Are you happy together

no i am not happy with my girl friend ..... i thing she is a liar

Feelings and relationships is something humans always failed to learn or never learns.. NO matter how goos tempered a person is, there are bound to be mood swings on somedays.. Though we can avoid an arguement by keeping quiet, but how long can we keep it?? And it may be worse if we keep it too long because we have no answer to the problem in the 1st place.. And honesty is important in a relationship, but how honest can we be?? To the extend of knowing your loved ones will be hurt if they gonna know the truth?? Often when we tell white lies to our partner is because we dun wanna hurt them, but once we get exposed, they will blame us for lying, and in the 1st place, we will that they will get upset and angry if we tell them the truth.. So no matter wat we say, nothing is gonna be right.. The only thing right is human moods.. A person's moods determines everything, from wrong to right and happy to unhappy..

Everything has its own reason. Does a matter of fact, all stuff always possesses two sides. When we were stepping to far on one side, we will retreat badly one day, it's just a matter of time until it's happened. Good point taken, I can't accept no more for what you'd mentioned above. They are the truth, but just a few who managed to find it out. More are still blaming on others. Then they stop, they never want to take the chance anymore. They surrender and never forgive themselves. We can't avoid all of them, but we must face it and find a grease to clean away the rust and squeaking noise in the relationship. As always a separation may gift one for freedom, but they will lose several elements in marriage life as the bargain. They admit they have had lost it before divorce, and with this thought may make the separation has a greater chance to be happened. Hoping for a perfect marriage is an absurd, nobody owns it. Just check the relationship with God, Christ and anti-Christ. If we expect it's a perfect one, we now may have the only Christ belief; or have the anti-Christ belief. Man and woman were created to fulfill each other emotional needs. The problem is; how do you expect to receive, if you're not giving out what other wants first. The gift is not a gift that based on self-perception, because the right criteria is from what other wants, and not what we wants to give. That's why, some of them will feel overwhelmed in the late relationship, that because one always gives out self-version, and not giving out what other wants. They try to understand each other, but lately they failed. Because each of them chews the concept by self. This is horrible. It will bring up an ambiguous subject to the surface when they declare to their partner. Some may lead into more terrifying conclusions. That because they always follow their own version. They define which one is to gift and which is must be accepted, but by their own version. The version -that- doesn't match exactly of what other wants. Relationship is a passive stuff, if you want bring it into heaven, then you must face and find solution for any problems, later it will give you numerous happiness, but no one has the ability to deal with the pain. On the contrary, if you only want to accept the sweet, but not the sour/bitter because of the lack or weakness that's created from our own ambiguity decision-making, then the relationship will be red as hell. Feeling overwhelmed is not an excuse for a relationship separation. We have a wax-and-wane condition in any aspect in life such as in the work, relationship with God, child-raiser, devotion to parents, friendship, partnership, you named it; and the most important sometimes we even feel overwhelmed about ourself. Last piece of advice, don't waste your relationship that was built thousand years but destroy in a brief moment. Making a new one doesn't make the relationship is getting better, because new one means new problems. Preserve always relationship. If you now still think it's other's fault, then you're not ready for another relationship. As a result, you'll need to fix up on yourself. Good posting, my friend. It's worth to be rated. Thank you very much.

There are very few ways to avoid this other than being careful to choose a mate that complements you, taking time to know them before marriage and meeting their family. Knowing when to deny your heart's desire which isn't always the best thing for you. Did you read this somewhere? Because it's very wise. It describes so many marriages that spiral out of control because one of the two is afraid to say anything--which in itself indicates that the relationship is in trouble. I wish I'd had myLot 20 years ago!

My husband and I used to be like that during our first 5 years of being together..There were instances that the glass window got broken and plates were flying like ufos coz of so much tension between us..But through the years, we have learned how to patch things up without hurting each others feelings..We learned how to talk things through,settle the matter in a civil but loving way, open the line of communication and not sleep without getting through the basics of matter..We learned to forgive each other and accept if we made a mistake..These days we hardly fight anymore, not that we're a perfect couple but so much has happened and we learned from our mistakes.

My wife is truly the best. We are soulmates, lovers, best friends, we confide in each other, we talk about everything. We love each other more and more each day. Some advice I received long ago which may help some of you, " you know yuu love a person when they are the first person you think of when you wake up and the last person you think of before you go to sleep" May you all find hapiness in your partners God Bless

Yep I totally agree with you.Relationships can be so fragile and yet so strong at times.I am very happy with my fiance right now but there's always this slight tension in my head that something might go wrong.What if we break up?What if I end up hurting this person whom I love so much?What if he leaves me for some other girl?These questions are countless but otherwise I am happy.This relationship means a lot to me

I agree with you that even in the most peaceful time a relationship can suddenly be torn apart. On the other hand there are also relationships where you always fight but eventually reconcile and the relationship lasts long. Tiny things, hmm, actually a friend of mine got divorced because his wife wouldn't wash the dishes! LOL

Relationships do take a tremendous amount of work - You actually have to work at falling in love with each other over and over again. My husband and I had a rough time for a few years, but due to commitment and work on both sides, we have a very happy marriage right now.

Count to ten, take a walk, meditate, remember the P-A-C training tat tells us that we are coming from a state of being a parent, an adult or a child and if you figure out which one your partner is coming from, then you can understand which way to talk to him! There is another god book, the "Parent Manual" that says we should not have discussions if we are in an emotional state! Wait until the emotions have subsided and then try to calmly discuss the issues at hand!

I am very happy with my husband. I trust him and everything. He thinks I dont trust him but I keep telling him it's the females I dont trust. Little things to bother me but I let them slide, I've found that out after 8 years of being with him. I cant let all the little things bother me and get to me.

My wife and I seldom to never get into those heated arguments such as you describe. We do have differences of opinion, but we voice them as just that. We don't call each other names or say hateful stuff to hurt the others feelings. We have been together 14 years, and as time goes by, we get closer together.

actually, it all boils down to your anger or whatever heavy emotions you got. i myself, am guilty of bursting down my anger when i can no longer take it. well, those were the days. i was younger then. later on, i realized that managing your anger is really important. if you think, you're heating up, you might want to leave first and unwind. then later on, you might want to talk about it once you're pretty okay. some couples don't intend to hurt physically but they just carried away. unfortunately, getting carried away will never be a valid reason to hurt anyone. we must guard our actions so as not to hurt our partners who chose to be with us through thick or thin. lets do our best for them not to regret the biggest choice they made in their lives.

You gotta let somethings slide - 30 years - I know !! Some things just get on your last nerve, but is losing the relationship worth it ?? If not....forget it.