Is bieng over protective brings good result to your kids?

I think there should be a limit. My parents believe that they should lay down rules and teach me right from wrong but thats about all that they can do because the decisions that I make are mine. I think this is the right way to be protective. The want me to find my mistakes by myself and learn from them. This is a good topic!

Let me share my experience. I have a twins ( one boy and one girl ), they are going coming 8 years old. I would say I was not over protective but I guess STRICT, but not to all things they are doing. I have my mother-in-law leaing with us. My boy twin love very much with his grandma, even during bath, his grandma help him. The conflicts here is that if my twin boy committed a mistake, or did not response or obey with me or sometimes hurt his sister, I've used my slipper to do some disciplanary action. At this point, my mother-in-law start to argue with me keep telling me that doing such things in a young children will not help much for the kids, and I keep on telling to her that thats the old way of parenting. I remembered one time that my twin boy is not following my mother-in-law this time, you know what I've heard, she said, I'll told to your Dad to discipline you because you're not following me.... So I guess, over protective depend in a situation.Why would we refrain our kids from using the internet, it is the start for them to explore, we should have parental controls over our PC to refrain them from browsing censored stuff.

I don't feel that we were over-protective with any of our children. We probably had stricter rules than a lot of parents - our kids may not have been allowed to do some of the things that other kids their age were doing - but they were things we didn't feel were appropriate for kids their age to be doing! I do feel that there are a good number of parents who are overly protective of their children, many of which have created a term called "attachment parenting" to describe their need to keep their children under their wing long after they are old enough to be independent. A child learns not only from the parents, but also from their own experiences. They do not learn to take responsibility for their own choices and actions if they are never allowed to make choices. Everyone learns important lessons from the mistakes they make, and if, because of parental restriction, they never make mistake - they never learn how to deal with them on their own.

being over protective stunts a child in various ways. either in what you allow them to do or experience.. even being too "clean". they dont learn certain things, gain confidence, and it can make them sick. keeping a child away from anything "dirty" doesnt give their immune systems a chance to develope, so they wind up not ebing able to fight anything off. not allowing yer child to climb or jump or run.. screws up their physical fitness as well.. keeping them from group activities because they might get hurt playing with other kids.. destroys their ability to socialize and make friends. what youll end up with is an adult thats allergic to practically everything and is unable to function in the world because theyve never learned HOW to.

This is a very good question. My husband and I, being born again saved Christians, now live a lifestyle pleasing to Jesus Christ. We were not always saved, and did our dirt back in the day. However, with this new mindset and love for God we are now raising our children up with these beliefs and morals because we now know the truth. We try not to be too overprotective, however, we do shield our children from some things. But we have tons of get togethers with our friends & their children so they enjoy playing with all the other kids, etc. Our kids are still very young, but I guess the main thing is that we want to keep open communication with them. We want to be very truthful & keep lines open so they can tell us how they feel and so forth. I think kids who are too overprotected, and are not told the truth about what is out there is a dangerous thing. I watched a special on NBC or something stating that it's not that the world is getting worst (which I do believe it is), but it's that kids are not being informed like children in the past. Parents are so busy and spend less time w/ their children, so kids nowadays don't really have a strong upbringing. They are more naive to everything around them. This is what we are trying to avoid.

I have a friend who she "over protected" her first boy. She was always saying things, like "be careful on your bike you can get hurt, or "becareful jumping you can fall". She was just always trying to keep him from harms way, like we all try to do. Well the only thing is now the boy is to scared to do anything he is a wimp about it all, so the 2nd son she didn't do that with, she just watch carefully and told him be careful instead of adding the becareful you can get hurt. He is the star on his baseball team, where his brother is the worst. It makes a hugh difference. I think it's important to let them try new things and learn some things on there own. They get to know who they are and have more confidence in themselves this way.

I dont think of myself as being overprotective...but when I was growing up I had a friend whose mother was right on her at all times. She wanted to know every single thing she done in a day, who she talked to...Im talking every single thing she done. She was never allowed to go to friends houses unless her mom knew everything about their parents. She could have friends over, but we were not allowed to be alone. This has caused A LOT of problems in her life. She is 23 now with 4 kids. Each with a different father, and cant live on her own. She keeps bouncing back and forth between living with her mother and father...and sometimes ATTEMPTS to live on her own. She even tried going to college, but once again her mother got in the way of that. SO yeah..I definatly think that being overprotective has an effect on your children, I just dont think its a good one.

