My friend died

Life can be all too painfully real at times, can't it? I am so very sorry about your friend. I don't know if you know who's in charge of the arrangements, but if she and her mother lived together, then maybe offer to make some casseroles and take over to her for dinners while she's getting things together. Make it something she can re-heat the next day instead of having to cook anything. Maybe make some breakfast sandwiches and freeze them so she can nuke them in the mornings. Offer to wash her clothes (things she'll need done but won't feel like doing) or vacuum the house, etc. If you weren't that close to be comfortable doing that, then just make some casseroles (one dish meals of whatever) and take them over. Even if others have done it, she'll probably have family stopping by and there will be stuff they can have, too. But, most of all - offer an ear, and place to go to have a time out from the hassle, and a shoulder to cry on. Best of luck! And, condolences to her and hers.

I'm so sorry Terry. And you're right...life just sucks sometimes. It's ok that you feel this way, and it's also ok to be angry. I'm not going to tell you to be strong...I'm going to tell you to let it out and cry, its a natural feeling, and so is being angry. Only time will take care of it. Again, I'm very sorry.

Oh that is aweful. I am sure right now there just is not much I can say. She was a friend and a fellow worker. Hard to handle I am sure. Just try to take care, you need to grieve and get over the suddeness of it all. Just do what you need to do. We are here if you need. Take good care and I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.

hi...i'm sorry to hear what had happened terryz...my condolences... just remember how nice it was knowing her. find a good memory and hold on to that. that's how she should stay in your mind forever.

i'm really sorry to hear that, i'm not really the best person who can give advice but if I were in her shoes I would really want someone to show me that they really care and be there for me now since my mom will no longer be around...

All this is a part of life...Life has its own ups and downs and although we feel really hut and sad when something like this happens, time heals all wounds...just be with your freind and give her all the support she needs

May her soul rest in peace. You can use word of comfort as your friend as she passes through one of the hard times. Our condolences!.

Well I thinks its pretty normal for you to feel that way. Losing a friend that way would definitely be painful. The next best thing that you can do is to go there and share your feelings with your friend and bid her your final goodbye. Let's just say that where ever she is right now, she is in a better place and might be happier to where she is right now. For you to make it go through this is thinking positively in life but in the meantime you have the right to mourn for her.

I am so sorry for you lost.At least she wasn't in any pain.There isn't any set thing to do. If you feel like crying , cry.Try to eat something during you regular meal times.And if this will help you feel better, have your family around you. if you rather be alone, tell your family you rather be alone.Do whatever you think will help you grieve and what can make you feel a little bit better.Take care.

Well it may sound like I am trying to be funny, but look on the bright side. She went in her sleep. Boy my life would be so much sweeter if I knew that when I die I will go peacefully in my sleep. That is a heck of a lot to hope for. Thank God for allowing you to know such a wonderful person. She had to be. She was a friend outside of work and obviously raised a wonderful daughter who is also your friend. Pretty soon you guys will be getting together to remember the good times that you shared. It is still very rare for a relationship to last beyond the work place. Consider yourself blessed to have known her. Now you can be a blessing by being there for her daughter in her time of need. And the circle of life continues.

Oh Terry, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's mother, especially since you were close to her as well. I can't give any great words of advice here, but simply to give an ear to your friend since she'll need support now from all of her friends during this time.

im so sorry to hear that, all that can be done at this time is be thier for your freind and offer prays for the family, she is at peace now. time will heal you both. she will aways be close by...hope you feel better..

Sorry. I hope your friend rests in peace. I don't know what would do and what life would be like without my friends and family. They mean the world to me.

Yup. It IS sad. I have found in these situations that you just have to take one day at a time. And if you can't make the day, you break it down to hours. And if you find that the hours become to big of a goal then you just try to make it through the next few minutes. You have to do what you can for YOU before you can do for your friend or you won't be worth a plugged nickel to her. I am truly grieving for your loss and wish you the best in getting through this. It will take a long time.

I think just to let her know you are there for her, there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better in these times, grief is so different for every person so I think the best thing is to offer your self to help in any way...it is a sad time for everyone..

Sweetheart I know I am a bit late on this but you know I am not to good at the moment I am so sorry to read this and I hope that you are feeling a bit better now You will cry and it is better out then in and it makes you feel a tiny bit better I am so sorry though I know it is hard to loose People we love I do hope though that you are a bit better now Love you Sweetie xxxx Kisses from Gissi to, he says that will make his Auntie Terry a bit better to But I am sorry I was not here for you

it is so sad to hear. you acn't do nothing. you can go to their home to pay condolense. i think it has alrady been done as you posted it 3 days back. pray her soul rest in peace.

Hi TerryZ! How are you doing now? I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know how terrible it feels to lose someone we love dearly. Just be there for your friend and help her get through her loss. God Bless you and your family.

Sorry for your loss ! I find that if I stop and pray and be thankful for the life that person lived and all the people she touched I realize that there is a lot of her in all of us, this makes me feel better. My condolences.

I'm sorry for your loss. Just let your friend know that you will be there for her and her family. Offer to help with the arrangements. There is so much to do they'll probably appreciate an extra helping hand. And bring over a casserole or something. Overall, just lend a shoulder to lean on. It may help your grieving process as well. It will take time to heal. Think about the good times you had with them. It helps!