ex gf invites husband...

I would deny of course even without the consent of the husbandry. I know for sure he would do the same if he was the one who found the invitation. Suppose it's you who got the invitation from your ex and the husband found out. What do you think would the husband do?

hello vanities, i dont open my husband's account or anything that pertains to his personal stuff without his knowledge and i always asked permission first THOUGH he always tell me that i am very much welcome to do so for me to know that he is very honest to me and that i can trust me. if i happen to open his account like you did, i will not do anything about it and just let him decide i will tell him up front what happened and he is free to do whatever he wants. anyway, i dont mind if my husband would like to befriend with his ex or if his ex would like to be his friend. most of his ex are good friends with him. he comes visit them at times or go out with them if they happen to be in the same town. he will always inform me of such thing and even if they just exchange emails or messages so i know everything that is going on. i also let my husband go out with his female friends even though i know they are head over hills with him and at some point tried to seduce him - still they are friends and i respect that. he is also welcome to meet new female friends if he wants to as i believe that we should let our partner have their own freedom provided that it is not harmful with our marriage. i feel that doing so will make our relationship stronger and i dont have to worry or feel jealous or put ghost in my head and will just stress me out and later will do effect in our relationship. THOUGH i let him know if something bothers me or i tell him that i dont agree with him BUT i will just tell him and will not ask him to do something according to my will, like i said he is welcome to decide on his own and let him handle the situation. IMHO a relationship with trust is far better than the ones with stress like that or the caging/nagging ones. you can feel if your husband loves you completely if he can meet other people and still knows you are his everything. i always remember this passage: "you can only know if you are the brightest star if you go to many stars whom you think is as bright as you" same goes with love and relationship. takecare ps so what did you do?

I think i will no way take it in good sense. i will first think there is something fishy about it. i will do nothing. let my husband see and decide.

I never went for this idea with any guy i dated. I dated someone for 5 years. He would rather sleep in on sundays then go for a bike ride or do something in the summer before it got hot. One day he blew me off and wouldnt watch a movie with me on valentines day and he wanted to speak to someone on yahoo instead, so after that day. when i would spend the weekend with him, i would wake up before him and i would either block or delete the women he wanted too cyber with or hook up with. i still do check messages on others yahoo to this day, as usually i end up finding out the person is lieing to me and usually cheating on me and i wont put up with it, and i end it right there.

as a woman, my first reaction would be being jelousy. hmm...if i was in that situation, i wouldn't say i'm mature enough to handle it smoothly so i guess i'd just have to deny it ^_^

I'll tell my husband about it and let him decide. If since he knows how you feel about it he will surely deny the invitation.

you need to trust your husband,you msut ask permission first before deleting or accepting any invitations in the ym. But still you have to ask him whats goin on between him and his ex.

I would tell him about it and let him decide even though I would be tempted to deny it instantly, but it is his signon and not mine. Since I do have access I can always check it if I am not comfortable with it.

Hi there vanities! Well, I will feel jealous but I won't react right away. I will leave that, mark it unread if I can, and wait for what my husband will do. From what he will do, I will based my reaction. If he read it and deleted it without adding the girl, I will be happy. But if he do that then tell me about it, I will be much happier and might give him a reward for that. If he added the girl then tell me, It's okay. But if he added the girl then didn't tell me, there will be war.

I would leave it and see what he does! I don't think that it's for you to decide! I know you want to but really it's for him to decide.

Yes i would be angry. He has probably had to track her down rather than run into her online somewhere i think you should confront your husband or pay more attention to his email and computer habits anyway.

I guess I am just more sneaky than some of the ones on here. I would mark it unread and just keep tabs on what was going on for a while. If he added her I would be mad but I would wait. If he wrote to her I would be mad and confront him. If he refused her I would be so proud and then tell him how happy I was about his discision. Ex's are Ex's for a reason and the only time I think they should be involved after it is over is if they have children together. I think if you have children together you should try to remain friends other wise leave the past where it belongs in the past.

I will let him discover it himself if there's a chance if not I will just tell him and give him the freedom to decide. In most cases similar to that I usually just shut up and later on I will know if he will open it up to me or not once he discovered it. Anyway, I trust my husband a lot though that never happened to us yet. I'm just he's wife. I mean, I look at "us" being "one" but he still needs to know the stuff meant for him and decide what he will do with them. I think the time for me to react is when I know that he doesn't give respect to our relationship and he gives no value with my trust. But knowing my husband's password to everything he access that's something which tells me he doesn't hide anything from me.

If I were into that situation I should ask first my husband if how come you want to be friends with your ex? It is not just I am being jealous but what is the sense of having friends with your ex? Isn't if that is your ex you should treat that as stranger already? Well actually my current boyfriend has the same mentality as mine that is why there is no problem about it. But in your situation I must let know my husband regarding that then I will talk to him and ask for the explanation. As much as possible I want to let him know or ask permission to forget his ex since that is already past. Again I am not possesive but for me that is not proper to make friends with ex lover who has affair with her before.

Tell him first and let him decide whether to accept or deny. I can see being a little spooked by it but if you trust each other than there should not be a problem. If you don't feel comfortable with him talking to her than you need to tell him and if he respects your feelings he won't talk to her!

Hmm, something like that can put your marriage in danger. In that situation I would deny the invitation without my spouse's knowledge.

I do not think I would like that one bit and I think I would deny the invitation and then tell my husband and also question him as to why 'he is getting this in the first place. He is married to me. and she is the loser.