my daughter started period at 10 yrs of age,-having school problems

As the first poster said, 10 isn't an early age to start her cycle. I was in 5th grade when my cycle started. I bet she's having a difficult time adjusting to all of the teachers that are going through her class and I bet she's still a little uncomfortable with starting her cycle. If you haven't really talked to her about it yet, maybe she feels like this is the end of her childhood and she has to be grown up now and she's rebelling against it. I really think you need to sit her down and really talk to her about what it means to have her period and that it doesn't mean she's completely grown up now and all of that fun stuff.

I would say that there really is no connection unless she is blossoming so much in the upper area that boys are finding her attractive and she is experimenting with Kissing. I know that does not sound good, for only being in 5th grade but I could see boys being a distraction but not so much the period thing. I would also ground her to coming home after school and that she has to sit at a table and do her homework and then you need to check it. Or at least make sure that it is done somewhat correctly. That is what I would do.

Ten is not an early age to be starting a period. That is pretty average. That could be contributing to the problem, but I don't personally believe that is the main issue. Have you spoken with her about how that she feels now that she has started her period? Maybe she is trying too hard to fit in? In my opinion, she is having problems adjusting because she has had too many teachers this school year. I bet she is not the only kid struggling either. Nothing can be done at this point to save her school year, have you looked into summer school?

Oh I feel for her. I remember when Cait went through the whole becoming a women thing. Her change was more of attitude. She started flying off the handle at the least provocation or no provocation at all. It could be a factor in her behavior but I would also think it would be the chaotic sub situation at her school. Subs don't tend to be able to control the class as well as a permanent teacher does and with them switching so much the style of teaching could be causing a problem also. Does her school distric offer summer school to keep her from failing the grade?

Hi purplepassion38, Two important principles of human behavior with which I'm sure you're thoroughly familiar - 1. If you push someone, they instinctively push back. That's guaranteed, because it's the natural human response to any perceived external pressure. 2. A corollary of the first principle - the only way to convince anyone of anything is to allow them to think that they thought of it themselves. The issues that you're grappling with are important, to be sure. BUT were I you, I wouldn't be getting too stressed over it. Everyone has to write their own story. If your girl needs to repeat a year of school to get to where she's going, then so be it. If you can avoid that outcome, well and good, but don't kill yourself trying to move mountains when just taking the longer way around might be easier on everyone. People are people, and they all have to learn for themselves what's what. It may be that your girl has to go through the tedium of another year in order to learn not to waste any more.

I'm sorry to here your daughter has had such a tough year. I am more inclined to look at this the other way around. Instead of thinking that struggles at school have caused her period to start, I bet that starting her period has made dealing with a difficult year even more difficult for her. I started my period at that age as well. I think some girls who develop earlier (and there are many physical reasons why this might happen) just get their period sooner. It is a very young age to be expected to understand what is happening to your body. Hormones can make life very messy at times. I think the best you can do is love her through this right now. This is a very delicate time in her life and she needs to know you will support her through it. If it were me I would go have a sit down discussion with the teacher and perhaps the pricipal about your concerns about her being held back. You are her only advocate right now.... the poor thing might truly just not know how to handle all that she is feeling right now. I know I acted out with poor behavior and got in trouble a lot during that time. Looking back now, I wish I have felt more loved and supported.

i never heard of this relationship before between a child's behaviour and how she is acting in school... to be honest with you, i first have my period when i am 12 years old and i didn't any major change in my behaviours in school... so i really don't know... you might want to consult a professional like a psycholog to ask about your daughter's problem... good luck and have a nice day...

somebody starts early. i think its taking lot of her attention. make her undersatnf=d taht she is to study well also. it will not do, it happens to all women and nothing rare.

hi purplepassion38 well about the period, i think having the period at ten years old is pretty normal i think i think most of my female friends also started at the age of ten or eleven years old, around the sixth grade of the elementary to the first of junior high school well, about the connection ? so far i know, the period might affect the emotional condition of the female, not with the being hyper-active.. well i consider your daughter as a hyperactive one .. ^^ well, you might get an help for her by supporting her take her for some discussion, just both of you a two way conversation always work out, especially with a mom and daughter .. ^^ thanks purplepassion38, i wish the best one for you and your daughter .. ^^

Aww that sucks. I actually got my period at that same age. I don't really think that starting her period early is what caused this. I got mine at that age and I didn't change at all but maybe it's different with other people. But I guess I didn't have time to misbehave and act silly because my periods have always been really painful. But it's only like one week left I hope that she's okay during that last week.

I do notknow but I would not think that starting her period early would have much to do with her grades. I think its more likely not having a grounded teacher but a lot of substitutes has interfered' with her learning process some way. Have you sat your daughter down and talked to her about these bad grades and what she needs to do to pull them up?

Some children deals with changes in a peculiar way. She started maturing at an early age which she is unable to deal with. Did you speak with her when this started. However this sometimes affect ones life. Changing teachers is also contributing to her learning abilities. I will encourage you to buy books and read with her. Let her see that this is not something to be afraid of. When a child loves a teacher and she/he is not there, they tends to not listening to the ones that replaced them. Your daughter is going through two different things in her life and you need to counsel her. Let her understand that her teacher is recuperating and that in her school days she will be changing teachers, so she must not make this affect her studies. Sit and talk with her. Some teachers will go to the classrooms and have favourites and when they see a child struggling they pass over that child. You know your daughter sit and talk with her. Grounding her is not the problem. She is playing because she is telling herself that she is not different. Girls talk among themselves and maybe in her group she is the only one who has began, so she plays alot to remind herself that she is not different. Punishment is not the answer for everything. I do not have any children, but I am talking from experience. I hope this helps.

I started my period when I was 9 although it did not affect my grades not saying it wouldnt for someone else. Since we all deal with things differntly. What I would honestly do is take her to the doctor and have her put on the pill it helps alot with regulateing the period and helps with cramps and stuff like that I was so greatful that my mother done it for me.Maybe the doctor could talk to her and give her some pamplets to help her deal with it. it could also be her fighting the growing up part I would get down to the source of the problem as soon as possiable sometimes talking to someone else other then Mom helps sometimes I hope this helps some!

I started my period at the exact same age; however, I did not almost flunk 5th grade. More likely, the lack of stability in the classroom is to blame. With only one week left, there is not much you can do. If you really want to hammer some discipline into her about the importance of school (like my parents did to me in 3rd grade), enroll her in a summer school course- a serious one that has homework. They are available, even at her age. A simple math or science course that meets for a few hours every day (not all day, that would just be cruel during the summer) would be good.