How do you do it?
@Steph_shortnsweet (62)
United States
3 responses
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
15 May 08
He is your spouse, communtication is the key. Let him know how you feel, let him know how much you love him but you arent feeling appreciated. Appreciate him for what he does and its amazing how it comes back to you. Also appreciate yourself, how can one expect to get others to appreciate them if they are not showing themselves the appreciation they deserve.
Do you know how much a nanny, maid and cook makes, let alone a babysitter, now we know you are not any of those but you do all of those jobs and maybe more, so figure it out and pat yourself on the back show yourself how much you appreciate yourself and 9 out of 10 times it comes back to you.
Good Luck... go out and get yourself a massage, show yourself you care :)
@Steph_shortnsweet (62)
• United States
15 May 08
Thank you very much, I never thought about appreciating my self. I usualy feel guilty about it.I'll go do something fun just for me. :)
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
15 May 08
your welcome, dont feel guilty about taking care of yourself, when your in a plane they always tell you when the oxygen masks come down put it on yourself first then take care of your child. There is a good reason for this, if you dont you may not be able to take care of your child because you wont be there.
Same goes with life in general, you can take care of others so much better if you first take care of yourself. Nourish yourself so you can nourisher others.
I'm glad that helped, have a great time and enjoy.
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
15 May 08
I find that sometimes my husband and I get so wrapped up in tending to work and the kids that we forget to take time for ourselves and just be a couple. If you are feeling like a maid, nanny and cook rather than part of a marraige,it is a good sign that you need to get away somewhere and have some time to yourselves. Trying to do something without the kids regularly should help you feel more connected.
@Steph_shortnsweet (62)
• United States
15 May 08
Thank you! I've been planning on possibly doing a date night once a month to start and see where it goes from there. My husband seems open to the idea.I don't think we've done anything alone in a couple years now.It's very tough with little ones and not much money. :)
@melissacody (88)
• United States
14 May 08
If you have to "get your spouse to show you they care" then perhaps theres a lot more going on here.
Maybe letting him know that if he could just help out a little bit around the house it would make life easier.
@Steph_shortnsweet (62)
• United States
14 May 08
Well I like romantic things and to have him come home and give me a hug and little things of the sort.He belives him going to work and providing for the family is enough to show me that he cares.He does help with our children alot and he did say he would try to change but it is a very slow process.
