This site is starting to freak me out!

The only thing that I can think of is that it is someone that was a previous member but then left and has joined as someone else. I do not know how people are getting on your friends list without being added though, I have heard a few people say that this has happened. Delete what you have to delete if you are feeling uncomfortable, just keep the ones that are in your close circle so to speak, the ones that you have known the longest, maybe that will sort it out. Have a good day, our day is nearly over here!!

Some people, it appears, have nothing better to do....at least they are focused on you...you got someones attention ;) don't fret, you'll find ways to block what you need to..

woww..., that is really scary... i wonder how does the person know your old avatar if he/she is a new member??? and how can the person pm you if he/she is not in your friends' list??? that is a bit weird... i should be more careful here as well from now onwards then... online world is always scary and not safe at all... thanks for sharing this story and warning me...

I think we're both talking about the same person...but his number has risen as far as friends and now has 7053 friends and remains having only four points and has only been here a month--I mean this guy is cropping allover the place and not just here--he's on several other networking sites as well--as for the person with only has 26 posts and seems to know your other avatars..sounds like a "reincarnated" MyLotter..one that may have been banned and came back under another identity --creepy

are you sure? why don't you ask admin for this case. as far as i know someone cann't be just friend of us without approving them first

I don't understand how these "friends" got on your list. I now have 10 pages and frankly, although I must have accepted each one - I have requested fewer than 10 - I do wonder whether I really know them. Perhaps I should delete everyone and then ask those that I actually do regard as "friends", i.e. those that comment on my discussions and me on theirs to let me be their friend. I confess that I do stalk you - only on here though. But you know that!!

Who did the message come from? I just tried to send a message to someone who is not on my friends list here, & it would not let me send it. I also tried to send a message to someone who had not accepted a friends request from me, & it would not go through. I am thinking this is one of two things. First thought is that he found some way to circumvent the MyLot software & got a message to you. The other thought is - & I have heard that it has happened before - he tried to send his or her friend a message, & somehow, the wrong person (you) got it instead of his friend (Or you both got it). I also understand that you were attacked by a troll or several trolls. Who was it & what discussion(s) did it happen in?

i think there are many people here who are not here for the very intended purpose. they are here to follow you so they just play heed to these things like what your avatar was. but till now nobody is doing this to me. they have done lot more damage with my ratings and all.

Hello kbourgerie, This sounds really freaky. I hope you have already contacted mylot about the problem. It's just not right to get PM from people who aren't on your friends list. There have been problems with PMs during last year too, where one person's PM would land in someone's inbox who was not the intended recipient of the PM and not even on friends list of the sender. The lesson learned was that it's not that safe to use personal information on messages here. I have also heard about someone being automatically added to friends' lists of new users. It possible that he is referrer of those new users in which an automatic friends request is already waiting when a user joins. But, if those users are did not come through his referral link, then it's strange indeed and I don't know how could that user do it. It is the same user who had no posts initially but over 1500 friends. I hope mylot staff looks into the matter and resolve it.

I look over the profiles before I check to have them as a friend. I am like you and get a little shaky on people and the internet. I have learned to like Mylot and will use it. I also keep an eye on what they are posting, what type of questions and answers that they have. If I don't like some of the post, more adult subjects, I delete them. I am not on here to get the most friends, not a contest right? Just to make a few good friends and talk with adults and some younger ones have some good points also on some discussions. I am glad that you feel that you can rant and people understand. I don't keep an eye for changing pictures or advatars. I hope things work out for you and you are feeling better today.

How can they PM you if they are not on your friends list? I don't understand that. I would report that to mylot myself, if I was you. Especially after what happened before. Please keep me on your friends list. I can have Sparks, and P1ke and Nova to give me a good reference.

Oh KB this is serious. Talk to admin about this. They may be able to help. I have answered another question like htis and I am happy to say that this hasn't happened to me yet and a few other people have said the same. As your friend I am happy if you delete me and start all over again (as long as you remember to reinstate me as your friend, of course!). But happy to go along with whatever makes you feel OK and not being 'stalked'. This must be someone who has either been around for a while and has only done a couple of responses and that is why their number is so low or as you say is someone who has or had another identity here and is using a new name. I am sure admin would be able to help you here as stalking is an offence to us and to the site. Good luck honey and if you need to delete us all and start again, then please do it now! I hope you have a good day at work.

Some people don't have lives...

yes mylot is great .i am work hard to get my mylot earnings growing up.i also learn real english from this mylot.i hope that i could make more friends.i am glad here.mylot is really great.LOL

I have to say that is very strange Unless you accept them they should not be on your Friends list I found a couple on mine a few weeks back which I knew I had not accepted but nothing since

hello kbourgeri, as long your happy in your new avatar who care, be happy my dearfriend, just those people dont even have anyhting to see just to judge others. Happy posting

I can't say I blame you. I had a man ask me where I was from. I didn't answer. I wasn't about to tell a stranger where I was from. He was begging me to add him because he wasnted to know more about where I was from and how I lived. I saw him already on my friends list so I deleted him. That really scared me. I didn't know him and I wasnot going to tell him where I lived. I don't want someone showing up at my house that I don't know. I don't blame you a bit for being upset.

That is really weird. I have seen those people with multiple thousands of friends who have only been here for 4 hours, have one post, whether it is a discussion they responded to or one they started and, they have multiple thousands of profile hits. I can't figure that out. I have been here for around, or over 3 months, and I only have 386 profile hits and 85 friends. Even if a person managed to come here and bring every single one of their friends, how could they possible be here for 4 hours and have accumulated multiple thousands of friends and profile hits in that short of time? Something weird is going on here. I thought that was weird and sort of just blew it off but, now that I know that others have noticed this trend, I am having a hard time just blowing it off. I haven't gotten any PMs from people that aren't on my friends list but, I think that is because I am not yet being stalked like you are. I don't know what the deal is in your neck of the myLot woods and, I wish I could help you! I do follow your posts...I swear I am not stalking you! And, I have seen that you have had some serious drama knock on your myLot door. BTW...after rereading your post, I think that you and I might be talking about the same person. This person has been here for one month and now has over 7,000 friends and 4 posts which went down from 5 recently. They requested me as a friend but, that was literally 4 hours after they had just become a member. I have kept their request without denying or accepting because I couldn't figure this person out. I didn't know why they sent me a request and, I was baffled about how they managed to have some very many friends and profile hits in the few hours that they had been here with, at that time, only one response. We don't share interests and this person has never responded to anything I have started. How does this happen. I wondered if this person was a celebrity that I was unaware of. And, this person is young. Might we be talking about the same person?

kbourfgerie I have lately had people wanting to be friends with hardly any posts and a zillion friends and contrary to my feeling I have been turning them down. I am usually only to happy to add friends but after having had my star rating torn down I am more cautious too. I havent had any added automatically with being asked thank goodness for that. It was so odd when I deleted that one person I got back one star so it does make me wonder.I did not know you could pm somebody if they weren't on your friends list ,thats odd,maybe a glitch in mylot?

Theres this one person I deleted from my list not so long ago because of the disparity between his activity here and his friend list. It just did not add up. I saw one of his discussions since then and it was about some sizable online earning he was able to make. Now if this is the same person causing a stir on here i do understand. Just about everyone whose friendship request I have to approve or ask for have this person on their list. Thats not the only thing that has been bugging me either. With only five post he is always sitting right there on the first page of so many persons friends list. I think that is strange because as far as I know the list is arranged in the order of that the friends were added. I do think mylot should be informed and that this persons activities be monitered. It would seem that he is able to some how manipylate mylots system and that is just not good.