I wasn't going to do this but.....
By byfaithonly
@byfaithonly (10698)
United States
May 13, 2008 8:56am CST
I think it's about time!
Relationships??? Why is it when you use that word many people first think of 'romance'? Boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, the mushy stuff!
This morning I realized, experienced, recognized a very special relationship in my life - my friends here at myLot! People I have never met and may never.
As some have noticed I've not been very if at all active on myLot the last couple months. I've been horribly ill and it's made it almost impossible for me to spend time online and on myLot.
During this 'absence' I have received several messages and emails from friends who have 'missed me' or were concerned because they hadn't seen me in awhile.
For me, this is a very very special 'relationship' - people who some would concider or refer to as 'total strangers' expressing concern, care, feelings for another. It brought me to tears thinking how wonderful it is to have this type of relationship.
For discussions purposes - have I totally lost it or do you think that this type of relationship is special also?
P.S. for those who may not know, I'm having a very difficult time reading so may not reply quickly (explains not responding to many discussions and not being able to be active on myLot - yes, I do read discussions before responding :).
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26 responses
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
13 May 08
As you know, Faith, I haven't been on site much for quite awhile as well. I didn't even know you were feeling poorly. May the Lord heal your body quickly so that you can get back to the things you enjoy doing. I agree that there are those whom we've never met that seem to care about us more than even our actual family and friends. Not to say that our family doesn't love us but it's nice to know that strangers actually feel our pain and joys as well. Bless you and get well soon.
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
13 May 08
Yes, You are always missed when you are not around. I pray that God give you a special blessing and heal you from the top of your head to the soles of your feet. That he touch your eyes that you may be able to read your responses and that you can see more clearly. Jesus said, "By my stripes you are healed. and where two or more are gathered in my names sake your prayer will be answered." May you feel a special touch as you read this response and give him all the Praise and Glory for all the wonderful things that he has done for you. In Jesus Christ Precious Name. Amen!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
17 May 08
Hello Faith, I'm so sorry, I was unaware you were ill. I knew you were very busy and simply thought you were caught up in all your activities as usual.
When I think of 'relationships' I think of my 'doings' with others...even my beloved pets, it doesn't have to be mushy or romantic or even boy/girl stuff.
You haven't lost it, you are just a little humbled that some folk think you are special....because you are a special lady. I'm glad you have those sort of friends. I've thought I've formed a close bond with on-line people in the past but they have all eventually stopped answering the emails I send them.
Maybe it's me that is unlikeable...not to worry, I've become more cynical and less gullible.
Please get well and quickly too. Hugs. xxx.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
13 May 08
Yes, I believe that relationships like this are very important. I treasure all of my friends even if I don't get to see them all the time. I think of my online friends the same as friends who have moved away and I don't see often if at all.
Friendship is a treasure and we need to remember that our friends help us no matter where they are. I hope you get to feeling better soon.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
13 May 08
Yes, I believe that relationships like this are very important. I treasure all of my friends even if I don't get to see them all the time. I think of my online friends the same as friends who have moved away and I don't see often if at all.
Friendship is a treasure and we need to remember that our friends help us no matter where they are. I hope you get to feeling better soon.
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@stormeetigress (487)
• United States
19 May 08
I met the man I consider my best guy friend, aside from my husband, online in a chatroom going on 11 years ago. He and I are still very good friends to this day. He lives in a different state, and we may not talk as much these days but he's still there. He's been there through a lot of life's trials and has always offered a shoulder when I needed on.
Online relationships are some of the best because you actually build a relationship with someone based on who they really are not what they look like! I truly cherish the wonderful friendships I've made online, and do have concern for my friends when they are not around!
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
14 May 08
Sorry to hear that you are suffering with some medical issues. That is difficult, and to make matters worse it impacts your work on the computer. Hope you see some improvement soon, along with blessings that God works out of trials.
djbtol
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
16 May 08
Hello Faith. I'm sorry friend but I didn't know you had been so ill. I knew you had lots of things going on and naturally thought they were taking up all your time.
The word 'relationship' conjures up for me any 'doings' I have with others...even if the 'others' are my pets...
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I'm glad some people have made you feel special by contacting you because you are a very special lady. I don't think you've lost it. I think you are simply humbled by the kindness and thoughtfulness of others. Bless you sweety...try to be well quickly.
