Why are they hating on me??????????

I don't understand why anyone would say this to you or how they would believe that they even have a right to tell you this. It sounds like you are taking care of your kids. It sounds like you can afford your kids. I don't know who is saying these things to you but if you WANT more kids then have them. This is a decision between you and your husband. It is NOBODY elses business.

Your personal life is exactly that - personal. I would either ignore these rude comments, or simply tell these people that whether you decide to have more children or not is none of their business. Of course, deciding to have more children is a big responsibility, but that is between you and your husband, not the rest of the world. If you feel that you can love and nuture more children, then there is no reason not to.

Its your life and please live it the way you please and next time they tell you to stop having kids ask them to go and tell that to Angelina jolie that and assure them that no way are you going to burden them with th responsibility of raising your kids in case they are scared of that. Darling have a ball while you are here , you get only one life after all to live with gaurantee rest is God's will.

cream97, Do not pay attention to the people who say negative things. First, they are not living your life. Second, they do not control what you and your husband do. My mother came from a brood of about 15, no one knows exactly how many kids there are. The old battle ax was not a nice person to my mom when she was little. My mother grew up in the 50s when children were considered property and you could beat them or kill them and get away with it or even molest them. The latter happened to my mom and her many siblings. Ok enough of that. Me, I have 3 children, 2 boys ages 17 1/2 years and 16 years old, and one daughter aged 10 years. I would of had another child on my middle childs 6th birthday but had a miscarriage caused by my daughters father. I got pregnant with that one when my daughter was 5 1/2 months old. I do look back and wonder if I had walked out on him totally and completely when I first realized about that baby what my life would be like. My daughter was born october 1997 and that one would of been born january 1998. I'd have 2 ten year old children. Yes I have had my mother tell me she doesnt want me having any more children. She even went to far as to make me promise not to have another one til I got married again. I moved from southern mississippi and am in the middle of no where, farming country. The guys around here are old and moldy most with one foot in the grave.. But anyway I got off track.. I have a friend from high school who had her 6th child about 3 months ago. I am happy for her. If someone were to tell her not to have more she'd tell them where to go in an instant. I wish you and your husband all the luck in the world. Please keep in mind that these people telling you negative things do not walk in your shoes. Sorry if my post is long and boring.

the only thing i can think of is that they are jealous of the lyfestyle u maintain. they dont feel good about themselves, so they want to harass u about what u do. they want u to live they way they do. U have morals, and class. they don't. they want u to be like them. u keep doing what u doing. u are not living a destructive lifestyle. they are. u will come out better in the end. the ones who are telling u this, won't be around long enough. have a good day

I don't know why people are saying this too you, but frankly it is nobody else's business if you want to have more children! I know a lot of people only have one or two children these days (us included as we have 2 boys and aren't having anymore), but I have a lot of friends that actually have from 4 to 10 children & love it & manage very well. Tell these people that it is up to you and your husband if you want to have more children, they don't have to support or look after them so why should they be worried.

If you are taking good care of your kids and want to have more..I don't see why you shouldn't. I'd love to have more kids but we stopped at two because that's all that we can afford to have. That's our choice just as to have more kids is yours. To people who tell you not to have more kids...you can ask them why they think you shouldn't have more kids and clear their misconceptions. But personally, I don't think it's anyone's business unless you are mistreating your kids or you started a topic asking for opinions on the topic. People have their own reasons for having the number of kids they think is the right number. But one person's right number isn't right for everyone and not all people can see that.

just wondering why they had made some rude comments on you...or maybe its just a piece of advice that you must not bring another children into this world ...where do you reside??if its relatives who had made such comments i guess its tolerable depending on the way it had been said..i have four children but nobody dares to give me some rude comments...i guess its too personal...

Gee - who is it that's saying hateful things to you? I have no doubt what I'd do - I'd tell them to mind their own f***ing business, if you now what I mean! My advice to you is to just ignore these small minded people who are saying unkind things to you. Why should they care how many children you choose to have as long as you're taking good care of them and taking complete responsibility for them? I'd guess some are jealous and some are just plain stupid and certainly not worth giving a second thought to. Annie

Personally I want to limit the number of my future children to a maximum of two. But hey, no one has a right to tell you how many children you should have. As long as you're able to take good care of them you certainly have a right to have more. What I am not in favor of are the poor people in poor countries who already have 6, 8, or 10 kids and still keep on reproducing!

Hi cream97! I think that you should try to not let these comments affect you dear friend. Most people are just trying to be smart and look smart by saying comments and remarks or even give unsolicited advice. Don't let them affect you in any way. I know it is easier said than done but I did have my fair share of these "know it all" kind of people. They think they know better how to run my life especially that my hubby and I still remain childless. We have tried everything just to have children but I guess, I have to leave it to fate for now. But there are a lot of people who keep on saying things that I am doing it wrong or because of this and that and why I am not being able to conceive. I really don't care anymore what they say because my hubby and I love each other and we understand each other very well. Together we will weather all storm and these nasty/rude people. And I am happier than ever because I learned not to mind them and think of them as people who just envy my beautiful relationship with my hubby. Take Care and God Bless! Happy Mylotting!

