Just received some bad news
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
May 18, 2008 6:25pm CST
Normally Matt and I go out on Sunday if I am up to it. Actually he wanted me to go to the Synagogue with him on Friday night but I have been suffering with a backache now for over a week and I just couldn't go.
So today would have been the day to go out instead, I stalled all day before calling him because I was still not feeling up to par and I didn't want to disappoint him.
When I finally did call I found out some bad news. His brother's father in law passed away today. And now he and his mother is decided whether they will go to Baltimore in the usa (we are in Canada) for the shiva ( 7 days family mourning and funeral service) It is a very close family and Matt did not sound too good on the phone. He will call me he said if he and his mother decide to go.
So it looks like I don't have to go out anyhow, but goodness I didn't want it to be because of this.
As the old expression goes be careful what you wish for.
Have you ever not wanted to do something and then couldn't because something happened beyond your control?
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14 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
oh yes hon, I do end up going lots of time as well, but I really didn't want to go out on Sunday and then this happened.
@rckayla09 (113)
• United States
19 May 08
Carol,
I'm sooo sorry to hear about Matt's brother's father-in-law dying. My condolences go out to you, Matt and his family. Also sooo sorry to hear you're back has been hurting for over a week. I'll be praying that it's feeling better real soon... In answer to your question, I can't remember just now if something ever happened beyond my control after not wanting to do something. But, like you, I too would then feel guilty if what happened with you happened to me; although we really shouldn't feel guilty for circumstances beyond our control. How were you to know that Matt's brother's father-in-law had passed away?! So please don't beat yourself up about this.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
thanks hon, I am not worrying about it happened I can't change that, and he didn't end up going after all the man was an admiral and he will have a state service in June.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
19 May 08
I am sorry to hear that. It is never a good time when someone passes away. Yes, I think all of have been in this situation atleast once on our lifetimes. I know I have had it happen to me. I had wished that my brother would stop calling so much aggravating us and his little girl just calling every few minutes sometimes. But now they don't call at all they had to get their long distance cut off. I know miss talking to my brother daily. So that is one wish as they say come true becuase I had wished they'd stop calling every few minutes. I guess is you also wish for something be careful how ou word it also. Maybe I should have said not so often. You are totally right we have to be very careful what we wish for because the outcome sometimes is totally opposite of what we truly want to happen.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
29 May 08
Where is a magic genie in a bottle when we need one? Hey thanks for the best response I really appreciate it.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yep it seems we have to word our wishes in just the right way or things like this could happen.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
19 May 08
Yes, indeed that has surely happened to me. I have also like you had something really terrible to keep us from doing something, I didn't want to do, and then end up feeling terribly guilty about how I felt about it before the bad thing happened.
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@littlerockman (19)
• China
19 May 08
very sorry to hear that,yes,there're a lot of things beyond our control in our life,but this is real life,if everything is in our control,don't you think that life is not so much hard and we'll live without passion to conquer all the things beyonf our control.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
well by definition if it is out of our control we cannot conquer them, only if there is an element that we have some control but not all then we can strive to conquer them.
@brianna94 (4)
• United States
19 May 08
That is sad. That have happened to me and I didnt get what I bargained for.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yes I think it happens to all of us at some time or other in our life.
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
19 May 08
It always makes you feel guilty when something like that happens. Don't beat yourself up over it though, it just worked out to your advantage and you certainly would never have wished for this. I am terribly sorry to hear about the loss of Matt's family member, and I hope your back is feeling better soon.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 May 08
I know I am late here and I am sorry
I am sorry to hear this it is so sad, I guess that he went to his Brothers and that you stayed at home I know it is awful but do not blame yourself it had nothing to do with you not really feeling up to not going
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
19 May 08
I'll admit that my mother and a friend of hers were going to go to a restaurant that I would have given my right arm to go to myself, one I couldn't get to because of transportation. One of the few times in my life I've been jealous. Unfortuantely the day befoe they were to go, Mom's friend had a stroke, and they couldn't go. Dang, a little ENVY can hurt.
I dind't feel bad though, because it wasn't my fault that the lady had a stroke, but it was ironic, in a rather PAINFUL way.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yes it is ironic, and I am so sorry to hear the lady had a stroke just the day before as well.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
19 May 08
My thoguhts and prayers go out to him and you as well.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 May 08
I didn't know anything about this until now. I am sorry that your back still hurts and I also know that you have had alot of worries over bills and such and work to do which brings on headaches also. I feel sorry for you and Matt and his family. I have wished for things also to happen or not happen and worse things beyond my control happens in their place. I know exactly how that operates and feels.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yep it is like some weird twist of fate isn't it, we get our wish but it doesn't turn out the way we planned it would.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yes but the whole point was my plans were not changed, I didn't want to go out on sunday but the reason I didn't go was far worse than my sore back.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
19 May 08
I am so sorry for his loss and will pray for him.. I hope things get better for both of you.. I have used many excuses to get out of doing something that I didn't want to do but never like this.. I do wish both of you well..
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 May 08
yes it really isn't anything one would think would ever happen that is for sure.