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I'm glad some people have made you feel special by contacting you because you are a very special lady. I don't think you've lost it. I think you are simply humbled by the kindness and thoughtfulness of others. Bless you sweety...try to be well quickly. @slickcut (8141)
• United States
14 May 08
Hello Faith,I knew you had not been on for awhile,but i thought you were busy working on other sites that you are on,i had no idea that you were ill....I am so sorry...I am like you ,i think relationships can be for anyone,not just for romance,but i know that most people will jump to that conclusion,but its not true...Here on mylot we have realtionsships with our friends...I have gotten to know some of my friends quite well,and i think of them in my everyday life...Now you have really got me worried,you sound as if you have been really ill...I hope you are getting better,and i do hope you will be ok...I have missed you,but had i known you were sick i would have sent you a message....Do let me know how you are feeling.....
@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
15 May 08
I have made some very long lasting friendships on the internet. People I have never and never will meet. I feel a bond and kinship with them that is special, and I think the reason for this is the fact that we care for each other because we want to. It is not family, or members of our church, or co-workers, people that we feel an obligation to have a relationship with, and love and care about. We have these relationships because for one reason or another, this person or that has touched our life, or heart in some way. To me that is the most precious relationship you can have.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
17 May 08
Nice to meet you. In fact my main reason for joining mylot is to meet with people from around the world. I think mylot is an excellent forum for that, to meet and become friends with people like yourself. Let us keep in touch.
Have a nice day !
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
17 May 08
You have been terribly missed faith and I have been praying for you..I pray that you can be active here again soon, I miss your wisdom and your wonderful help in my posts..
Yes, at first I also do think of a man/woman when I first hear the word relationship, but I also think of friends and the most important of all, the relationship with G♥d.
Take care, and get well soon..:)
@cowboy_up (32)
• United States
19 May 08
I think that online friendships can be very special, these are people as you said that we have never met and except for a very small percentage we more than likely never will, however these online friends, because of their anonimity as well as friendship make it possible for us to disclose and discuss thngs that we don't or wouldn't say to anyone else.
@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
14 May 08
Everyone seems to forget when we are on the internet, we are talking to real people. After you talk to someone for a time, hear about their life and who they are, not just their job, we build bonds, regardless if we can see them or not. Just like we can love and be with our family, a million miles away....
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
14 May 08
Yes, these special relationships we had with others is one thing that makes us come back here again and again. It's undeniable and obvious, for we never knew how we helped others by sharing our own experiences with them and helpful opinions as well.
I have also been ON and OFF here, I have still have some personal problems to take care of but still manages to drop a post or two whenever I feel like my mind is relaxed for a short while.
Still thankful that my friends do value my presence here, as what I have recently read from a post I've been to..
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 May 08
Take your time. I am in no hurry. I am sorry to hear about your illness. I hope you are feeling better now. I regard my friends here at My Lot as real friends.I know I have gotten to know my friends here and I do worry when I don't hear from them. So it is a relationship to me.
@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
14 May 08
Faith, I've often wondered where you've been of late. I'm really sorry to hear that it's illness that has kept you away from myLot -- this place really isn't the same without you. I hope you'll be able to make a full "comeback" very soon.
As for relationships, it really does seem like the "mushy" stuff gets the most attention, doesn't it? I guess that makes sense given the intensity of the feelings that romantic love can inspire. Yet love relationships often end with extreme bitterness, so much so that the "love" aspect of the relationships can seem to be completely obliterated by the time two people part. Your MyLot friends seem to be doing a great job of showing their love and concern for you during a time when you really need their support. Surely those relationships are just as valid and real and special as any other.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 May 08
I also feel this is avery special kind of relationship
as I have experienced so much love and kindeness shared
here by mylotters and its just wonderfulWe have shared
troubles and prayed for fellow mylotters who are ill
or have close relatives who are very ill and it
makes all of us much closer even though we have never
met. byfaithonly I hope you will soon be feeling a lot
better and be back on mylot.take care. we all are rooting
for you. love.
@flirtacious1026 (1)
• United States
14 May 08
I believe that friends on here are special. That no matter if u have seen someone or not or have only known someone a short while you can form a special relationship with them. Life and Friendship works in so many ways. You must have some great friends on here if they message you while your away therefore I dont think ur crazy I think that that relationship is completely special.
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