Maybe a being an over protective parent will result to a good in our kids if we ruled them in a proper way. But if we don't ruled them and teach them in a wrong way and we are very an over protective parent, I think that is bad to our kids.

i firmly believe and would practice that parents should not be overprotective towards their kids. though i am not a parent yet, but have seen many parents being overprotective and as a result their kids getting spoilt in both physical and mental aspect of life.

Many, many, many times I've seen kids with overprotective parents. They are rebels and trouble makers when they leave, they are not happy being deprived of everything in their childhood.

I agree that an over-protective parent can be of a great disservice to their child or children. How are they supposed to gain self-confidence if they are constantly worried because Mom and Dad are calling out their name with practically every step they take. My hubby knows someone who can't even let her daughter walk two houses down the street to her friend's house without taking her by the hand and walking her to the front door and them forcing the parents of her friend to do the same when it is time for her to get home. Sheesh! It is 2 houses down. I understand that there are people out there whose only goal in life is to grab and hurt children. But, that is why we teach our children to stay away from strangers and to scream bloody murder if one approaches them. There are ways to protect your children without having to constantly hold their hands when they dare to step out of the front door. If memory serves, her daughter is probably something like 13 or 14, if not older by now. It isn't out of the realm of possibility for a girl her age to be kidnapped but, what is she going to do when it is time for her to go to college? Become her roommate?

I think that you're right that such kids lack confidence. I've found that my children have a quite good ability to tell what they can do. It's not perfect when they're under 2, but after that they're pretty good! There must always be balance between protecting and letting them try.

Hi, Bebs08. I believe nowadays lots of parents are over protective on their children. This is not a good things to do because the kids are too fragile and lack of confidence in themselves. It surely will affect their growth and learning process. I think I have the tendency to be over protective as I'm a cancerian!!! Too motherly! But I'll try my best not to as I know the bad consequences of over protecting kids!!!

as a daughter, i think parents who've been so overprotective like mine end up with a fight with their children and time comes when they act rebellous. they carry on to friends a lot. if your a parent, try to be more protective but let him/her out and enjoy his/her life. ^^

I think that's what they mean by 'smotherly love.' I was not over-protective with my children. Protective to some degree, but not enough that they didn't learn how to handle themselves, and the consequences of their actions. They have grown to be two honest, loving, and career-wise people who I am very proud of. I, however, was over-protected as a child. I think there's a lot of truth about growing up lacking self confidence. If you never were allowed to make your own choices as a child, it's hard then when you're an adult. I wasn't even allowed to date until after I graduated! School dances...no way lol. The result for me was that I finally had to break away as an adult, and learn to find my true self, and how to make my own decisions and trust those decisions I made. I think it is so wrong to over-protect a kid! We're supposed to give them the roots so that they can become responsible adults and fly on their own.

i am raised with an over-protective parents actually as i am the only daughter and they love me too much... the result is not so good... i become crippled, dependent, miss out a lot on my teenage years and i can't do many things that many people should be able to do in my age... but i never regret it and i also didn't blame my parents for that... i know that they are doing it out of their love for me... i just wish that they can give me more freedom to do things that i should be doing in the past so that i can become more matured and independent... take care and have a nice day...

i think no. in my country actually there are many people who are overprotective of the children. i have seen most of the time it does not work. what can be the case. the child never learns the lessons of life hinself.

My parents are very strict. Like I wasn't allowed to go out to much late, can't go have a fieldtrip with friends, and other stuff. My mom was like this because she was afraid that I would get an accident or be kidnapped. She would walk to school with me almost everyday when i was in 5 to 8 years old..about 5 min of walking. There are some people who want their children to learn at a young age to do things on their own but they take a risk. i think it is independent of good grades. Good grades depends on how long enough and a good understanding he has with the homeworks. My best friend parent's were more strick..is of age of 23 now and still has trouble finishing school.

I believe that kids raised by over protective parents do grow up to be afraid of new things,and they lack the self confidence to get anywhere in life,and I think its kind of sad,cause the parents are just trying to help their kids,but they end up hurting them instead.

its not good because they can't explore themselves..they will not learn with themselves..