I'm not doing anything so I think that I will dress up

@p1kef1sh (45681)
May 17, 2008 9:25am CST
I saw a response that said that a person had some good clothes but she rarely went out and so didn't get dressed up that often. That got me thinking. At home I am a real slob, but as a boy, I was expected to dress up frequently. Just going to town involved smart clothes, and as for church! Don't ask. We are much more accepting of casual as smart enough these days. Unless we are going to something very special - weddings, Balls/Proms, tea with the Queen or some workplaces - we don't seem to do smart much. I have a neighbour who is a builder monday to friday, and dresses accordingly, but works on a market as a fruit seller at weekends. For that he wears a suit and tie! Do you ever get dressed up like that for the heck of it? Does it matter anymore? Should it? Does it reflect "standards"?
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
17 May 08
I think its good to get dressed up once in awhile. Even if its just for your hubby. I always feel good when I look good.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I think that here is a great deal of truth in that Terry. Thank you.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
17 May 08
I was raised to be a lady. A lady was always well groomed, well dressed and well heeled. So even today though I wear a lot of jeans, they are never without a crease, fit well (I will NOT wear baggy jeans), and can be dressed up with facy tops and jewelry. Even in jeans I ooze class! LOL Ask Annie, she'll tell you! But summer is here (well sort of - the sun is getting up at 5am) and it's time to break out the summer dresses, bare legs and sandles. WhooHoo! And I don't care that the casual mores of today make people look at me like I'm a freak of nature. I'm a LADY - remember those? LOL
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I don't think that it would ever occur to me to think that you were anything other than a lady Sparky. As you know, I love women in summer dresses and button through dresses (now I am getting over excited) so bring them on Ma'am. I for one, will be pleased to see the back of the jeans, however classy.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
17 May 08
LOL - Well I do believe you and I have settled the question of what clothes I'm bringing to Jolly Old with me - no jeans, but tweeds, linens, cottons and of course, those summer dresses! ROFL
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I had a male friend (very straight) that was a dresser to Petula Clark. Can I be Sparky's dresser. Please. It doesn't matter about the money. I'll pay whatever you want. LOL
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@mummymo (23706)
18 May 08
I don't think it sets standards as such honey and in my own , very humble, opinion I think that as long as a person is clean and comfortable then all is well and good! I myself like to dress according to my mood and will sometimes get very smart in nice floaty feminine skirts and tops/dresses with nice frilly undergarments (sometimes just a wisp of light almost invisible fabric!) to make myself feel good and others will feel just as comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans, As long as we feel we are presentable then why shouldn't we dress for comfort - as you know I spend half my life in pyjamas but we are having a birthday tea for my Gran at my sisters today and I am just going to get a bath and dressed in a nice summery dress for the occasion - for me and no one else! xxxx
@mummymo (23706)
18 May 08
Aww thank you p1ke - i wish that were true! I ended up wearing a long sleeved crochet top as it was a bit cooler but still summery and I smelled of melon! lol Gran had a great day but I am exhausted! xxx
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
Yo are going to look so wonderful, fragrant and summery Mummymo. I cannot imagine you being anything other than beautifully turned out when you go out. At home we all love to be comfy, so why not wear what what feels good. Have a lovely tea. XX
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
You went. That was the important thing. Your love for your Gran will have been noticed. Melon shmelon as uncle Himey used to say - you were gorgeous, of that there is no doubt. XX
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
17 May 08
Hehe... You mean he works as fruit seller? I dont care what kind of job he is doing, everybody has freedom to dress up or not. Hm, anyway, the better you know how to dress properly head to toe for what situation and place, its actually attractive. Wherever i go, i always find a person who dress up for wrong occasion and wrong situation. we just have garden party but the girl wearing such clothes that fit to the night party in the lux building... what? she just makes herself looks gorgeous for wrong reason... yeah, she is attractive for her weird looks. Hmm...
• Singapore
18 May 08
if you wanna look gorgeous from the way you dress, you can learn it from many magazine. Observe it carefully, and try to feel like you're one of the model there. How they matching their apparels, the color of the bag, the shoes~ the style and the color... are they matching? Its ok if people say eccentric or not, but if you can dress well for right situation, you're not only gain more confidence (feeling that you can be good looking trough your dress) and people will look at you because you're changed better in making yourself look better. I found that a person who is nice that handsome, but if he knows how to dress properly is attractive, compare to the handsome one who doesnt know the right clothes, dirty hair and shoes. hahah. Just tip, have a nice hairstyle and nice shoes, and practice to mix and match your pants, shirt or anything in your closet. You can learn a lot from internet also, you have unlimited source for fashion. Fashion is not only for woman, its also helps for guy!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
Indeed he does work as a fruit seller. Avery well dressed one too. He is a very good man, but has slightly eccentric tastes. I have been known to wear the wrong clothes to parties too. Very embarrassing. LOL.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
17 May 08
I get dressed up for going out but that's about it. Normally around the house, it's jeans and a tee shirt which I guess some consider dressing up. At work we wear uniforms so that isn't an issue. I don't have any real need to dress smart but I do like to do it when I need to make an impression.
