Resolved and sorted

This is great news Gabs. I am so glad that such courage and forgiveness were shown by both of you and it's sorted out. And I'm not surprised either that it is. You both are to be commended. Kudos!!!!!!! Now, as for misundertanding friends - oh me, oh my, where do I start? LOL Let's just say "I'm sorry" is faintly tatooed on my forehead! Don't want to completely ruin my looks! LOL

I do all the time gabs. I actually emailed a couzin recently because I would post on her webpages funny comments and to see how she was and she would never reply. She would reply to others who had posted around me but never to me. I emailed concerned because she isn't usually like this and she came back apologising and saying, oh no, nothing is wrong, she just hasn't gotten around to responding to me. I should of taken into account that she is 5 months pregnant LOL

i am glad hat everything is sorted out for you gabs... it is a bad feeling when you have a misunderstanding with somebody and i always feel awful when it happens... i also try to sort all the misunderstanding with the person straight away when that happens... at least the person has a big heart to apologise to you in public... so she is not that bad anyway... take care and have a nice day...

Hi gabs Im so glad things are sorted out. I dont really know what happened. You can tell me when we talk on the phone. I hope everything is okay with Mooch too. Oh sure gabs sometimes people misunderstand what we say. Its always good to talk about it and get it out in the open. Stay happy my friend. Hugs!

Hi Angel I'm happy that things are ok I am so behind...... I have misunderstood people at times but try to give the benefit of the doubt! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

gabs I am so delighted for you, its no fun misunderstanding a friend and always so nice when you can make up. I have misunderstood my son several times and was so glad to find out that I was wrong altogether. Also I misunderstood a coworker once and thought she was talking about me when she really was not but we got that all straightened out. Yes we need to get mooch fixed up too.I think I saw one of the mylotters discussions that might have upset mooch and the guy is strictly a newcomer with only a few posts so why is he picking on someone who has been here a while and hasread all the rules and followed them to a t.

Our language is funny isn't it, because this site goes all around the world what could be said innocently could be totally misconstrued, either because of the language barrier or from someone reading between the lines, I do that a lot and I do get paranoid and I have been upset by a few comments that have been left and I think wow, what did I do to deserve that, when in actual fact the person may have had an off day or had replied lightheartedly and I have taken it the wrong way. A friend actually did that some months ago and I was quite hurt about it, I never know how to respond to it, whether I should confront the person or ignore them, but I am a sensitive old fool and I will take things to heart, I guess a bit like you sweetie and I wonder what have I done to deserve a comment which may come over innocent but to me is like a barb. I know I should toughen up but when you've been an old softie for over three and a half decades it's not easy to change! I am glad you got things sorted it can eat away at you for ages can't it and I hate to admit it but one of my major failings is that yes I do bear a grudge, bad wolf, bad wolf!

Yes, and also have misunderstood and been misunderstood by family members. It hurts to be at odds with people that you really like, and you think they like you, too.

Thank you Gabs and yes I have often misunderstood and taken something personally when it was just a general remarks. Unfortunately my hot temper and short fuse has gotten me into more trouble than I care to remember. I have tried to take time out before I do or say something irreparable. For those of you who are not afflicted with this character trait believe me it it a hard thing to overcome. The only thing I can say in my defense, when I speak before I think, is that I am not a coward I will face up to and apologise if I have been in the wrong but only if I am wrong....oops perhaps should not have said that.

Gabs, hooray :))))) So glad you are feeling better! So glad its all worked out!! Of course we all have misunderstandings, it how we handle the things we misunderstand that is important. Sometimes things are not what they seem, but then again we have every reason to think that they are, but when it turns out for the good, its good for everyone..... Sooo soooo glad you are back to being Gabs :))) poor Gissi can breath again too.

I am so glad this has been sorted out hun, and that things are back on track. I have, in the past, misunderstood something a friend said to me, and once I realised I felt a complete fool. At the time I was under the impression that they had said something unpleasant, when I found out my mistake I felt really awful and couldn't apologise enough.

I am so glad that everything has been sorted out angel! We all have misunderstandings sometimes - say things that come across the wrong way and I have certainly taken comments in the wrong way before too! Lets hope that we can all support Mooch strongly enough that she feels strongly enough that she is loved and admired here! xxx

Firstly I would like to say I am pleased to hear this issue has been resolved. It was lovely for them to have explained publicly too eh! I think we have all done that at times. For me it is misinterprting text messages as they never come accross quite the same as real speach over the phone so in these instances I tend to phone and get an explanation of what was meant and it is usally me having read it wrong. I can't stand all the abbreviations and predictive text can be a nightmare if the wrong word comes up and its not spotted. Ellie :D

Hiya Gabs, I am really glad that you have sorted it all out, I have hated thinking of you so upset just lately. It is really good that your friend came to you and openly put your mind at rest and I am really happy for you! What is happening with Mooch is also really upsetting, but I hope that if all her friends on here show her how much she is cared for then she will gain strength from that and just realize that we are all on her side.

OH I'm glad that its sorted out for you gabs...Feelign stress over a misunderstanding or arguement etc etc with a friend can be so damn draining ya know.. I've misunderstood and been misunderstood at various times in life but I always manage to get it sorted out more often than not ya know.... Yes we need to deal with Mooch's issue and get that taken care of..

Have I ? I really dont think so for I dont put things or read things that arent there or dont concern me that I know it

At least this has been straightened out before it turned into something worse. I have had someone correction some people misunderstand me, and they kept ranting and raving. Sometimes what we think is meant for us is meant for someone else and the poster does not want to name names or nicknames, because maybe the person she meant it for is one of those very long winded ranters. It really hurts when someone is like that, that you cannot write to them directly and you wonder whether if you met them in person, they might harm you.

Wow, that IS quite remarkable. Not many people would openly admit something like that right in a discussion. I was relieved you were going to still post discussions, but I must admit if my talks with Gissi were going to suffer, there was going to be some problems. Is Mooch the only one who wasn't going to post? I thought there were a couple more people. But then I've been mixed up before. It's kind of my life story...

I think it happened to me once, but from there on I really paid attention not to commit the same mistake again :) I am really glad that your friend was sensitive enough to explain things in the discussion and that things were cleared. That's the good thing about it, when we talk things over honestly we always are able to solve them :):):)

Through my friend Spark, I heard of all this and I'm really glad that it is resolved. Let me know if you need any help with Mooch. :) I have misunderstood things from friends but it didn't anger me. It hurt me. Thankfully, most of my friends don't even realize it and it wasn't malicious in any way. I'm just a sensitive soul I guess. There have been things that I have said that I'm sure my friends have misinterpreted. But the beauty is, that good friendships withstand misunderstandings. They are much more powerful than some futile words that are uttered in haste or could possibly be misinterpreted. Those that can't get over an understanding aren't as good of a friend as once thought so they probably shouldn't be in your life anyway. But the good friends are worth working it out and keeping around, they wouldn't desert you anyway even after a misunderstanding.