The Green Eyed Monster...

most of my younger siblings are jealous of me because i was adopted by my grandparents when i was young and they weren't. they feel that they should have adopted them as well. but what they don't really realize is that i had ADHD and was difficult to handle and needed special attention. so they being adopted by them just was not a viable solution at that time. of course sadly they ended up in the system for a lot of years. but at least they were taken care of

Jealousy is certainly to be expected between siblings. I look at my girls and they are always fighting over toys or throwing tantrums because they want to be picked up when I've just picked up the other one. Thankfully, they are coming to understand that they are all equals and that no one of them is more special than the other. I know growing up, after my sisters came along, I was considered to be a jealous big sister, but I don't think I was. I spent as much time with my younger siblings as I could. Now they are all grown up, I find it hard to believe just how differently my parents have treated them compared to how they treated me. They both get a $500 clothing allowance every 3 months, while I had to make do with hand me downs. They are allowed to go any where any time, while I had to work for time out of the house with friends. They don't have to do any thing around the house while I had a set amount of chores, meaning my parents barely had to do anything around the house. While peeved that they would treat me so differently, I'm not jealous of my sisters. Good on them for having what they have. I made do with what I was given and I think I appreciate what I have no so much more because of it. I should point out that I am adopted, and my father is actually my adoptive step father (confused yet?), so the way they treated me was to be expected. Jealousy, I feel, is a sign of a week character and low self esteem. Wanting what someone else has and getting nasty about it only hurts the jealous person more while the other person/s is/are living.

My mom had 8 kids herself and 1 adopted one and also alot of step children since she married four times. But oddly enough I don't get jealous of the adoptive child as much as I do my real siblings and the adoptive one which is 7 gets and has more stuff then I could ever imagine having at that age. My siblings are jealous of my mom spending any time with me or onw of the other children. Or if she goes to one kids house but not the others so it is a whirlwind of emotionally dysfunctional children...lolI hear others in the family say we all spoil the adoptive child(my brothers daughter)which my mom adopted from birth to much. Because she has alot of things and if she needs something one of us tries to get it for her. We don't treat her like a niece at all even though biologically she is. I love her to pieces and know that she has enriched my life tremendously being in it. Your mom sounds like a great person it is hard to give all children the same attention when they are more then 2-3 but she did it and did a good job at it. My mom had 8 kids before she was 27. So she was a little stressed out basically pregnant all the time and all those little ones running around at once..probably why she had a nervous breakdown when I was 9. Well that and dealing with three divorces and the children. But now since we are all basically grown and out she has changed we grew alot closer over the last 12 years then before. I am still a little jealous of my siblings though. It is a natural thing I guess in some kids when it is a big family and not all of us get the attention we think we need.

My daughter is an only child- so there is no jealousy there--- I have only 1 brother-- he is in the Army- so he is not around NY anymore- I miss him terribly. He has 3 children. My daughter still finds it hard to share grandma when they are home for visits--- They are due back at the end of this week. My daughter loves her cousins and wants to spend every minute of every day with them when they are home--- so she can't understand when Gram says--- today I'm taking the kids here--- but just them- as they don't get to do things with gram and gramp (they live in Kansas)... She just does not get why she has to share them! lol Jealousy was never an issue with my brother and I.

I have never been jealous of my siblings,i was always happy when they succeeded in anything...In fact we will help each other out in case we need each other,,,I think the closest thing we ever came to jealousy was when my Mom would always make excuses for my younger brother,she thought he could do not wrong,he was the baby...When she got older she would expect us do do everything for her,my sister and older brother and me,but she never ever wanted to put my youger brother out,he never did his part when it came to helping with her,and we ask her to ask him but no she never wanted to bother him,just us 3...Lol...the thing is we always babied him as well ,so really there was no hard feelings but sometimes when we could not be there ,we would have liked for him to step up,and he would have,it was her that refused to ask,but him being the baby we all treated him with soft gloves as well...We all love each other ans help each other.we all have a good relationship..

I have two older brothers by blood and an adopted brother, well sort of, he wasn't actually adopted but he lived with us since he was 9 and he's 44 now so I consider him as my brother so I have three older brothers and we've all had equal treatment so no we're not jealous of each other. Never have been and never will be either. We all love one another and would do anything for each other that we can.

