I need help trying to get my one year old to sleep in his own bed.

I have been through this and it is very hard to deal with and I wouldn't want to do it pregnant. I went out and bought him a toddler bed. I took him with me to pick out the sheets, bedspread, blankets, pillows and even a stuff toy. I made the bed with him and made him a real big part of the whole situation. That night, I rocked him to sleep and laid him down. Expecting a long night I went to bed myself, and I was right it was a long night. He came in every hour and I would take him back to bed and pat his back until he fell back to sleep. I would then go back to bed and fall asleep. Someone told me to try music thinking that the outside noise woke him up and this helped. I wasn't waking up every hour. He would wake up a few times a night. It took about a week of this and finally he was able to sleep in his own bed. There are still nights when he comes in and trys to get into bed with me and I just say back to your bed and he goes. He was almost two years old when I started this. I never had my other children in bed with me but my good friend lost her baby to SIDS about a month after my baby was born and I was afraid to have him sleep far away from me. So from the time he was four weeks old until he was about twenty-three months old he slept with me. It takes a lot of hard work but you have to stick with it and reward and praise him for sleeping in his own bed. I know it sounds stupid but rewards really do help when nothing else will.

Someone said the same thing i was going to :) It works for me so maybe you should give it a shot. First off, they really do recommend you don't allow your kids to share your bed, as a baby it can cause problems but the longer it goes on, the harder it is to get them out of the habit. Basically, we had a similar problem, only it wasn't our daughter wanting to sleep with us, it was our daughter refusing to go in her cot but still, it's the same thing to a degree! I got her a single bed - bought her cute soft sheets, a puppy blanket (fleecy with puppies on it), a gorgeous Eeyore comforter set & then i found her favourite toys & put 1 on each side of her so she could see them when she was laying there. We put up a big mosquito net (which kind of gave the feel she was in her own little world when inside) & finished it off with a night light! When it came to bed time, we'd walk together to the bed & i'd tell her to find her 'comfy spot' - she'll climb in there & get comfy :) I then cover her up with blankets & give her a bottle - once the bottle is empty i gave her, her dummy/pacifier & sat down where her feet were. She will roll around a little until she's ready & then she'll go to sleep. I think knowing i'm sitting there allows her to relax a bit - the night light only stays on for a while, until it's time for me to go to bed myself & then i turn it off - you may need to leave it on all night for a short while - it makes things less scary but they really do help. I hope that helps you some but you're much better off with a normal single bed & a safety rail - otherwise you'll end up spending a fortune with cots, toddler beds & then normal beds! Good Luck but you will need to try everything so you can sleep alone :) especially while you're pregnant!

I don't have kids, so I've never experienced this myself, but , apparently the "experts" recommend putting the child in their bed or crib and then sitting in the room until the child falls asleep. But once they are in the crib, you say, "good night" and then don't talk to or touch the child again until they fall asleep. If they climb out, you just put them back, calmly say "go to bed" and sit back down. The theory being that if you hold them or try to reason with them, they are "winning" with their behavior by getting what they want, which is your attention. I do hear that this can be really hard the first few nights, but, if you don't back down or give in, it really works in a matter of days and the kids will fall asleep faster. Running a fan or a white noise machine can also help the kid stay asleep so they don't come to your room later.

My daughter will be 5 next week and she still asks to sleep with me. I never just let her either. She will get out of her bed in the middle of the night and crawl into mine. I don't know how to stop her. I have gotten up and put her back in her bed. You could wait til he's asleep, then put him in his bed. Or put his bed in your room. I have heard that can work. Good luck.

I am a mother of two.. so I feel your pain. Honestly I have never let my children sleep with me, but instead I set up a nightly routine that really did the trick (mine are big kids now 10 and 8) but I still do the same thing every night at the same time. A nice long warm bath.. glass of milk.(chocolate milk is fine) and I tuck them in talk to them give them hugs and kisses and its done! when they were little I used to sit by their bed until they fell asleep, sometimes tell a story or sing (trust me my singing voice is aweful) but the kids didn't mind. its relaxing for them and for yourself, but it just reiterates the fact that you love them and will be there in the morning when they wake. There are times when they will get back up and all you can do is walk them back to their room and alleviate their fears and put them back in bed. You don't have to be harsh about it, but be FIRM! it takes a patience and committment, but eventually everyone will have a great night sleep.

He got use to the warm cuddly feeling of mommy, so now it is difficult for him to go to his own bed. He want to sleep in the same room with you hon.There is no body like mommy for him! My advice to you is simply putting him in his own bed and reading story books to him until he falls asleep, he will soon after get use to his own space. It take time and patience, but I fully understand.