have you tried stealing someone who really isn't yours?

I haven't tried it, but it was done to me. Some people do this because they can get away with it, and along with this, its a conquest. "I got you to drop him and go for me", that's power in their minds, and its a reflection of their "appeal value"... again all in their minds. For others, I've seen the theft of another due to the status of the person being stolen. The person is already in a stable relationship, "therefore", they are relationship material with you too. I can understand the thinking to a degree, but its still completely baffling. The worst part of course is when people take the thoughts to action... and succeed. There are thought processes and emotions that drive the stealing another mate, but this can vary. Feelings of fear, desperation, jealousy can cause it, also positive feelings or intentions could cause it too: actual love, kindness, sympathy. Another note Zer0, think of it from this perspective. Depending on your society, cheating/stealing-partners will go a certain way reliant on the status or gender of the person. It can be exploited to get away with stealing someone else's partner. For example, if a man steals a woman already in a relationship, the boyfriend is looked at with some sympathy but in the same light there are those that think the boyfriend is at fault for the cheating ("he wasn't a good enough lover", "he wasn't satisfying her" and so forth: even though he did nothing wrong). The contrary example is if a woman steals a man. The cases I've seen and read, the girlfriend is sympathized with, and the man stolen is blamed for the deception, the hurt caused. Its an interesting paradox... but it sheds more light on the subject in my opinion.

For the title, no, I haven't tried taking someone else's partner for myself. Here's how I see it though, if I can easily or difficultly steal (man, using such terms makes the subject like an item that can be acquired.. ) someone else's partner to be mine, its not that distant for someone else to steal my partner as well. What goes around comes around, as they say. Just think about it, why would I like someone to experience a loss in their life if I myself don't want to experience the same thing? Well, I'm not implying it generally. Some may refer it as "stealing someone else's" but, you can also consider why didn't the person who was stolen resisted or fought back? They do know that they are currently in a relationship, why so do they let themselves be stolen by others? There I go again with the term... think of a euphemism.. Then again, there are simply situations wherein they just felt better with each other than with their current partners. Can you blame them for being in-love? Would you just solve it with a cliche as "If you really do love them, you have to set them free?" At any rate, please tell me an alternative word for "steal" when it comes to relationships..if there is any, I hope..

I have to be honest here and say yes....but I wouldn't call it cheating. I met this guy through his girlfriend (she was my roommate at the hostel)...and we got to be friends. But after sometime, we realized that we were right for each other but they weren't and they had already drifted apart though they hadn't officially broken up. Though I did have feelings for the guy, I never told him about it because he and my room mate were officially still together. But I guess both of us could feel the vibes between us. This guy had a twin brother and he spoke to him about how he felt and the brother agreed that we were better together than his then girlfriend. But he had to confirm with me first if I felt the same way...and he talked to me about it. I said I did....but I wouldn't want to date him unless he broke up with her...which he did in a few days. So, technically I wasn't trying to steal someone who wasn't mine...he wasn't her's either...he just hadn't told her till then.

i havent tried it but i dont know if you will call it stealing but one of my past relationship was really hard. i think she really want me and shes not happy with his boyfriend. When were together we are happy so happy enough to say that its true love but then she gone she went to Us and no more communication.Thats a happy story coz we shared love with a smile in our lips... hey girl u from pasig im form here near Libis eastwood city...

I've done it once.. But it's not that i do it on purpose.. Sometimes when u feel for the other party, it's hard to stop or control, especially when it started off from being just frenz.. The care and support will slowly evolve into love, unknowingly.. And by time when we find out, it's too late.. Though it's unfair to the couples and me being a 3rd party.. But when the time has come, it will come.. And it doesn't make me any happy to see her breaking up with her bf just to be with me, as she will be in an equally awkward position too..

hum.i have never done that before and will never do that.if he is really not mine,how should i illegally seek the proverty of others?someone may say it is interesting and breathtaking? or just to fill the fill the content or vanity?