My brother is 5 years younger than me and I always protected him so we are close my sis came along way afrter I left home so dont know all that much about her as she hardly ever calls or return calls so we dont have time tio get jeaulous. My kids just had each other to depend on for we moved alot and we spent time with both so they dont get jealous Sort of silly to get jealous

jealousy is one of the human natures characteristic ...its an emotion that can be control..but mostly some dont...im talking about my family...right now i havent got a hint that one of my childrens is jealous of something...since i see to it that all my dealings with them should be equal..that is in terms of finances,affection or whatever.. but on my extended family that is my original family(when im still single)my brother was very jealous of me when i graduated ahead of him in highschool..since he stopped and lured into something bad ... and not be able to finish high school right away..

i have found a place in my life that i don't even give that word meaning. I don't allow that kind of thinking take over who i am or what i do. being that i don't allow that kind of thinking, i don't acknowledge that kind of behavior. what i can say, more important then do you get jealous of your brothers and sisters or do you think one child is jealous of the other, see what that kind of feeling and thinking does to your life. i try to spend the same amount of time with all of my children. right now my 18 year old son is into his music, school and working. my 12 year old still love to be with me which is an honor. and of course i got my little baby girl who is 3 and she thinks the world is about her. so being that i know who needs me at that moment, i do my best to be there for them. I do what i can so that they don't feel "jealous" of each other. I make sure i let them each know that i love them all in my own way.

There are times I'm jealous of my brother but not often. As for my kids being jealous of one another. They sure are. My furbabies seem to all want attention at the same time. lol

Well I was the baby in my family and spoiled rotten so I never really got jealous. There are 8 years between my 2 kids and although occasionally we get complaints that one is allowed to get away with more than the other , or that one is allowed to stay up later than this one we don't really see very much of it! I have seen what you describe with others but consider myself very lucky not to have to deal with it myself! xxx

If someone of your brothers or sisters there are irregularities of love and attention from parent it might arise this kind of jealous turn to a rivalry, Favoritism could cause that make heated argument might lead each other. However parents should fair and even of treatment toward their offspring.

Yeah, that is a never ending saga between my two daughters ages 18 and 22. I can't talk to one without the other one getting jealous that I am doing so and can't spend time without the other one getting jealous. And I treat one better than the other one to hear them tell it. I try to tell them I treat them individually, so I'm not going to treat them the same!

As a mom I so want to say my children haven't been jealous and I was the perfect mom for all of them, but if I did I would be lying. My 2nd son was jealous of my oldest son, he plain out told me I favor him because I do everything for him. I had to sit him down and explain at this point of his life he is just more needy than you are. He did not fully understand what I meant until he matured then he understood. My oldest daughter is jealous of my youngest daughter she gets lots of praise because she has gotten straight A's all her life. She was chosen to go to Italy with school and I had to pay quite a bit. My oldest said you never did anything like that for me, my answer was and you never put your whole self into school. Might sound crass but it really isnt. Lesson in life you get what you earn. I have told my children everyday of thier lives that I love them, I have spent time with all doing homeworking going on school trips everything I was there. Here is the kicker my 4 oldest children are 16 20 22 25 and all of them are jealous of my 7 year old lol. Why does he get everything? hmmm lets see because you all have already gotten everything, it just seems like more because with all of them supporting themselves I have money left over to do for him. I tell them all the time how humorous I find the jealousy, and I have to keep reminding them I love all my children the same, but they are treated differently because they are all different. My 7 year old will get jealous with the attention that I give my grandsons tell me does it ever end lol

Well, my two boys don't get jealous of eachother because I try my best to spend time with the two of them. My boys are both very secure and they know that I love them both the same.

Hi Twoey, my youngest sister and myself (I'm the eldest) thought that my middle sister was always put on a pedastal and she couldn't do any wrong but when I was in hospital my other sister and I saw a totally different side to her as I was having a bad time in hosp' my sister was with me all the way through and gave me a lot of support and looked after me afterwards so any jealousy etc has gone-its strange how things change-blessings littleowl

Actually my kids are pretty good, I have four of them and I have never noticed any jealousy when it comes to my attention. I always make sure though that if one gets a hug, then the others get one too. I never spend anytime with them seperately, only my daughter but that is because the others go to school. I have no trouble with my hubby being jealous of the attention the kids get as he gets attention too, sort of. I have no siblings to be jealous of so I do not have that problem!!

Its normal for young kids to be jealous.. You cant give all the same.. Usually the youngest kid gets more attention and the oldest is jealous..! cant do nothing about it, you cant be their slaves :P Just wait and they 'll grow old.. Time passes fast :)