• United States
17 May 08
Always my dear one! :)
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I bet that it is one heck of an impression too Skinny.
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
17 May 08
People always tell me that I'm always dressed up. I don't think I'm 'dressed up', I just like to look nice. I dress for me, the way I like, the things I feel good in. My hubby's always in either scrubs or t-shirts and jeans. I never wear t-shirts, not ever. I like being very femme, and I even like ruffles and lace and chiffon, and silk and all those lovely fabrics that feel so good against my skin and that make me feel feminine and pretty. I like heels too and even wear them sometimes when riding my bike. Not too easy to do in platforms, but regular heels are easy. I prefer skirts and dresses to pants, but I do enjoy wearing my jeans, to be sure, such an amurcan girl, ya know. But I like to pair up a really nice top with a pair of faded out jeans and wear heels too - something about that appeals to me. And earrings - always. Mind you, when I'm home in front of the computer, if I'm wearing anything at all, it's often very sloppy, but I've been known to wear lots of pretty nightie-type things too. Again, I like to feel feminine and pretty sometimes, even when doing nothing but watching movies or typing on the conmputer. What can I say? I'm a true girly girl. I say, if it suits you, wear it.
• United States
19 May 08
Paloma Picasso is my favorite, rj and p1ke, but I also wear Estee Lauder's Intuition and lavender, as well as lilac and gardenia too. And p1ke, thank you, darling, for those lovely things you've said about me. I am undeniably feminine and I like being that way - I'd better, it's the only way I can be. And how could I ever put myself on cam in front of you and not look my best? Except for those couple of times you caught me right out of bed with bed-hair and my face still puffy from sleep, yuck, yikes, not very comfortable for me, but you love me as I am, bless your heart and I love you for it. XXX And XXX to you too, rj.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
Whenever I have seen you Nova you have always looked gloriously feminine. No T shirts or anything just beautiful clothes. You have great taste, not only in clothes but webcam partners as well. LOL.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I saw her not 5 minutes ago on my webcam RJ and she most certainly is all those things you describe. Not sure about the fragrance though. I don't have Smell O Cam yet.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
29 May 08
I don't get out much but when I do I like to be presentable. I like to go for the sloppy comfy clothes when I am at home, then I don't have to worry so much about staining my good blouse or other stuff. I don't get dressed up often for the heck of it, when I do dress up and put on my face(makeup) then he wants to know where I am going and thinks it is strange for me to dress up and no where to go. I don't think it should refelct "standards" because when others don't have to dress for work they are usually in casual wear at home most times. For me it is all about my comfort even my dressy clothes I choose for comfort. Who wants to be uncomfortable for hours with clothes? Not I.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
29 May 08
I think that getting dressed up at home is a good thing occasionally. It reminds us that we still have standards and can be smart other times than when we go out. But I do agree about uncomfortable clothes. I wore a collar and tie for 30 years at work. I hated the wretched things. But I still wear a tie now if I want to. Well I own them, they might as well get some wear. LOL.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 May 08
that is a great question. I am a casual dresser. I mean when i go to work i wear my slacks and a nice blouse. but when i am home, i have a my pjs. or a tee shirt and jeans. I don't really get all dolled up unless i have some place to go. and being that i don't go out that often i got dresses in the closet with tags on it. LOL
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I have a suit and several pairs of trousers with tags still on them. I really need to do something about that. Too much stuff I think. LOL.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 May 08
yeah we need to pop the tags and go out and have some fun. come on, let's get dressed up and paint the town red
• United States
20 May 08
There was a time Pike when I would not go to town unless I was dressed in pleasant attire. Now, heck I run out in a tee shirt and shorts with out thought. When my grand mother was alive, we dressed for dinner, not just on Sundays, that was even more formal, but every day. You did not come to my grand mothers table in jeans and a tee shirt. At least slacks and a blouse was called for. Sunday church clothes for Sunday dinner. There is something to be said for that to. it meant respect and not taking her for granted. The whole family eating around one table... well except for the baby table LMAO
@p1kef1sh (45681)
29 May 08
When I was younger we were like that, especially my mother's side of the family. Things are different now. Although the other day I wore a new pair of trousers to go and see my parents. Mrs P1ke made the somewhat pointed comment that she gets me in old casuals and my Mum gets me smart! I am wanted in smart clothes at home too it would appear. I have obliged every day since. What a good boy!!
