Would You Consider Selling Your Baby?..

@eihdra (3115)
Philippines
May 25, 2008 7:45am CST
Some women here in my country, did consider selling their kids, (It's in the news)..They always say that because they are so poor and doesn't have money to feed the child, they opted to sell. They also say that, rather than the kid die of starvation or just end up in a dumpster, better to sell (not give) to those who cannot have children and at least the kid's life will be better..And there are those, intentionally get pregnant so they can sell the baby to the highest bidder.. Why get pregnant if you know that you're so poor and cannot afford another mouth to feed? Why do some women can still live their normal lives, after selling their babies? Would you do it, if you are given the same circumstances?
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
26 May 08
Me and my fiance havent had a baby yet,but if we did I know I would never sell it,just like I know fiance would agree with me,because it is wrong to sell your baby,even if you are poor,because it is your baby,your pride and joy,and you should be glad to have a bundle of joy,and you should take care of it because it is your responsibility.
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• United States
27 May 08
Yes I know she will be a good mom,and I hope I will be a good dad,and I know we will both cherish our child whenever we do decide to have one.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 May 08
I'm sure you'll both be good parents someday and will cherish your kids..thanks..
@mtsandeep (1586)
• India
26 May 08
selling our own child!!! Its so shocking to hear these news. But its happenning around the world. It is banned in every country but these things happen.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
yeah, i was shocked too when I saw the news..and even if it was banned, some are still doing it..thanks..
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
26 May 08
Selling a baby? No, I won't do it ever if I will have my child I would never even thinking to do on Sale..that is a big NO even in any circumstances in my life......
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
thanks..
• United States
26 May 08
Let's face it, some women are just really irresponsible and get pregnant because they're careless. They don't care about what happens to the kid as long as they get what they want. Some women just want the money and probably would sell their kid. I wouldn't sell my kid. I'd put my kid up for adoption if I couldn't afford to take care of my child. If I can't care of my child I'd hope that someone out there could adopt them and give them a really good home.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 May 08
No, I would never even think of selling my child. If I was poor I would just as soon not have a child, although I am aware that some are not planned. I can understand selling the baby but only if the parents want to test to see if the people they are giving it to will be able to support the child. I don't like hearing things like this, it breaks my heart to hear of women selling their children.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 May 08
It definitely breaks my heart too. I just wish that these women will think many times before they decide.. thanks..
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• China
26 May 08
Of course, I wont do it if I have a baby. It's terrible to sell one's own child. So brutal. I hope all of the mothers in the world love their children in any circumstance.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
and that's what mothers should be..you have such a long name, so i hope it's ok to just call you lyn..thanks..
• China
27 May 08
of course, just call me lynn. :)
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
28 May 08
if you can't feed your child or if can't take care of him/her then don't get pregnant.,your not responsible enough if you sell your baby and telling people because you are poor.,hell! your supposed to behave that way and in the first place that is not your baby.,God create that.,and it he will not give that to you without a purpose., see you around! have a nice day ahead!
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
28 May 08
I understand your thoughts..By the way, It's not me, this is just a topic..I too, would never ever sell my baby..thanks for dropping by...
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
27 May 08
Why get pregnant if you know that you're so poor and cannot afford another mouth to feed? Some pregnancies are accidents and unplanned even when you are taking precautions it has happened to me. but if you intentionally get pregnant to have a kid to sell and blame it on your poor then your lower than a child molestor. Sorry but I could never do that. Why do some women can still live their normal lives, after selling their babies? Because they have no guilty consious and could care less for them this is a means of being a business and quick money scheme. Grrrrr. Would you do it, if you are given the same circumstances? Don't care how poor I am there is always programs out there to help you get buy and help feed your baby I would do what ever I need to support and keep my baby /
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Thanks for sharing your feelings. It's very clear that it makes you mad hearing this things..Let's just hope that there will be no more selling of babies in the near future..thanks again
@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
27 May 08
yes so many cases like that selling their kids. like me i'm one of the person who was sell to another parents. they told me that my parent has so many children that they can feed up so they decided to sell me . i hate that so much, selling your own child to other just to give them nice life, if we can not raise our child why should we go pregnant. at the same time we must be a responsible parents if we are going to have so many children plan ahead before its too late. i got kids but ages gab of 5 years old. but i have plan it to give them a good future. even i have small salary i work hard just to give them and study in a good school.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I admire you for sharing this..And I admire you more because you're working hard for your family..I know, because you don't want them to experience what you have gone through..thanks so much for sharing your thoughts..I'm sure, your kids are so proud of you!!
@landi927 (657)
• China
25 May 08
If i am given the same circumstances, i won't do that. I think poverty is just their excuse. They use this to explain their unreasonable and immoral deal. I don't think it's really so difficult to feed a kid.maybe they cannot afford the kid's schooling fee. indeed, feeding a kid is not so difficult and they definitly can do it! They just use poverty as their excuse to cover their immoral deal!!!! just like what you mentioned about, if they are able to feed their kids, why do they still get pregnant?? It's so terrible for them to doing so.
• South Korea
26 May 08
landi927's right. Poverty is not a reason to do this act. Be responsible. Wether you planned or not to have a baby, but it's your own flesh. Try to put your feet into their shoes. Would you like your mother to do that to you?
