I don't want to be associated with that person at all.

Well I'm an atheist and my friends are all Christians. I'm also a Libertarian and my friends are mostly either socialists or at least social democrats. So a bit of mutual tolerance is necessary or I wouldn't have any friends.

your right, i really hate those people who just say yest with out thingking, but in the end they are the one who lose anything, each of person have thier own. but the good thing is follow the right way so you will not lost in the end.

I will say that I have to agree with you on the fact that friends should not get mad at each other, if everyone involved is not in agreement. A friendship can survive when you agree to disagree. However, it all depends on how serious the subject matter is to you. If I feel that a friend a disagreeing with me on something essential, like Jesus being the son of God. Then I do not think that would be a friendship that would work. A perfect example is that my roommate is Jewish. While I do not have anything against the Jewish religion, my beliefs are my center. I respect her beliefs and the fact that she does not believe that Jesus is the son of God, but I also do not consider her a friend in the sense that she wants to be to me. One day I was planning my gospel music and she told me that she did not like that kind of music and I was offended.

I do agree with you and if we all thought alike what a dull world this would be. Everyhthing would look and be the same and life would be very monotonous. Sometimes conversations are enjoyable just for the argument of them and sometimes you aren't going to change someone else's mind even if what they think is the most ridiculous thing in the world so why bother. Since we are each brought up differently we are going to form our own opinions about things and again, I do agree with you that we each have our own reasons for our own beliefs.

Hi raydene! You are such an open minded person and respect other people for who they are and what they are. Just like you, I believe that we are all different and that is why, I respect each other's individualities. My friends always have different opinions and views on different things but that does not stop us from being friends and loving each other. I do value their opinions and their friendships but we just don't dictate one another on what to do or what to believe. I guess, we can always disagree on so many things agreeably. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!

If any friend of mine believes differently to me, on any subject, I will listen, and weigh up their reasons... even debate the matter, whether I agree or not. I will put my reasons and they will put theirs, but if they don't convince me, then my beliefs stay the same. What I'm trying to say in a roundabout way is that I value the opinions of my friends, and will always listen to them, as I hope they would to me. Sometimes, you have to beg to differ, but it doesn't affect a good friendship. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. xx

No one should get mad at another person for disagreeing. People tend to get mad at others for their opinion on three occasions. First, when they lack confidence and are not sure how to interact with others skillfully. They tend to see everything as a slight, or aimed at them, and they find it difficult to deal with opinions other than their own. So they might get mad instead, especially if they find it difficult to put their own views forward to influence others. They would tend to react aggressively to get their point across. Second, dictatorial bullying types of people who believe they are always right and have to force their views on others by getting mad at them. It is difficult to have different views at those times because people who believe they have the only acceptable views will shout others down to impose those views. Third, if their beliefs are diametrically opposed to that of others, which sounds like your situation. But beliefs are not trivial things. Beliefs stand at the heart of who we are, they form our identity and they give us what we value. If we compromise them to suit others, we will either be like those people in the end, for a quiet life, or we will begin to doubt our own logic and values, which would then make us feel inadequate. My mother used to tell me: "Show me your company, and I'll tell you who you are," and I've never forgotten it. It has helped me to anchor myself to my values, to know who I am and to go with the right crowd that reflects who I wish to be. If your friends are anti-gay in their approach, sooner or later you will be branded as anti-gay too by association, no matter what you personally believe. Not only that, but our sense of justice is fundamental and if you ignore your sense of fair play simply to be part of a group, you will begin to hate yourself, especially when you have to constantly defend those views to others who don't subscribe to them, or you are likely to ditch your views to belong. Soon you'll have to make a choice because the hassle will prove too much getting mad at them, or being angry by what they are saying. Perhaps it is time to change your friends? Real friends reflect who we are, they share our fundamental beliefs, though they might differ in the less important ones, they uplift us, affirm us and reinforce us in our identity. They make us feel great to be in their company. They value what we say and what we contribute and, above all, they make us feel good about ourselves. If your friendship with that group isn't doing all of that, you really need to find another more suitable group of friends. As you say, you have to do and believe what makes you feel right if it is always at odds with the views of your friends, what kind of friendship is that? You also do not have the right to impose your views on them, neither do they have the right to impose their views on you, which is why we tend to gravitate towards like-minded people as friends.

I try not to get mad at peoples opinions that are different than my own, although I do sometimes get a little irritated. In the end I feel like everyone has a right to their own opinion and I don't feel like it's my place, or anyone's place for that matter to judge them and whether their opinion is right or wrong.

