What do you consider housewife duties

My hubby and I were always old fashion with our roles in life. He worked, I stayed home and took care of home and the family. I got him up for work in the morning, made him something to eat for breakfast. I also made him and packed him a lunch. We took care of each other, he did certain things, I did certain things. I think if more people did for each other in a marriage, maybe more marriages would last longer. What you were doing was part of you job, but thats just my opinion.

I think that is defined by each persons household. Personally I also make my husband's lunch every day. This saves our family hundreds of dollars a year. But I know a lot of women do not do this. I think if you have chosen to stay home and take care of the home and support your husband that way so he can be a successful earner than you do need to take care of the home and have dinner for him. He works for you and in turn you work for him. Lunch is something he could get himself, but if you don't mind making it and he likes taking it I think that is great. It saves the family money. And I feel as someone who is responsible for running the home, that saving money any we can is a good thing.

I only make my husband's lunch if I am making lunch for myself. We share the duties in the house. He actually enjoys cooking and doing housework too! That of course brings a smile to my face. If I were home all day and my duties were that of the main homemaker, I too would make my hubby his lunch.

I have made my husband's lunch when he was running late. He prefers to make his own. We were married at the age of 42 so he's used to making his own. I make my own lunch, but when running behind, he has made a lunch for me before, too. If you both agree to it and you both don't mind or even enjoy it that way, I don't think it's a big deal. Maybe she was concerned because your health may not be up to par. Or maybe she's one of those that think if you do anything for your husband, you're his slave or something. Some people are like that. Take care.

I don't really think it is fair to consider things "Housewife duties". Women are in charge of a lot of things and, it is sort of an individual decision, these days, as to what each person in a home will call their duties. My hubby and I share duties but, there are a few things that he does all the time, and some stuff I do all the time. But, he gets that I work too and, it is only fair that if I am going to share in the responsibility of keeping a roof over our head and comforts all around us, than we share in the dirt that we make and the routines that surround us. I don't make his lunch but, he goes home for lunch and fixes a salad and a sandwich. He vacuums and I clean the rest of the house. We share dish duty. He'll do them or I'll do them. It just sort of depends on who gets to them first. I make dinner but, we don't eat together because he comes home later so, he will frequently do the dishes after he is done eating his meal. So, to answer your question, I don't necessarily think it is a housewife duty to make your hubby's lunch. I think you do it because you love him and it is one of the many ways in which you show him you love him. But, as I said, I don't believe in "Housewife duties". I just don't like that term as I think it is a bit antiquated. And, I hope I didn't offend you by saying that! I am not a staunch feminist by any means but, I think that both genders have a lot going on all the time and, to label a task specifically towards one gender over the other is antiquated. Does that make sense? I really don't mean to offend. I just think that it is more of a "love duty". LOL!

I make my husband's lunch simply because I get up earlier then he does and I don't want him to forget it. I don't think of myself as a housewife at all. I do the laudry and clean alittle but other then that I don't do much. Now, at my in-laws, dad makes his own lunch and mom makes her own. Infact, their 9 year old makes his own lunch too. I don't think now days "housewife" is really a good way to classify people. I stay at home with our son but I work at home and do college at home. My husband cooks dinner and does the shopping for me. I guess if you consider yourself a housewife and you believe in the traditional roles then yes it is a duty of a house wife.

Whatever works at your house is your duty. If he likes you to pack his lunch, then it is great that you do it. My first hubby preferred to pack his own. Sometimes I cook, sometimes hubby does. Most of the time I make my own lunches, but sometimes he brings me something. We get along fine by giving each other space to do what we like.

I don't think it's a "duty", I think it's one of those nice things husband and wives for for each other. I work too, so, I make my own lunch, and if hubby wants to take one(he rarely does), I will make one for him too. I think we're way past the days where the woman was expected to do everything. Although, if she is home, it only stands to reason she would be doing the bulk of the cooking, cleaning, etc.

I work seven days per week and so does my husband at the moment. He works outside of the home and I work in the home on the internet. I also keep things done around the home also. We always share in cooking the meals because of that. We usually have some leftovers and when we are putting the food and dishes away, we usually go ahead and make his lunch for work together. I think if a wife stays at home and does not work, then she should fix her husband's lunch. I can eat or make something for myself at any time since I work at home. If both spouses are working, I think it should be equally shared.

I think it's the agreements or understandings we make when we first get married. I got married 30 years ago and back then I considered it my job to cook, make the lunches, do all the housework. So now I'm doing most of this all by myself to this day. He helps now and then, but it's mainly my job. I don't know how easy it is to change our routines.

