love is ain't anything in a relationship

You had a point there. But for me love is the foundation of everything. You wouldn't be able to give true respect, trust, care, honest etc to one person unless you love him/her. You didn't like to lie to someone you love, do you? If you love someone you do everything that makes her happy. You do things that will not hurt him/her. In other words all you do is what's best fo that person you love. Have you imagine being in a relationship with someone who doesn't have love? Just repect, honesty and caring? Isn't it too boring that you wanted to cut the relationship? You maybe right but the bottomline is to have a long lasting relationship you must have love in it. They may say that love will fade but if you do take a better look at it it doesn't fade coz if it does it's not love at all.

You are right. Any aspects determine our relationship. Because love is just one of the primary element. That's why people confuses when someone ask him/her, "what is love?" But I had my own description: The love is actually what's contained in the Fruit of All Truth which Adam and Eve had eaten. Problem is the Eve ate the half, Adam had the half. Once they ate that, they will always hunger for the fruit taste. But alas, the tree had been burnt down from Lost Garden of Eden. Along Lucifer had been exiled into an oblivion between Earth and Hell, which was unreachable by immortal like Adam and Eve. They cannot enter the garden anymore to make contact with the mortals, nor they cannot meet Lucifer either. Later they always tried to find the way to fulfill the emotional thirst. At last they find a bit closely one, that's what we called Love. An empathy emotional of willing to share the Truth which was contained in each other. Eve has the A-M truth, Adam has the N-Z truth. Then they will try anything to share the truth, and teach this to their kids. But not each of them shared it successfully, just a very few of them. This still happened until now, until the time when you read this. That's why each people has its own sharing story, they will use any means to fulfill the emotional thirst by providing and hoping to receive from others too. Because once, one of them, stops the process, the other will stop it too. Then the love will never been revealed, the relationship stops, and left a memory in their heart. That because they had ever opened their heart and let the emotional feed from others. The emotional feeder which was going into one's heart will be never faded, and it will be attached inside forever. ____________________________________ Most Beautiful Just Before

You are right, there is no such as love. I only believe in respect each other, trust, caring, honesty, understanding, adjust, compromise and commitment in a relationship. Love it's just the spice of a relationship.

I agree with you but in some way, when two persons deeply in love with each other, things as trust,understanding,adjustment will come to next. Each one has deep care for the partner so makes them adjust and be open-minded but, for sure there are couple who will realize lately that they can't work together best for some differences that will not match up!

although there are some attitude we must consider in a relationship but the most important of is love. it conquers everything, if love is present, all minors attitude will followed. love is the catalyst of every relationship, without it, now couple.

No, you are correct. The initial attraction between two people fades after time so there has to be something more than romantic love to keep a couple together and happy. You mentioned some very important qualities that I agree with completely and I can only add friendship to the list. I believe that your partner in life should also be your friend.

You are spot on-if you dive into a love affair without looking into such issues as character both inner and outer, patience, tolerance, ability to for give, compromise, fidelity, etc, you will find love a real heart sore

think a good relationship is also built on friendship ya have to be good friend to build on the love part and it always take s work to make a relationship work

I agree with you on this. Love should not only be the reason to build a good long lasting relationship. There should be trust and respect in it. People should think first deeply on their relationship. Not only just for love and lust. Building a good relationship also involves thinking. Use both head and heart not just the heart..mostly heart use only makes more mistakes than using both the mind and heart.

I sincerely disagree. If you don't love someone, why would you even want to compromise, or care, or trust, or adjust or be honest? If you do truly love someone, it's second nature to do those things. So I think you're wrong. Love is the base and core of a deep, serious, lasting relationship.

of course love is not everything, love is only one of the main reasons for a strong relationship, those things you've just told are key elements to build a lasting relationship. trust and respect should be present because love alone can't make your relationship lasting.

You are right there should be more to a relationship than just love, a lot more and this is what I always say to my hubby too. I want to have trust, friendship and everything I want him to be my best friend and a good companion, we nearly have all those things so we are not too bad. I am hoping that as time goes on and when it is just me and him more of those things that we already have will deepen even more.

Love isn't everything in a realationship. Love is something that grows and comes into being. I think when you say you love someone you should always be asking yourself "why do I love this person?". Then ask yourself why to the answer and keep asking until you've gotten to the root of that love. Then I believe you will know if you have a "real love" or a romanitized love. Another thing to perhaps concider, is whether that love is part of a partnership instead of a relationship. We all have relationships of varying sorts with varying types of love. Rarely do we have partnerships with someone where you're going to stick come thick or thin, good or bad, young or old.And I think partnerships develop from being the best of friends. When relationships break, we hurt; but we can find another boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. We can't, however, just find another best friend.

I agree. I think you should start off a relationship and build a friendship because you have to have a friendship before you can truly know someone enough to be in a relationship. I have never done this, but if I could go back I would of. I never considered that things could happen and I should have been thinking is the man Im prepared to have children with.

yes, its true that love is not everything. actually trust, respect etc are equally important. but sometimes we forget this in relationship. love is obviously something that make it more important. just with love, no realtionship would work.

Well, of course you are right. Love alone cannot stand by itself. Love should encompass everything there is to but it depends individually as I see it. People define love in multiple ways. Some differently, some similarly. Personally, I believe that love should be the foundation. Like a house, love has many different parts that are needed to support each other and to function at its best.

i agree with you...love is not the only thing that makes relationship go stronger. in my personal opinion, trust and respect play a vital role in every relationship. without these, everything will be in mess..

It depends on how one defines love. Sometimes what people fall into is infatuation, not love. I think love is something that people grow into over time not something that bops them on the head. I know it is possible to feel a lasting attraction at first sight or to "just know" someone is the right one, but that is not how I define love. To me, the things you list such as respect and honesty are all part of the package. Without those it is not love.

I think you have a good point here because sometimes love is just not enough. I remember my ex-husband when he split up with a girlfriend and I asked what went wrong, he told me that he loved her but just did not like her. Crazy I know but the like, the trust, honesty and understanding just weren't there. Ellie :D

I totally agree with you! Love is not the only component in building a successful relationship. What is a relationship if you don't trust your partner? It would be useless if you don't understand each other and if honesty is not present. I don't have any other opinion because I agree with you a hundred percent. Nice post!