It is actually impossible to "steal" someone from someone else. You can try to get with someone that is already taken but the fact is that if they are truly in love with the person they are with, you efforts will be in vain. No one owns anyone. If a person falls for your advances even tho they are committed to someone else then that tells me there is something very wrong in that relationship and also with that person's moral standards. I would never even attempt it even if i were attracted to the person because that would tell me that it could happen to me too. I think some people get an ego boost from doing this.

i never steal but someone steals from me. i hate it and it really hurts. if i can only kill that person, i would really love to do it but she's lucky enough that it's not legal to kill lol

i never done stealing from others. some says if you steal from others, you may get a worst life and i dont want to be like that. if possible i dont want to steal which is not mine.

No. I haven't. Instead of that, someone tried to steal me from my by^^ Haha. And seeing he's crying and begging me to stay, let me know how painful it was. Well, the 3rd person is my ex. And i know, stealing people's bf/gf isn't a good thing to do. I'm glad i end up with him instead of my stupid ex:P

I have actually done this... But I backed off because I loved the person so much. She's my bestfriend now. She had a boyfriend before, but I came into her life after they broke up. From there my feelings grew stronger. But soon enough, they got back together. I was confused and I was alarmed that I wouldn't have the chance to have her. So there, I told her how I felt and did sweet things for her. But then, I felt that it was against my nature to do such thing. And I didn't want to ruin their relationship so I stopped. We're still close friends up to now, she respects me and I have a huge respect for their relationship too. I don't know if i still love her though. But I still like her. So here I am, waiting subconsciously I guess. ^^

Personally, I have never tried to have a relationship with someone who was already in a relationship. But, recently I've had it happen to me. In my opinion, my hubby is a very handsome man. He's talk and very solid. Most people think he's mean and rude when first running into him. Well, in the shop that he works in there's a clerk. She does all the paperwork. For some reason she took a liking to my hubby. She tells him her personal business, takes his bag home with her when he forgets it, and states that she would like to be friends with me. This bothers me because I've never met her or even seen her. She has never seen me either. My hubby and I have been agruing about this all day. He just thinks she's being friendly while I know she's trying to get closer to him.

I never done that.There are alot of men in the world why go to the one who is already committed but i have nothing against those who did because i know they have their own reason of doing that.

How do you define stealing? Is it defined in the "girlfriend"'s point of view. Or the outsider's point of view? A girl could love the boyfriend, and the boyfriend admires the girl. The girl has no intention of owning the boyfriend because she knows about the girlfriend. The girl just wants to show her admiration and attraction, giving the boyfriend attention, making him special but not to the point of "stealing" the boyfriend from the girlfriend. She just feel happy serving the boyfriend. Then the girlfriend could attack the girl, and accuse her of "stealing" Or maybe, the girl and the boyfriend are just confidante' or bestfriends. So they tell each other secrets and all. They have a unique bond of friendship. But the girl could be accused as "Stealing" by the girlfriend. Sometimes, it's the other people [the outsiders] who dictates to the girlfriend that it's "stealing". In my opinion, "stealing" [or alleged stealing] could start when the boyfriend entertains any of the entertaining/serving acts of a girl. Love could develop between the two of them, and I believe men are generally easy to be tempted. Eitherway, it's just my opinion.

No I have never done this because I wouldn't want to hurt the person that they were with. It just seems wrong.

I wouldn't even dream of stealing someone else's guy in the first place. No, I really don't think people should steal each others partners. If somebody steals my guy, I would really raise a lot of ruckus. LOL

i have never stolen other's someone, and i will try not doing that. but, it will be great if we're stolen by someone . anyway, a friend of mine experienced it. he was asked by her bf (which is my friend also) to take care of her when they (the thief and the girl) went to another city by train. it's in the train both were falling in love each other.

stealing = crime no offense but i think stealing someone who isn't yours is meany....i am sure people who actually done this doesn't want this happens to them either. Don't forget about "karma" what you give is what you got....

You can't actually steal someone unless they want to be stolen. So really you are probably just ending a relationship that would end anyways, but ending it in a more unpleasant fashion.

You're right it doesn't make sense to steal. If you can steal something it can be stolen. Why would you sacrifice a friendship or credibility over something that can be so easily taken? It never made any sense to me. Except for that one time.