All Is Well Again Now... Thank You To All My Lovely Mylot Friends...
By Darkwing
@Darkwing (21583)
May 9, 2008 7:09am CST
I believe that as a result of putting all your suggestions together regarding my close friend, plus a significantly good change in the weather, he is now back to his old self, and much more jovial and cheerful.
He came online on the Friday and chatted with me for hours, which was when he opened up to me about his feeling of insecurity. We had a long chat on IM, and I still kept the texts going each day. Then, when I came home from karaoke on Saturday night, he was waiting to talk with me again. He was much lighter hearted, but he actually opened up and put my mind at rest as to whether I was wasting my time and he his by my being here for him. He assured me that that wasn't the case, and Sunday, we spoke again. He told me he was thinking of going down to see our friends, who had the recent loss, and we arranged to meet on Wednesday, so that I could give him their gifts of protection.
Wednesday's meeting was very relaxed... nothing was mentioned about his recent down time, and we had a good chat about this and that, which we needed to sort out, so it seems that we made a breakthrough together here, my friends, and I'm so happy to have him back, as his old self.
Thank you all so very much, from the bottom of my heart, for being there for me, with your words of wisdom and your positive attitudes. I love you all! xx
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 May 08
Hello my friend. I'm sorry to catch up late on this. However, I would like to say that I'm glad things has been fine on your friend's end. I hope that he will continue to remain positive and see things on a better angle now that he's fine. And he's lucky to have a good friend like you to console him.
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@weemam (13372)
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10 May 08
I am soplesed he is feeling better , Did you leave the basket with the present at his door? I am sure you must be relieved he is OK,I worry about friends if I haven't seen them for a while too , we are always here for you pal , jut as you are always there for us , I am pleased that you are feeling more relaxed now , take care xx
@Darkwing (21583)
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10 May 08
Yes, me too, my dear friend. No, I never got to leave the basket at his door, and I was looking at the gorgeous bluebells and aqualegia I have growing in my garden. The aqualegia range from deep red through pink to cream, and from deep purple to a lilac colour. They're beautiful at the moment and would have been great in a basket, but there you go... I could hardly take them along to the club with me! lol.
He arranged over the weekend to meet me on Wednesday evening when I gave him his well-belated birthday gift and a set of amulets and stuff for our friends and himself. He was over the moon with his gifts, which just goes to show that his mood is much improved. I can see his point... he needs to be working with medical people around him. Without that environment, he doesn't feel to safe if things go wrong suddenly.
Thank you my dear friend, and yes, I am always here for all my friends. I just got a little sidetracked there for a while, and worried that something was wrong with his tests. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution. xxx
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@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Yes, I can't tell you the feeling when he waved to me, and smiled, from the other end of the room. Then he came across, sat down and was just the same old friend I'd known before... no mention of down times, and perfectly relaxed and happy.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend and thank you for your contribution. xxx
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
10 May 08
Darkwing this is wonderful news! Hugs for both of you.
Tell him he is now a part of the magic of mylot, and he'll never be alone again.
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@littleowl (7157)
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10 May 08
My Dear Friend-It makes me so happy to know that things are now finally back to normal-the Lord and Lady knew of both of your plights and came through for you both-blessed be!! Your friend littleowl
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@Darkwing (21583)
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10 May 08
Yes, they did my friend. I did call on them once, and my spirits were a great comfort too. Now, I just have to hope that the piece of writing I gave him is not going to upset him too much. Spirits say that he's ok with it and that he has read it more than once... three times, to be precise... and cried.
I've only heard a thank you on Friday morning and the note wasn't mentioned, so I'm leaving it to him now. If he wants to ask questions about what happened, I'll be happy to answer, but if not, the only thing I'll ask is about what I want to do with the poem.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend and thank you for your contribution. xx
@littleowl (7157)
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10 May 08
hello my friend-am sure all will be alright and so will the poem-bright blessings littleowl
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 May 08
I am so glad that he has come round and that everything is ok now and you know how glad as I have seen hurt over this for a while I just hope that it stays this way now as I know I would never want to loose you as my Friend so I hope he appreciates you as much as I do
Love you and a big Hug xxxxx
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Yes, you're one of the few who knows how difficult he can be to get through to at times, my dear friend. I know he cares a lot for me, but he just has these little hangups in the past, which I can't persuade him to let go of. He, especially, knows how you should leave the past negatives behind and move forward with positive step, but I just can't seem to get him to do that. Oh well... given time, who knows, but time is fast running out, huh, Gabs!
Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution, and for your kind words. Love you. xxx
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Thank you for your kind words, my friend, but he says I can't give him the security he's lacking, and I agree, because I don't have a medical degree. As he is at present, he feels quite secure, but with his current job going, he feels that unless he can find a similar position, his medical security will be lost. I'm sure you understand what I mean.
As far as being proud of me is concerned, I'm not even so sure that this is the case, but I know he feels comfortable having me around to turn to when the going gets rough. I do get pretty upset and frustrated when I see my friends this way, especially him, because he has to make every day count, and I feel that when he's in that mood, life is passing him by all too quickly. Anyway... as things are for the moment, he's as bright as a button, and sharp with it. lol. It's good to have him back as he was.
Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution, my dear friend, especially your very kind words about me. xx
@crosa125 (1483)
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22 May 08
oh my god,iiiiiiiiiiiiiiii'm going to kill myself,i haven't decided yet i am going to do that lol.....well the first friend and first discussion after long log time,had to be THIS ONE? don't you think i've got heart and i'll get JEALOUS???how can you do that to me?........hiaa,how have you been?i thought you were talkin about me then...lol....sorry for not bein there for ya
@Darkwing (21583)
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28 May 08
Hello, my friend!!! How are things with you... it seems like ages!
I hope you're enjoying life... not sure whether you're still travelling around or not, but that's how I'd like to be at the moment, financially free to go anywhere I please at any time I wish to. That would be great, but the weather here at the moment could be a whole lot better! It's very wet and has been pretty windy too... I just came back from a trip to the West Country. Only one day was good, weatherwise, so I had to cram a lot in!
Thanks for coming in, my friend... you were there in the end! Brightest Blessings, always.
@Darkwing (21583)
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15 Jun 08
The weather hasn't been too bad just lately. I went to Devon for a couple of days, returning yesterday, and today, I travelled to Colchester to dogsit for my friend whilst she goes into hospital. It's tiring, but I love travelling.
Where did you go today... did you have fun? I guess a light rainproof with a hood is the best bet... one which you can fold right up, so it's no bother to carry around. I miss you too, my friend, and will happily stay in touch. I understand that you have a lot of sorting to do.
Brightest Blessings, and thank you for popping in! x
@crosa125 (1483)
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14 Jun 08
hi love,cheers for you kindness,yes i'm here and try to enjoy the life and the weather here in uk,we are going out today but i have to take everything just in case it rains,well as you know i have to pick up everything from scratch,so i won't have enough time to go online(not on mylot) but still i misse you.
plz stay in touch and have fun,take care
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@Bizziebod (3497)
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9 May 08
I'm so happy your friend is getting more back to being his old self! I'm glad it's taken the worry off you also! It's great to have some good news for once! Brightest Blessings!
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@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
You seem to be one of the few people who can read my angst, my friend. Yes, it has taken a lot of worry and insecurity off me, but when I saw him wave from the other end of the club, and then come across with a big smile, and just continue like nothing had happened, I could have cried with joy. We had a good heart to heart on IM, so there was no need to speak any further on the matter, when we met.
The main thing is, he's much brighter, jovial and his old self again, enjoying each day as it comes. Now, if only I could help him to close the door on his negative past, and move on with PMA, then I might feel I've accomplished something special!
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for your contribution. xx
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Yes, we did reconnect well... it was like nothing had happened in between. We were just the same old couple of people as before, very comfortable in each other's presence and not really any mention of what he'd been through. He knows I'll always be here.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend and thank you for your contribution, as well as your kind words. xxxx
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Yes, Raydene, that's exactly how I am. Too sentimental and sensitive by half, to the point where I feel unwanted if they can't talk to me. Oh well, all's well that ends well, and life goes on. It's great to see him back to his old self, anyway.
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for your contribution. xxxx
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
9 May 08
Hi Darkwing! That is such a welcoming news! I am so happy for you and your friend. I am so glad that he is feeling light hearted and in a good mood. Now, we have one less lonely person in this world..thanks to your unconditional friendship and patience! The world needs more people like you dear friend. I love you and I feel blessed that you are my friend. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Awwww... thank you Faith. He even intimated that I make him happy, but I just wish he wouldn't try to deal with things alone... it's so much easier to see the upside if you have somebody to talk to. Oh well... I suppose that's him, and I wouldn't change him for the World.
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend... love you too. xxx
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@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
9 May 08
Oh Darkwing, superb news. I am so happy for you and especially for him. It is so hard to get yourself out of these depressive ruts. It feels like such a long climb up that very steep and slippery slope.
You are a marvellous friend to have someone to cherish and I think he knows that! You deserve your friends and they will stand by you, that's for sure. Be they online or personal friends. They share the love that you have for your fellow man and other beings.
It is with pleasure that I respond to your discussions, thank you for being YOU. Hope to see you soon!!!!!
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@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Awwwwww, thank you for those kind words, my friend. Yes, it is difficult to get out of depressive ruts, but it's difficult for your friends too. I came to realise that some time ago, so I never push my friends away to that extent. I do like to be alone at times, but they'll always know why and where I am. If only he could be more like that, but then, as I said before, I wouldn't change him for the world. It's so pleasing to see that "little boy" impish look when he comes back!
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend and thank you for your contribution. xxx
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 May 08
Even I am relieved to hear this Darkwing so it must be an immense weight from your soul. I know this was troubling you terribly and that you yourself were hurting.
I hope you have found your equilibrium again....although I'm unsure if this is a state any of us can achieve anymore.
Brightest Blessings and thanks for sharing this part of your journey with us. xx
@Darkwing (21583)
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14 May 08
Thank you my dear friend... yes, it is an immense weight from my soul, and it was troubling me a lot. I think we can maintain our equilibrium for periods of time, but there's often a small break in between.
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for your contribution. xxx
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
9 May 08
am so happy for your friend who has recovered back to himself,it can be painful to have a friend just get down like this case tank goodness you guys are back together and ready to live constructively and i must say welldone to you for really sticking by him when he needed you and that is sign of good friendship.
@Darkwing (21583)
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9 May 08
Thank you my friend. It wasn't easy for me, because I feel his pain, we're that spiritually connected, but I know it wasn't an easy time for him either. He's losing the security of having medical people around him all day, and he needs something or somebody to replace that. I'm trying hard!!! lol.
Brightest Blessings and thank you so much for your kind words, my friend. xx