Oh,you mistake their meaning,I think.Because you has had three children,you shouldn't have more .Or,you will feel very tired.I couldn't see that they hate you at all.

I don't know why anyone would say such a thing. There are a lot of people out there who think they know what's best for other people when they don't even have a leg to stand on themselves. I don't see anything wrong with you having 3 kids and I wouldn't see anything wrong with you have 10 kids as long as they are all taken care, and it seems that they are. I have 2 kids with my husband and he has an 18yr old daughter. We don't want anymore kids because for a number of reasons, one being that the world is over populated as it is, and if we were to change our minds about having more kids, we will adopt. If we were to have more kids, we would have to move into a bigger house, get a bigger car, etc. If you want more kids, have them. I have my own thoughts and concerns about this stuff but I'm not going to tell you that your family is big enough, stop adding to it. Are these people paying the bills, buying the food/clothing and accessories? Don't worry about what they think, and if they say something else like that to you, just tell them in the nicest way possible that it's no concern of theirs and be on your way.

I to have this exact same description scenario. It angers me. I have tons of people who tell me how wonderful of a mother I am and then as soon as I mention having a third child with my husband and only him I get the looks, the faces, and the comments. My response is that I will continue planning my children until God tells me it's enough. As long as I still have the drive, the capability, and feel that I can give all of my children adequate love and attention, I will continue to have children. We don't have a set number, we wait until we feel it's right to try for another. It is amazing how many people are so rude. I chalk it up to the fact that I have a different parentingn style then them. I figure they are the parents that cant wait to get their children gone and I'm the person who cherishes every moment with both of my children. I teach them to be respectful, they are fun, caring, sweet, kind hearted, well adjusted kids who attend a christian school. As far as I'm concerned, you just tell them that you are going to make the best decision for your family and that it really isn't any of their concern. That usually shuts up my negative people. You will probable have to repeat yourself every time the occasion is mentioned and deal with the actual criticisizm when you do get pregnant but it's all we can do is provide them with facts and honesty and bluntness about your rights as a happily married couple.

I think that as long as you are able to provide for them and are not relying on Welfare or Public Aid to support them...then do what you want. If however, you are on Welfare or Aid then yes, I agree that you need hold off on having kids until your able to afford them without help. There is a family by the name of Duggan that has been in the news alot lately and they have had 17 kids and are awaiting the arrival of #18. They have no debt, own their own home, do not receive any aid whatsoever, all of the kids are homeschooled, all of the kids play piano and/or violin and the parents intend to have as many kids as God will give them. I think it's great. Others don't. No one is asking anyone else to care for them or raise them so it's not anyone else's business. You do what makes you happy. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I would rather say that some people are just troublesome. I mean, if GOD really wants to entrust us more kids (especially when we are devoted parents), why not??? I also frown at those who think they have the right to decide whether they want to give birth or to stop the birth. I wish it was their parents that had done it towards them! For me, children are gifts from GOD and from our spouse. Having kids mean that you both (as parents) are trusted by The One Above to take care of and more child mean that more trust unto us as the parents. I would rather say that those people saying that rubbish are just ignorant. If they say it again to you, just reply back to them by saying "If you really want to know what I don't really need is, know this: I don't need your comment about this thing anymore."

ignore them.. i'm so happy & glad to hear about ur life.. for me, as long as u happy with ur life, just ignore what they say about ur kids.. if u want more kids, just have it.. its u and ur hubby to taken care of them, not others..;)

OMG! i don't know what to say... i have four kids... i am raising them alone. i've been separated from the father for almost 3 years now. i seldom recieve financial support. and in addition to that i am from the philippines ( a poor country?) but i don't find it a burden because they are MY kids. yes, life is difficult but i think as long as you can take care of your kids and give them a good life, nobody can tell you you don't need more. it's all up to you because YOU are the only one who knows when its enough. don't mind these people. children are gift from God, and the more kids you have just means you are blessed because not everybody is being given this gift of bearing a child...

Who are the ones hating on you? It's quite mean but perhaps you don't understand why they discourage you from having kids? I don't see why you talk about faithfulness and love so much yet others would not want you to have kids. If Brad and Angelina can have a dozen kids without getting hitched first then you should be able to do so too. I agree with some of the responses here that maybe your friends tell you to limit the number of children you have in order for all three of them to enjoy a better quality of life as apposed to one where their mom will divide her time and resources among many siblings.

Cream 97, my dear, why be bothered by rude comments? As far as I could see you are living a good life and you must be very happy with your husbands and kids. Just don't mind those people who tried to meddle with your life. Don't let them affect your good disposition. You don't have problems in your life, don't you? so why allow these nasty people to give you one. Whenever they give rude comments, just smile and ignore them. Sooner or later they will get tired of commenting for they would see that you are not minding them. After all it is you who will decide and after all for as long as you are right with God, He will always be by your side. Keep up your good living and make the most of your role as wife and mother. God bless!