Is it really love? Or just a lie?

i think you need to go council with her? some mother-in-laws are jealous. maybe ask her why she's doing this? she may said she doesn't notice doing that to you, but maybe shes just playing blind.. uhhhmm.. maybe you really need to council with her.. ^^

Hello cream97,Thanks for your discussion,I need to know just three answeres, firstly do you think like you, your mother in law too thinks or feels that you are getting on her nerves and you dislike her? Secondly,if youdont mindthen how long you are married and staying with your mother in law at this same home?are you nwly wed? and finally what is the reaction of your husband regarding this?

i think people show love in many ways. she does not really hate you, i would like to believe that, because she stopped doing one thing when you told her about it. Maybe she just is trying to test your patience. just be the more understanding in this regard, you are just her son's wife.. she is the mother and whatever she does, still you have pay respect to her. when he does things that annoy you, dont show her you are annoyed, show to her that you are going to repay this with so much kindness and let us see who gives us trying to hurt you... she will surely be sorry for hurting you in her small ways.

I am not sure what your living situation is, but I would have very little contact with her if i were you. You don't need to spend time with people who are not supporting you. Yes she is your mother-in-law, but that doesn't mean you have to be around her if you are feeling this way. You can even talk to her. Tell her that the things she does make you feel as if she doesn't care for you. I personally stay away from people who don't support me, or who i feel they don't care for me. That includes family. I don't stop loving or caring for them, but i prefer to not be in the company of people like that

Hi cream97! Just give her a dose of her own medicine my friend. Do to her what she has been doing to you so that she will know how it feels to be at your end. It is of course very unChristian of me to advice that way but since your mil has always been stubborn and is so set to make your life miserable, so why not give her a taste of what she has been doing to you. Let us hope and pray that will work so she might be able to change her ways for the better, Hopefully! Sigh! Take Care and God Bless! Happy Mylotting!

Mine does the same thing. Everytime that I think I can trust her and she really is genuine she shows her "true colors." I know she is a good person and I know she cares but sometimes she's just in it for herself. I bring things up to her blunt as can be and say why are you doing this when you say this and they contridict each other.

Have you talked to your hubby about it? I think I'd start there, maybe she was always strange like this. He should be sticking up for you, once you get married your responsibility is to your spouse, and not to let parents hurt them. Since you mentioned 'going by her door...' I take that to mean you live in the same house with her. I know it's hard to make it on your own with the prices of lodging and all, but maybe it's time that you two moved out on your own, or found someplace else to live. It's unfortunate, but lots of m-i-l's have the 'no woman is good enough for my son' attitude. I hope that is not it, but it can be considered. Sounds like she's self-absorbed and doesn't really think about her actions, or worse yet, she knows it bugs you yet she keeps it up anyways. Either way, it doesn't sound like a good situation for you. If I may say, I think it's counter-productive to let her know that she's getting under your skin like that. Some people get satisfaction from knowing they're bugging you, not saying that that is HER attitude, but you never know! Personally, if it was me, I wouldn't waste my breath trying to explain my feelings. She doesn't sound like the type to take it to heart. When you walk by her door, never look in, and if she shuts it, take the attitude: 'maybe she just wants some privacy.' Try this, next time she blows her breath at you, do it back with a smile on your face and giggle. But whatever you do, stand strong and don't let her see that her actions are bugging you, just leave the area and do something else. Maybe she has mental problems, or is forgetful in her old age, or maybe she's sly like a fox?! Just my thoughts anyways. Good luck!

based on what you on your description, i guess she really doesn't like you...but what you have to do is just ignore it instead you have to do things that she likes....you cook for her....give her a card......smile on her and show care for her...i guess she will like you back......take care and God bless

patience is a virtue. just be yourself and try not to be affected with anything she does that would annoy you. and still let your actions speak that you never lost your respect to her. mother in laws are always tagged as monster in laws but i think that's not true. because people have different characters and attitude, if you will do something good to them, they will respond you in the same way. so never lost your patience on her, she might still change.

I don't think she like you.She just your mother-in-law.

Did you talk to your husband about it? I think you should sit down with your mother in law and discuss the situation with her. Make sure that both of you are able to air out any negative feelings towards the other so that you can find a lasting solution for your problems. If this doesn't work, then it's best to try to move out of the house to get out of her hair. You don't want to live with someone who gives you problems and who hurts your feelings forever, especially once you have a family of your own.

Sounds to me like you two need to have a true heart to heart talk. Write down on a note pad what all you believe needs to be addressed. Make her favorite meal, maybe lunch. Then just start a normal conversation and let it lead to the topics you have written down.you have to be firm and don't beat around the bush; getting it out in the open is the best way.If she will not try to get along with you then it is her loss.

SEE after all she is your mom in law equivalent to your own mom rite? see when u commented about she shutting the door she admitted that she did not do it intentionally rite trust me it could have been just a meer coincidence that she came to shut the door when u were passin only so don u wory ma'am life is short enjoy to its fullest never hate or hurt anyone is the key to happiness in joint family take care...........

well, try to understand people older then you, they might not show you they love you, but they really do. even though she might not be your biological mother, she still probably loves you. I hated my mother and father for always taking a huge stick and beating me all the time, later i found that if they didnt, i would have some of the worst habbits ever, and some werent fixed, some parents have a unusual way of showing love, or maybe not showing love even though they really love you, that might sound confusing, but they might not be the type to be openly talking and having fun, and i irritate people a lot, not only with my untimely jokes, but with my random discussions. just learn to love her, she is your mother in law you know

I think just tell her she and you are mother and daughter. A mother-in-law is a mother, and a daughter-in-law is a daughter. One has to value and love the other as a true relative ! That would make it a happy family ! I wish everything will work out perfectly ! Best wishes to you !

just what you have told us that you are tired of her treating you like dirt and if it does not stop perhaps since she is so unhappy with you she should look for someplace more compatible. she does not seem to take delicate hints so you will have to be more direct with her.