how much do you love/hate your father?
By ashryl
@ashryl (84)
Philippines
May 22, 2008 5:41am CST
I've been away from mylot in the past few days because my father was admitted to the hospital last Saturday due to mild stroke. I was worried sick and couldn't sleep for a few days. But now I'm really glad that he's okay.
Growing up with my grandparents, I hardly see my father. Only during summer vacations. I hated him for a while and didn't understand him so even when I graduated from college and moved to the city near where he and my siblings live, I rarely visit them.
But after what happened in the past few days, I realized something - that even if geographic distance set us apart in the past, I love my father just as much as I loved my grandparents. And I promise to make up for the time we've lost together.
how much do you love/hate your father?
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18 responses
@pricessfafa (138)
• United States
23 May 08
i love my father so very much and he would do anything just to see me happy,even though him and my mom are separated doesn't mean i have to hate him for that
@ashryl (84)
• Philippines
23 May 08
That is right princessfafa, you should not hate your father because he separated with your mom. If he doesn't love your mom anymore, it doesn't me that he doesn't love you anymore too. We have to understand that not all marriages work and sometimes it is better for two people to separate than live in one roof with anger.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Well.. I can't really say. It's been 10 years since he left and went on to have another family of his own. He is still my father though. I had forgiven him but it will take quite a lot if he wants to go back... :(
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Yeah. Well, I also took as kind of a blessing in disguise. I learned a lot without my father. Stand on my own be the head of the family in an instant. Me, my mom and my sis went through a lot. He can't go back. We just wish he'd had a happy life as we are happy as we are now. :)
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
23 May 08
I loved my father very very much. He passed away late last year and the wound is still very fresh in my heart. He was the best man I have ever known. I miss him.
I am glad you are going to make the most out of this second chance with your own father.
@cross10 (506)
• Indonesia
23 May 08
well i do love him because he already work really hard, from zero until what we had some "enough" live. The term enough here means we almost can afford what we want. But the thing that i hate, that he still think bad about my mom and her family, since he got bad memories with my mom's family. Well i think that there is no word such late, so i think it is not impossible to change my parents thinking into good one, so they can be in a good relationship again
@crusaders (36)
• Philippines
23 May 08
HELLO ASHRYL, GLAD TO KNOW YOU ARE WORKING THINGS UP WITH YOUR FATHER..........MAYBE IT HAS BEEN QUITE LONG SINCE YOU HAVE NURTURED THAT HATRED? OR ANGER? ME? ILOVE MY FATHER SO MUCH EVEN HIS WEAKNESS AND WRONGS I TURNED IT TO SOMETHING
"AVOID-IT-AND-DON'T COPY-IT" AND CHERISH HIS GOODS AS "THAT'S-THE-WAY-I-SHUD-DO-THINGS" .. i HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH MY DAD...HE IS NOT THE BRIGHTEST OF THEM ALL BUT THE BEST IN MY SIGHT.... FOR YOU ASHRYL.......SINCE YOU HAVE WASHED THE CURTAINS.... CLEANED UP THE ROOM..........NOW OPEN THE WINDOWS AND LET THE SUNSHINE COME IN THEN PAT YOUR DAD AND TOGETHER ENJOY GOD'S LOVE AND KINDNESS AS THE SUNBEAMS HIT YOUR HEARTS AND BRIGHTEN YOUR SMILES.....SMILE LADY ITS A WONDERFUL LIFE..............
@gaogao_smile (30)
• China
23 May 08
sometimes i hate my father because of some bad habits ,like drinking,smoking~~~and so on.
but i never hate him,even sometimes he cheat my mother.
mum also hate him just when he did some wrong things,but i believe mum still love dad!:)
And so do I!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 May 08
I do not hate my father, but I don’t love him too. I have issues with him and I think it will be ages until it will be resolved, maybe will not even be solved cause we are no longer talking to each other.
My father left us when I was a kid and that is where everything started.. I thought I can never forgive him, but the truth is I already have. When I saw him years ago I took pity on him and my anger went away. We are in no good position, but he is worst than our current situation.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
23 May 08
My relatinship with my father is so weird. I find the older he gets the crankier he gets, and I dont even understand why. Somedays hell be the coolest and funnnest dad and well get along so well, and other days hell just be rediculous, and get mad at absolutely anything and everything. Even if its the smallest thing ever, he lets it get to him that much some days I love him so much and others I hate him. I just get worried that our relatinship will be absolutely non existant when I leave.
@00BleedingShadow00 (784)
• Philippines
22 May 08
I still love my father even though he gave up on us. But sometimes when I think about him leaving us I can't help myself but hate him a lot. He was not on my side when I grew up. And it made me realy feel incomplete. :0(
@lynnlwn308033129 (116)
• China
27 May 08
I love my father so much. In my childhood, I would not go to bed if my father was not at home. My mother always asked me to sleep earlier, but I was not willing to do that unless my father was home. If Dad hadnt gone back, I would wait him. Sometimes my Mom was so tired that she had not any choice but let me wait and went to bed alone. Hehe. Thinking of this, I often feel it is very funny.
@miachen (68)
• China
22 May 08
I'm confussed by this question because my father cheated my Mum. And telling my mother the ture is the last thing what I wanna do.
When I was a child, I get the love from my traditional Chinese father as the same as from my mother. I cherish it and thanks for it.
But when I know the great father have affair, I'm totally bule.
Sometimes, I really accept this sentence --- "How much you love, how much you hate".
@kriszelunka (557)
• Australia
23 May 08
I no longer hate my father, but I have nothing to do with him, as he is an abusive alcholic.
It does cause some tension in my family, as only some family members have accepted my decision not to have anything to do with him. Other family members give me grief about the fact that I don't see him, but I made my peace with my decision a long time ago.
@rahuldhiman (130)
• India
25 May 08
i love my father too much , many time he heart me but it does not meen i hate him i love him alot i think i can not hate my perents because i attech him by hart ya many time i dont like due to any resion but it does not meen i hate
• Indonesia
23 May 08
When i was a child, i don't understand my father because he likes to hit us his children especially after he got home from works. But i never hate him, i scare of him so much that it makes our relationship not good because i don't want to talk so much with him. But i know he was like that because of stress in job, and he changed when we moved in to new town. I know he love us and trying to give us the best so i still love him. Hope for you and your father the best.