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
27 May 08
I saw this on the news the other night. I wish people like this would get locked up in prison for having such a sick mind! Bring the baby to a hospital and say "hey i dont want the baby" or something. Some woman are so sick and stupid it makes me sad that these people can still live their normal every day life! I would NEVER, ever, ever in my life think of selling my baby no matter what the circumstances were.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I hope there won't be any news of such a thing in the future..thanks..
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
26 May 08
It is also ramphant here in our country. Honestly, I haven't think of it before but I myself is against this practice but I have changed my views upon seeing one real life story in the television. I was touched by that story and that became an eye opener to me. If selling baby will not be avoided or if its the only answer to make the future of the baby a good one I definitely go for i but If it's for the good of the parents like those some who do it just to have something for their vices I don't go for that. For me it is not good to sell babies just to satisfy one's vice. I also don't buy those stories who tells that they sell their babies because they can't feed them and they just get pregnant because it happens. I think as parents they can still control the situation. They can avoid getting pregnant if they only wanted to avoid selling their babies. For the babies I think its much better for them to be sold to other people who are worthy to have babies rather than to stay with the parents who are not capable of taking care of them. BEsides for me its their own good since they will not be exposed to the bad society that the parents belong.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Id go for adoption so that if my baby find out soon I can tell him that there is no money involve and what I do is just for his best.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 May 08
I do understand your view..but would you accept money in exchange for the baby or would set the baby up for adoption without any money involved?? Anyway, your opinion is highly appreciated and thanks for taking time to respond..
@marina321 (4556)
26 May 08
Very sad that in this day and age, people are driven to such extreme measures to survive in poverty stricken areas. I believe they are acting mostly in desperation and mean well for their children. It is I am sure a very difficult position to be in and a difficult decision for any mother to make especially as there's the bond that forms through pregnancy and birth for the child and they are desperate for help, like you said the children need to survive. It's not the right thing to do but one just needs to hope that these innocent children are indeed going to good families. Worrying when you talk about selling and there's buying..
@marina321 (4556)
26 May 08
NO,I would never consider it!
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 May 08
It is indeed happening in many places here..I do pray though that those kids will have a good life.. thanks, marina..
@bertuah (60)
26 May 08
I will never sell my baby even if I am hardcore poor!! Baby is a gift from the God and we cannot buy baby from the shop like we buy a doll. I really disrespect people who sell baby for their interest.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Babies are truly gifts from God..!! Somehow, those who sell doesn't care..thanks..Welcome to Mylot!
26 May 08
Yes....I agree with u. Today people know how to make kids successfully and unfortunately do not know how to take care the kids.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
26 May 08
The very idea that people would place monetary value on any human life is shameful, eihdra, but it is a practice that has occurred throughout history. It is even more shameful when the ones who benefit from such transactions are the parents. I suppose it all is about conscience; some people have no conscience. I could never do anything like that because I would always wonder what type of circumstances I had sold my child into.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
yeah, i know..we may never know if they are loved by those who got her/him.. or if they are being treated well, fed well and so on..thanks..
@xixinha (141)
• Portugal
26 May 08
I would never sel my baby, if i were poor i would try to find family to stay with him/her or put her up for adoption. To make sure that they would find an exelent family and so they could get more than i could give them.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
hi..thanks..
@Dorislee (209)
• China
26 May 08
People may sell their own baby, I think that the major reason must be they want a boy, while government no allow them give too many birth-baby, then they have to abandon their bady or sell out. Some may because of too poor to raise many. After all, I disagree to abandon/sell ourselves baby, nowadays, boy and girl has the same rights and same important role in the world, so whatever we have a boy or girl,there is no reason to put them away, and if no enough money to raise many children, then why can't we just have 1 or 2. I think, one or two kids for me it's enough, and I will never sell them....
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
hey doris..for a while there, I thought, it's okay for you to sell..But after reading your whole message, I get your point..thanks for responding..I haven't welcomed you yet, so welcome to Mylot..
@sun2day (1062)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
26 May 08
Children are precious,there is no where in my life I would ever etertain that in my mind. A mother carries a baby in her wound for nine long 9 months most of the time. There is a special bond between mother and child, so to think of selling your baby, you would not be doing the right thing. Some people cant even concieve and others have such a difficult time concieving. It would be better to gave the baby up for adoption so it can be better cared for in the proper way.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
hey sun2day..thanks for your opinion..
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
26 May 08
No i rather not! Before having a baby i will make sure that I'm ready for it so that the child won't feel unwanted. Those people don't really have to sell their babies, they had made it and they must try to face and keep the baby. Selling them is unethical for me, making money out of their baby is not good.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
you'll be a good mom someday gloreymay.. thanks...
@sturner03 (326)
• United States
26 May 08
hey eihdra. This is a very hard question to think about. I know personally it wouldn't matter what the situation was I could NEVER sell my children. I agree that if they knew they could not make ends meet they should not have gotten pregnant. If I was so poor I would not be having babies. I love my children way to much to ever think about giving them away, thats crazy. When you are a parent you do WHATEVER it takes to make sure that those children have what they need. There is no easy way out just give up your child and you get to keep the money and live better?...thats selfish!
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I agree with you too..and what matters most is if you think you can't handle it, then don't do it.. thanks..