I agree to disagree with my friends in these situations and it usually diffuses the situation. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion even if it differes from ours and the love we feel for our friends outweighs the differences so I just let people BE and hope they also will allow me that privelege too. Ellie :D

I have friendslikethat also and I just keep quiet.to me gays are born that way and since that was the way God made them then okay. One of our best family friends is gay and my son and he have been friends since kindergarten. he has helped us in so many ways and been such a dear friend I could not imagine life without mike in it. My husband on the other hand was brought up as a strict Adventist and he felt like your friend that gays are sinners.yet when I showed him all the kindnesses that Mike had done for us over the years he had to admit that MIke was a dear friend.

I have friends who I disagree with about religion, politics, tastes in clothing, etc. and yet we are still friends... Friendship is not something that people grant only to people that are like themselves... Typically, there are differences between people. One of my teachers, Little Crow, used the illustration of the Sacred Hoop (visualize a medicine wheel or even a dream catcher and its roundness) You are at one place on the hoop. Let us say that you are at the top of the hoop. Let us say that the person who is your opposite, the person totally unlike you in all things is at the other end of the Hoop. (You might be tempted to call this an enemy but it need not be.) And your friend is right next to you on the hoop. You and your friend, no matter how close you are on the hoop will each have a different and equal perspective of reality as you are both on a different place on the hoop. You have your place on the hoop and your friend has his or her unique place on the hoop. You will never agree on every thing and that is as it should be. To expect otherwise would negate the fact that we are all unique expressions of the Creator. We are all equal in our sacredness and we are all connected and related to each other.

Not really, I don't really get mad at my friend when we disagree. In case we disagree on our belief, as much as possible we respect each other's opinion or much better if we dont really talk about it especially when we know that we will just end up in an argument. Cheers!

I don't get angry at them, no. I thoroughly enjoy a good arguement now and then about relevant subjects as long as it doesn't get personal. I don't think I have a single relationship in my life today in which I agree with the other person on all subjects. It is nearly impossible to achieve perfect accord with another person. There are "howevers" to this. I don't tolerate bigotry or outright prejudice in manner or word. If a friend or family member acts in a way that is clearly over the line using racially charged, or homophobic language I will correct them and usually not politely.

[i]since it's part of God's design it can not be wrong[/i] I wish more ppl would take that position because really its so true...anyway..do I get mad at ppl who dont agree with me? Of course not..Coudl you just imagine how boring life would be and how at a standstill the human race would be if we all agreed on everything?! It'd be horrible! There would be no thinking outside the box which would mean no progress ya know..I'd hate to live in a world like that! HOWEVER when someone disagrees with me and is RUDE about it...thats a different story..I dont get peeved about them having their own opinion, I get peeved at how they go about voicing it if that makes sense.

No I don't get mad but if they are really passionately convinced that their opinion is the right one and I disagree then I prefer not to discuss that subject with them. I move onto other subjects as I do not want to jeopardize our friendship.

No Mom I don't get mad because they feel differently from me - that is the right of each and every one of us and I respect their right to their opinion! I would feel differently if they attacked someone for instance if they thought that being gay was wrong and they attacked a gay friend/ family member - THEN I would be really mad! xxx

My own mother and I disagreed on 2 very important topics, religion and politics. We learned to just never discuss them with each other. We are both too stubborn to see the other's opinion on the topic, and I personally think she is wrong in her decisions but I'm sure she felt that of me too. We got along fine so long as neither topic was mentioned. I also have a very good friend who is prejudice against gays. She always makes derogitory comments about them. I grew up very close to a gay couple and have no problem with gays at all. What she says bothers me a bit, but I just ignore it and change the subject. Everyone has their own opinions, and we won't agree on every topic. But if the friendship is strong, you can see past their faults and views.

Even if they are my friend or not. Every person is entitled to his/her own opinion. I respect people who gives their opinion with pure honesty. I don't get mad to friends who has a different point of view from me. They have that perception because somehow they also had a valid reason behind it. If my friends and I have all the same thinking all the time, that could be a so boring friendship.

I have one friend who is devout christian and I am an atheist....when we were in college neither of us really discussed our beliefs as they weren't as important before we had families, so our relationship was formed off of similar personalites and likes. Now tho we still love each other and get aong, we find the need not to discuss those topics and just agree to disagree since neither of us can prove the other wrong.