I Had To Kiss Alot Of Frogs...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
May 20, 2008 11:01am CST
Some ppl jump from relationship to relationship trying to decide if this one or that one is the right one. They pick them over, compare them, analyze them, look at the good points and the bad…kind of like picking a pair of shoes from the end of the summer sales bins. One of two things inevitably happens…they either find a treasure at the bottom of the pile, the perfect fit, the perfect color, shape, texture…the absolute best pair or they pick the ones that they can tolerate without wanting to gouge their eyes out everytime they put them on. Partners are basically the same. You either find the perfect partner or one that you can tolerate and live with until either you get sick of them, they die or you find someone better.
I’ve dated a lot of guys that I just tolerated…I knew they weren’t the right one but they were all right for the moment. Thankfully, I found my Hubby. He’s my treasure and it took a lot of digging to find him. I never really liked the dating game and I’m happy that I’m out of it now. I think if I wouldn’t have found my Hubby I would have just stayed single…I know if he ever passes away I don’t ever plan to go looking again. I’ll be happy on my own.
Did you find your Prince Charming or are you tolerating your partner? Did you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find him? If you didn’t have your partner anymore would you get back into the dating pool again?
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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22 responses
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
22 Jun 08
My partner and I had known each other for a while before we committed to a relationship. I was involved with someone else at the time, but it was going nowhere fast. After that relationship broke up, I had a few months to myself, and then my partner and I made the decision that we would at least try, seeing as we were spending a lot of time together any way.
Over 7 years later, almost 5 kids, and we are still in the 'honeymoon' period, though more grounded! lol.
We have always wanted the same things, think very similarly and at times only have one brain between us!
I am very lucky to have found him, and thinking back, I'd really given up on love and could just have easily decided against giving things ago.
Thankfully, I listened to the common sense side of me that said you will never know unless you give it a go, and so grateful I went with my instincts.
I did have a few boyfriends before finally getting the right one, but none of them were all that serious, just more a bit of fun. Each brought me closer to my current partner, so none could really be regretted.
I am very lucky to have found him, and thinking back, I'd really given up on love and could just have easily decided against giving things ago.
Thankfully, I listened to the common sense side of me that said you will never know unless you give it a go, and so grateful I went with my instincts.
I did have a few boyfriends before finally getting the right one, but none of them were all that serious, just more a bit of fun. Each brought me closer to my current partner, so none could really be regretted.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
28 May 08
Like you, I had to kiss too many frogs before I found the right one. I even married two before I married my husband. If my was to pass away or something was to happen that we weren't together anymore, I would stay single as I don't like the dating scene anymore either.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
21 May 08
I am sure when you meet the right one then you can be happy.They all have their faults as we do,but some we can take and some we can't..I did meet my love ,however he was not perfect but i did love him..
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
21 May 08
Hubby was my one and only partner...ever! I had no intention of ever dating or getting married. He pursued me and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. lol I finally relented after a year of him driving me insane and now content in our up/down marriage of 13yrs. If something were to ever happen and I was to lose him, I would stay single. I'm a loner at heart so it doesn't bother me if he's not here or he takes our daughter out for the day either.
@phillygirl606 (1112)
• United States
21 May 08
This post just made me smile. First let me just say that I have kissed a lot of frogs, most of whom I could not even tolerate. They would end up getting on my nerves so bad. Many said I was just being picky. But if someone annoys you so bad and you can't stand to be in the room with them no longer how is that being picky.
I must admit though I have lucked out. I was lucky enough to find the guy that truly makes me happy. We are not married, just dating at the moment. I am finally in a relationship where I actually trust the guy completely. It has taken me a long time to get to this point. I know when he tells me something that it is the honest truth (even if I don't want to hear it I know he will tell me the truth). He's pretty much the first guy that I feel I can be completely me. He takes the good and the bad about me.
I can be myself around him and he knows he can be himself around me. The even better part about it is that he and my entire family get along. Which is a big deal for me because I am really close to my family. We spend all our free time together, and he will sit in my house with my entire family and feels completely comfortable about it.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
20 May 08
...my prince charming found me.. though we were both a little froggish at the time.. but still hip and kool of course! I wasn't all that impressed.. just thought of him as another guy.. but then somehow he turned out to be just what I needed and he stuck by me and I stuck by him, when we both needed it.. and well 34 years later we're pretty durn tight! And very much infatuated to boot! If anything ever happens to hubby, forget it! I don't want any other man.. Unless he freaks out and trades me in for two 20's, then I'd be looking for someone new (after waiting for a spell for him to come to his senses) but I wouldn't be looking desperately or anything
I might even opt for remaining a loner.. as I tend toward that anyway..
