long distance relationship? does it really work?

hey there! i hate to be pessimistic on this but long distance relationship oftentimes fail. it requires big trust on both partners and a whole deal of committment. both partners should agree to tha fact that what they currently have may or may not work out...which is like what you said, indeed unsettling. but i could be wrong =)

well, for me it is not working... i had tried once before and it failed... i just can't handle it... not enough face to face communications and interactions... and it will be killing me... i need to be hug or kiss once in a while when i needed it... and it can't happen if we are distance apart... sms and talking on the phone are not enough for me... take care and have a nice day...

actually long distance is a test for a relationship it is actually a very hard situation that both partners may not survive.

Long distance relationships can work as long as both people are willing to try. When my husband and I started dating, it was just for a few days. He was staying with his parents for a couple of weeks in between his tech school, and his first duty station. We went out a few times, and then he left to live 1000 miles away. We talked on the phone and online every day. We saw each other again 4 months later, and got engaged. The very next time after that when he was able to come home, was 5 months later, and we got married. We've now been married for over 3 years! The long distance part was hard, but we made it through just fine. We're getting ready to have a long distance relationship of sorts again in the fall, when he gets deployed for a few months! The difference is that this time we have a 2 year old as well!

Firstly,i hope it really works and the lovers can hold to their love. However,it,in every aspect,calls for courage from both the two. As to me, i am a university student.We are senior and now it is the season of our graduation.I witnessed some people have become lovers ,while many have ended their relation,a dominant reason of which is they will depart from each other in the future. I do not exactly know what i will choose if i was in that situation.Maybe I am not brave enough to keep it,because irresponsibility of my boyfriend sometimes deduce my trust in men. Anyway,I will give all my bless to those who are in long-distance love--you are brave and please believe in yourselves and your love.

yes it can . stay strong and keep in touch as much as possible . it takes work but in the end it can be worth it

In most cases LDR won't work. It takes a lot of patience between the two and most importantly the two have to have the strong faith and strong belief that both of them can maintain LDR in the next few years to come. I had an LDR before and it can only withstand for 9 months. It's really hard for me since I did not see her and we were like about 1,500kms apart!

i think if love is there i will try to hold on to this love. i will try my best to make it work. i would think about all the other lovers who have been away but managed to survive the problems that come between them.

actually main part of any relationship is the trust. if taht is broken there is nothing. also in long distance its very hard to maintain as you are apart. so there should be proximity in whatever other way it must be. only then you can make it ahppen.

My hubby and I met online, and while we weren't half a world apart, we were half the country apart. It was quite some time before we were able to meet in person, and we've been together ever since. You have to decide whether to try and stick it out, or to give up. Being in a long distance relationship has no more or few guarantees than one even in the same house. It all just depends on how much the two people want to be together and make things work.

i have a long distance relationship right now. my boyfriend is in Dubai and im from Philippines. we'd been separated for 2 months already. actually its really hard. and its true im online everyday, waiting for him if he have time to chat with me. at times i come to the point that i doubt him. im thinking maybe he found someone there. or there is someone who is flirting with him. i really don't know since i can't see what he is really doing in Dubai. but i just give him my trust. i juts believe in what he says. i don't expect too much, i prepared already myself if ever one day he'll say that he already have a family there. for now, things are really working smoothly. and i thank God for it. but it is really HARD! i miss all the days we're together.

i was in a long distance relationship for 5 years, all those 5 years without seeing each other we just talk on the phone,then after that 5 years i went to see him cause he live in haiti,and i live in FL then after spending one week with him i realize a lot of negative things about him that put the relation to an end,i was so sad about it for like three month,then i get over it cause everything happen for a reason. I'm not saying long distance relationship can't work, but you have to really carefull, got to know that person and pray God to look ater the relationship. i have friends that have sucessful long distance relation, that they finally got together get married and live happily ever