Dating Question
By mlhuff12
@mlhuff12 (797)
United States
May 13, 2008 10:26pm CST
I don't have much experience in dating. I am actually new to this. I just got divorced. And before that I only ever dated 1 other guy...I met this great guy online. The first date went really well...This was actually kinda like a blind date. I've never met the guy, just seen his picture and chatted online once before we met...We've been seeing eachother only once a week though. All the people that I've dated I've worked with. So I guess it made it easier to see eachother more often. But now, 2 working adults with their own schedules...Is this normal?
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10 responses
@ameeluv (388)
• Saint Lucia
16 May 08
techinciLly it is nromal.. most poeple date online so i guess you have nun to worry about..
i jus never do it anymore..
i had this bad expereicne with my ex..
whoi did meet onlinee..
he turned out to be the biggest scam ever..
what u seee in picturess .. they dont tell as much words as you would like them too..
he lied.. cheated..... he was broke.. im sorry but he lied about ltos of stuff.. and he was a possessive one too..
i tried really.. til he did the unthinkable..
i regert doing it but i guesss i am thankful for such an experience.. im never to repeat again
that i might sayy...
it was gosh a really hard time
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
15 May 08
This is very normal, and healthy that you can still maintain your own life and slowing incorperate his into yours. There is no need to rush anything. My fiance is a truck driver, so when we first started dating at times we only actually saw eachother a few times a month, neither of us wanted to move too quickly, sometimes he would be home but between our childrens scheduals we still wouldnt see eachother, we would talk on the phone alot but in time if it is meant to be it will grow. He now lives with me and even tho he is still on the road alot we have blended our lives together. :) good luck and follow your heart but let your head in on the decisions :)
@Antianara (608)
• Australia
18 May 08
it's perfectly normal, you don't want to rush things at this stage.
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
14 May 08
I'll let you in on a little secret. When I first stated dating my husband, we only saw one another once a week. It's normal, at least once a week is good, you have something to look forward to. Take your time with this. I hope it works out well for you. No rush.
@mlhuff12 (797)
• United States
14 May 08
Thanks for the comment. You are right that I don't want to rush into anything. That's what I did when getting married and that didn't end pleasantly. I keep on telling me this and that I need to relax and just enjoy spending time with him. So maybe I'll listen better coming from someone else.
@devil77 (143)
• Canada
14 May 08
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now and we mostly see each other on the week end.From time to time we do stuff during the week.we are planning on moving in with each other soon,then we could spend more time with each other.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
25 Dec 08
This discussion has been around for 8 months already. So how did it go? Like others said, it's perfectly normal. I remember one time i had a girlfriend whom i meet for an average of twice a month! That's got to suck really. Maybe it's got something to do with incompatibility so it didn't work out pretty well.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
14 May 08
I think, there is nothing wrong in it. If you both feel comfortbale in your relationship, then no one has any right to point a finger at you. You yourself should not feel guilty consious about it. You may please be positive in your approach towards that man. I hope, by now you would have come to know how good, friendly and reliable he is.
best of luck to you!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
15 May 08
I think that at the beginning of a relationship seeing each other once a week is fine. Then for the rest of that week you can look forward to the next time you meet. Yes, with work commitments it would be challenging to see each other more often. Get to knowing one another slowly is a great thing to do. Then you will really feel that you two are compatible rather than having rushing into a serious relationship. Meeting someone on line gives you an idea of what they are like and now you have met the guy your can really enjoy getting to know him when you meet up with him every week. Text messages, telephone calls and emails are good ways to communicate during the week. Good luck.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
14 May 08
i think so. i believe you're both matured enough for this matter. anyway, what makes you think its not normal. as long as you know you're not doing anything wrong i guess its really alright then. and as long as it makes you happier just go on, don't mind anything else. its you thats more important.
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
14 May 08
my boy fren and i dont live in the same city now due to different work profile for the past 2 years and so we date once in 2-3 months while we talk much in the phone and i think its so normal for such dates knowing that i have something to look up to and i enjoy the space of my own n yet have a healthy realtionship.
In this modern world, where no one has enough time to spare, once a week date is perfectly fine , just that dont rush to conclusions and commitments very early.take your time slow...Good luck dear