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 May 08
I'm a lady, so suit a ties, not so much. I do like to dress up for no reason other than to me feeling good about myself. Example, I went to visit my mother in Alabama. She says that my Aunts and I "dress up" because we wear dresses and "good, nice" clothes daily. We also put on a little make up sometimes and I wear perfume everyday. Mother said she don't wear "dress up" or wear perfume any more since she retired from work. My reply, "why not, I do everyday." It helps me to feel good about myself. Many years ago I use to only wear my expensive stuff on special occasions. Then I thought, why only then? They are not often enough and what if I had an accident, heaven forbid. But why save these things for special times. Everyday should be special. We don't know how long we are going to be here, so everyday should be special. I started wearing any jewelry pieces I wanted at any time. I wear my expensive perfume everyday. I wear my expensive clothes any day, even at home all day. Once in awhile I think of what my granny said when I was young. Always dress and be at your best. You never know who you will meet and first impressions are the best and most important. Once you make an impression it is always there.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
Your Granny was right. I think to be dressed up occasionally make you feel good. And there's nothing wrong with feeling good. Thank you Moondancer.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 May 08
I never go anywhere either but I wish I had some good clothes to dress up in. I have gained a little bit of weight and cannot wear 99 percent of my clothes now. I do have some good clothes that I would really love to wear some day again though. I do not have any dress clothes at all though. Dressing nice reflects how I feel about myself and I have not felt good about myself for about 3 or 4 years now. I hate it too.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
I'm having a "nobody loves me today" day. But I think that if we make the occasional effort maybe we will do ourselves some good. I am trying to think positively. I even got a little dressed up to post a letter. Curiously enough I did feel a little more cheerful. Funny thing the mind.
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
18 May 08
i have to wear the horrid uniform for work,which drives me nuts as it is so impractical,but at home i wear my old baggy,daggy clothes.i get dressed up if i go somewhere ,like out to dinner or a work function,but mostly i dress for comfort.cheers sue
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
THank you Sue. Comfort is good most of the time, but the occasional dress up always makes me feel good.
@maude07 (61)
• Philippines
18 May 08
I dress up if the situation calls for it. I don't want to be overdressed if it calls for simplicity..and you know what i mean. :-) However, you can be simple yet, not "lousy." Just make sure you wear clean clothes always, yet comfortable.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
Clean clothes are an absolute must. Our washing machine is the hardest working thing in the house - apart from my wife of course. LOL.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
18 May 08
I didoccasionally dress up for the heck of it, but everyone was always asking me, where are you going.. I got so tired of having to explain the I don't do it anymore..
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
Just shows that you are the trendsetter Donna and that they need to catch up.
• Pakistan
17 May 08
yes i am also agree with this that when we dont have to go any wehre then just live in ur ordinary dress. and dont need to be well dressed. actually in well dressed we dont feel easy so to remain at ease we should be in normal dress dear.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
Thank you. I think that I am in agreement with that.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
18 May 08
suit in a market place?? i guess he is ever doing it..i dont think its fit for that place...i dressed up depending on what places i go..
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
I think that his dress is very clever. There is never a shortage of customers around his stall. They all come to see the very smart fruit man. As a result, he has more money than most.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 May 08
I still feel that there is a such thing as being under and over dressed. I like to be as comfortable as the situation allows. I went through the stockings at church when I was younger and that is just not my thing anymore.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I think that you are right. I have often felt overdressed but not so often underdressed.
• United States
17 May 08
I work for a company that has a business casual dress code with one day of dressing down every week. I can't do business casual. I have to do business. So I own A LOT of skirts, blouses, blazers, dress pants, etc. But dress down day I'm in jeans and T-Shirts. Having to do it for work has made me not care what I look like any other time. I am dressing up tonight to attend a formal event and have to start getting ready now at 1 for something that doesn't start until 6. Normally I don't have this kind of "me" time so I say break out the jeans and let me alone.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I never used to like "dress down Friday", too contrived and some people dressed down so much that it should have been called "throw something on please, Friday". You are going to look so beautiful tonight I have absolutely no doubt and enjoy yourself. Post a pic please. We ordinary mortals need a dose of true glamour to lighten up our grey little lives.
@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
18 May 08
I will tell you as I have said before, I go to Manhattan I go dressed up. I am rarely out of the house, issues of working at home, you live at home, you become your house. So for me when I get to go out, dress for success for you never know who you are going to meet. Ainge
@p1kef1sh (45681)
18 May 08
And you have been very successful Ainge. Clearly works. Go girl - as they say.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 May 08
I rarely get dressed up anymore just for the heck of it. I do remember being forced into a dress and a hat and little gloves and all,oh and patent leather black mary janes for my feet very sunday without fail. no overalls no sir, no jeans either. a fancy dress anda hat. ugh. then to sit still for whole hour at least and sometimes a little more.oh the fun when I got home and put on blue jeans and a top and climbed trees. whee.now days I wear whats comfortable a tee shirt and loose skirts and my red slippers.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 May 08
I was like that a church as a child too. Well not the dress etc, that would have looked very silly, but a suit or at least jacket and tie. We weren't allowed out to play at all on a sunday. We could play inside but my parents didn't want us disturbing the neighbours. Probably why I've never been that keen on Sundays since.