I wouldn't know anything about a housewife's duty, because I've never been a housewife. I don't believe I ever packed a lunch for my husband and we've been married around 40 years. But two things about that: He was a professor and had time to come home and make his own lunch except when I was able to meet him and we went out together to eat. Second, I always worked outside the home, and in every single case although he sometimes earned more, my workday was longer than his, and my work week was longer, too. Sometimes he got up from bed when I got home from work and he went to the kitchen and made me a grilled cheese sandwich or eggs and toast, but I don't think he ever packed my lunch either. I guess if one person goes outside the home to a job, and the other doesn't, then it is nice if the other packs a lunch, but I have a hard time wrapping my modern mind around the concept of "housewifely duties"--ouch.

that's great. i believe it's a part of housewife's duty. i'm single now; when i'm married, i will be very happy if my wife prepares lunch for me. that's romantic :)

Why did it appall her? Why wouldn't you fix his lunch? What's wrong with this woman? If mine took a lunch I would fix it, there wouldn't be any question about it.

Isn't it to sit on the computer all day and do nothing? J/K I don't know I scrub the bathroom and everything else is pretty much split equally. My husband does work outside of the house and I do not but he likes to make everything easy for me and I guess he has made me lazy because I have no problem sitting at home playing with the children and picking up some but on Saturdays we do a deep cleaning of the house together. Oh, I am in charge of filing because he is not very good at that, but that's okay with me I don't mind it.

I wouldn't consider it a housewife duty to fix meals for my husband before he heads to work. I think it's a sweet thing to do, and on top of that. It saves money, instead of him going out and wasting money on something to eat. I don't drink coffee, but I will fix it for my husband, so he doesn't have to stop and waste money on a cup of coffee. I don't see it as my job, it's just being nice. I mean really, for people that don't do this for their mates. Switch places with them, wouldn't you want someone to make you something to eat or drink, so you don't have to take extra time before heading to work, fixing something to eat.

Hum, lets see a housewives duties is whatever she wishes them to be. Doing small things sometimes for your husband is fine and he hopefully appreciates it. Likewise, he does things for her. Duties in the home are for both the husband and the wife. There are no set duties for either. Well, besides carrying a baby to term of course. And I hear this is changing. LOL. My husband does things for me and I for him. He fixes things for me when I want them and I for him. It depends on who is in the kitchen at any given time or whatever task in any room. All things need to be a shared experience. If you enjoy doing things for your husband, do them. You can go over board with things and then he will expect them and not appreciate what is done for him. Or expect you you to things all the time for him. You just need to find a balance I guess. Pick and choose what you will and won't do at any one time.

Well I think with the chefs nowadays mostly being men, that making dinner would not be considered housewifely duties. However I do not think your friend was thinking on that venture. She was thinking that cooking for your husband and preparing his lunches demeaning and that he can make his own lunch. I do think that wives should make lunch for their husbands and the meals, and the husband can make the meals if it is something special he likes to do, or she is sick. The reason is that men often use too many pots, they think that bacon and eggs is a complete meal, in other words unless they have chef experience or had to help because their mother was working, they do not know how to do it properly.

well i always fix for my husband,but maybe she is from a new breed...Lol....My husband mows grass,takes out the garbage and works on the cars and keeps them running and fixes things around the house and picks up heavy things...I cook because i want my husband to eat healthy..I clean my house and i wash cloths.i would hate to see the cloths if my husband washes...I would also hate to see a bed that he made up..I think certain things women are better at than men are,and men are better at some things than women are.i stick to what i know...My husband washes dishes sometimes,he will also vaccum..I think women are natural caretakers and when we love we nourish our loved ones...If your husband is working it sounds natural to me to fix him a lunch.He is working for you both ....I always felt it was a wifes duty to take care of her husband ,i mean he takes care of us don't he....

My husband is an RN on the night shift working about 13 hours. I make him a smoothie, a lunch, a dinner, and snacks to tkae to work with him. He makes his own breakfast before leaving the house. I enjoy doing this for him because I feel like it makes his job easier gives him a little something to think of me while at work. All his co-workers always comment on the wonderful meals he gets to enjoy. I wouldn't necessarily say that it is a housewife's duties, but it's a nice gesture nonetheless.

I used to get up very early with my husband and make his lunch and his coffee for him but I don't do any of that now. I believe this all changed when I broke my wrist and was having a difficult time with dishes/cooking/laundry/etc. and my husband wouldn't even cook a meal, during those six weeks he made me a peanut butter sandwich only once. He wouldn't do laundry or dishes or anything I always did and he still expected me to do all of my "duties" and still help him outside. Unbelievable! I had another incident of being on bedrest when pregnant with out first child and the same was true, he did nothing in the house, I still had to do it all. So, as much as I love my husband, he can make his own coffee and his own lunch, I still have to do his dirty laundry, along with all the other household stuff and some outside duties as well.