I might even opt for remaining a loner.. as I tend toward that anyway..
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
21 May 08
well i guess yeah i had found my soul mate and its my hubby...its what im looking for a guy generally..although he had some flaws but it doesnt matter...when you love somebody it means loving all his positive and negative side..
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
20 May 08
I adore your analogy! I found my Prince after having kissed only a few frogs. ONE BIG BULLFROG, and my prince was my saving grace there.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 May 08
Yes. I have had to kiss alot of frogs because all of those nasty frogs used me and shoved me to the curb. I have been married for 13 years now and have been with my husband for a total of 16 years. He was a frog also at one time. If he and I ever split up or he passes on, I would not want to go back out in the dating field to mess with more frogs that will use me.
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
21 May 08
I've kissed a lot of princes that turned into frogs. I'm done with men. Do you know a nice frog? LOL
@gemini_rose (16264)
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20 May 08
I am very happy with what I have got, and I have already decided that if we ever split up or should the unthinkable happen then I will not be getting involved with anyone else. I just would not put myself through all that again.
If I ever find myself on my own again for whatever reason I shall embrace it and enjoy it, I want to be my own person and not have to worry about having to start all over again with another man.
@guinness1982 (261)
• United States
20 May 08
you couldnt have put this any better!! I to have kissed a lot of frogs (I call them toads lol) but I have finally found my prince. and I feel the same way about him that you do with your hubby I wouldnt ever look again if he passed away cause I Know hes the only one that was ever really meant for me. I'm happy for you to!!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
20 May 08
Well that is hard to really say because even though I know I found the one for me, if he did happen to die before me I know he would want me to move on to be happy again if possible it would be awhile before I would venture out into the dating world but sometimes being around people that make you feel good is not a bad thing. I wouldn't be date crazy or anything but it would be nice to settle down with someone to grow old with and not be so lonely to have someone to hold me when I need it to comfort me to make me feel cherished and love again. As I said I wouldn't throw myself back into the dating pool but if it happened that I found someone that I felt that I could love again or atleast have a good relationship with then I wouldn't be against it. Me and my hubby have a love hate relationship we love each other dearly but we both have habits the other doesn't necessarily like not bad habits but tolerable. He is a neat freak which he likes everything in it's place while I like the lived in look clean, but lived in. I do leave dishes overnight if they aren't that many just a few which he hates. I hate that he doesn't lift the toilet lid to pee(our lid doesn't stay up and is always falling down so he doesn't lift it cause it just falls down We will be getting a new one soon though hopefully and not a vinyl one.
@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
20 May 08
I have been with mine for 20 years I don't think I could every kiss anyone else again I didn;t have to kiss to many frogs before I found him and now I just put up with him lol
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
20 May 08
This is my 2nd time around and I prefer to just keep looking at the prince charmings and remembering WHY I don't want to live with one ever again! LOL
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
20 May 08
Yeah, I been the yard sale bit myself a few times.
Along the way I met a few frogs, married a Troll 
, and after many years finally managed my Great Escape.
I then almost messed up again by meeting a Toad who was so whacked that it wasn't funny, and who reminded me a lot of the Troll.
I finally got rid of Toad and met Cavegirl and now we sit happily around the fire with nary a care.
If anything ever happened to Cavegirl, I really doubt I could find a suitable replacement, so I doubt I would do any hunting.
, and after many years finally managed my Great Escape.
I then almost messed up again by meeting a Toad who was so whacked that it wasn't funny, and who reminded me a lot of the Troll.
I finally got rid of Toad and met Cavegirl and now we sit happily around the fire with nary a care.
If anything ever happened to Cavegirl, I really doubt I could find a suitable replacement, so I doubt I would do any hunting. 
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
20 May 08
I think about this sometimes. We get along so well and are so comfortable together that the thought of getting married again does not look good to me. The whole dating, etc scene is just ugh...
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
20 May 08
Good analysis. I am the analytic type. Yes, it took some digging and especially at first he was not altogether without warts, but neither was i, metaphorically speaking. We grew together and now truly do fit like hand and glove most of the time. I have never lived alone, and do suspect that at first the minutes would drag on like miles, but neither would I ever move in with someone just to avoid being alone.
