Do you consider consequences when you decide?

Good for you. Considering consequences is one of the attributes of an effective leader. I like your reply, always. I am also learning more and more about people and their opinions here. Thank you.

Dear Tarachand....Do you know that being with a person who reacts without considering consequences is very nerve wrecking? Maybe I can't speak for the rest, but that's how I feel. People especially us - the younger generation, always say we'll wait till we're older to do stuff. My grandpa used to tell me that as he gets older, he became more forgetful, tired, aching all over, blurred vision, lost his balance, can't hear very well, lost concentration, sleepy etc. In the end, he never got to do the things he had wanted done when he was young, and that includes praying. He had to pray sitting or lying down. My grandpa has since passed away. Since I am always a good listener, and love being with my family, I learned alot from them and try to do as much when I am younger. I would age with pleasure but would not want to age regretting. I often tell the same story to my friends so I won't forget, and so I can share this with them too in the hope that they would change what needs changing now, before it is too late. I have no intention to teach anyone older who I have so much respect for. Your response just reminded me of what my grandpa said. I am just learning and I appreciate all those who have taught me in myLot too and I hope I don't offend you or anyone on my threads. Thank you Tarachand.

I completely agree with you, as I said I consider this as an affliction and would like to get cured completely, maybe time will tone me down further? My biggest problem (and also an asset) is that I look at the bright side of things and am too trusting, and hence I react impulsively accordingly, very rarely in anger. This has resulted in a lot of angst, loss quite often, but has been a learning, as has everthing else in life.

I'm sorry for the late reply 242238. I was away for a few days. I agree with you that planning is one of the decisions we should be making to build our confidence. Thank you for your response.

Fixing it later may be too late - damage may be done already, don't you think? Thank you for your response.

yeah but i usually do the right thing it just doesn't take me like to decide from right and wrong

Thanks Jetdanet.

Don't we all? As long as it is under control, its ok I guess to let off steam ocassionally but not too often cos that can be quite embarassing, eh? Thank you for responsind.

What is?...ok, let me think about this. Thank you for your response.

Don't you think getting emotional is a reaction too? I got into that once..or twice, hehehe, and an hour later, when I recalled what transpired, I felt really stupid and embarassed...not a nice feeling for me. Maybe we need to analyse this emotion, eh? and figure out a way to reduce it. Thank you for your response.

They say too much is less....close your eyes and just go for it then. If the decision is the wrong one then bear or take responsibility for it. People do make mistakes cos they are not perfect as long as you don't always make the mistakes. Taking responsibility for your mistakes is also welcomed by most and can be considered good attributes to being an effective leader. I don't know, I can just give my opinion cos I am also still learning to be an effective leader in the company someday. Thank you for your input.

Like right now? Thank you for responding. Good thinking.....

Depending on the situation,I don't to. Thank you for your response.

Well, I'm glad that you do. Thank you for your response.

Hmmm...is this why most leaders, directors, etc. go for golf? Good practice to becoming effective leaders of the future. Thank you for your response.

Well, some matters do need quick decision if its utmost urgent, but somehow, I believe, if a person is naturally decent, even his quick decision would include considering others. If a person is not a nice person, his quick decision would naturally include hurting others, revenge, getting even, ruining and bashing, etc. The impact of not thinking before you act can be very damaging so you have to care. God expect you to. Society expect you to. Your loved ones expect you to. I would too. I'm sorry, this is just my opinion... maybe you know better, eh? Thank you for your response. I appreciate it very much.

Its more important to consider or think first before reacting then. I often sleep anger off rather then reacting so I do not regret or hurt anyone. Thank you for your response.