I almost left him last night!

Was he always like this? If not, what changed?

hey do u also know that somehow you contributed to the way things are right now in ur life, you dont have to force things, just let things flow freely.

You aren't the only woman who is fed up and ready to leave! Welcome to the club. I don't know why men think all they have to do is bring home a paycheck and they've done their part. Why should we have to "freak out" on them to make them understand that we need some help, especially when we also work (or go to school, or both)?

Im sorry you are going thru that. Lets hope that may of been a wake up call to him to show him you are serious. I dont know how old you are but yes your child needs both parents to take care of him. I wish you the best and hope things get better.

You took the first step in helping your husband to change his ways a bit, you stood up for yourself and let him know that you won't take that treatment anymore. He's not going to change overnight but you've opened his eyes so now help him to keep them open. Be nice to him and give him a chance. People respond best to positive reinforcement so give him some direction, let him know what you need help with and see if he cooperates. If he does, be sure to let him know that you appreciate it.

I feel angry.Does he know what love is and what responsibility is ?OH,horrible man.Sorry these words,but ,I cannot control,it is disgusting. kassdaw,I don't know what I should say.coz,I know little about your mind and the sittuation you in.but I understand your feeling. bless you

i don't blame you for what you are doing... i will leave him as well if he is behaving like that... i can't stand lazy people who depend on other people to serve them... life is not that easy and we all have to struggle to survive... nobody should just take things for granted... glad that you manage to talk things over... hopefully he will change... take care and have a nice day...

I do agree with NuclearRabbit about the depression part, it does sound very much like that could be some of the problem. The one things that bugs me most is the fact that he cried and acted like he felt guilty...he very well might but in my experience that is just a head game to make you feel bad for him again. Just be careful and firm about your wishes. I know what it's like to be with a guy like that and it can be hard and frustrating.

I hope things turn around for you. I went through that several times with my ex b/f and several times I let him talk me out of leaving, the last time I didn't. Sometimes they don't know what they had till they see it walking out the door. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

It is difficult to make a decision. And he is your husband, the man you love.

I can feel your emotional from your writing. But before all become porridge, let's try it once more. Personally, what if you modify the style of asking him to do something. Maybe your approaching doesn't suit for what had been accepting in his brain. You said he's marine, a life of marine is not easily surrendered, but they were taught to be solitude physically mostly, and not focus on emotionally which is needed greatly at home. But he owns the will, we just need to use the right shovel to dig back his emotional back again, especially after he's wounded. Back to your approaching, you may level it down to ask him softly, but it must sound as if you're creating a chance in the word. Don't use "You should" or "You have to". Avoid "Can you" or "Why didn't you". Try more soft approaching which contains appreciation to him such as, "I know you're tired.." or "I respect you want to have a rest, may you.." Much of time we think we are great in details of the argument, but actually a man is aware better than us. The trick is, live a space for him, then procreates our term softly, and never live a floating argument like when we're talking to our female friends. Start from here, patiently, once you've done this part, he'll automatically rise from his bed or couch. Because he has been given a chance/space from you with the right argument. I know it's weird argument, but that's how a man talks with their male friends. God bless you and your family.

kassdaw if your husband has been through all you say he needs some understanding there. losing a job kills a lot of guys as they feel worthless and he sounds depressed too.I know you are having a hard time trying to be both parents to your son.Perhaps your husband needs to see his doctor for his depression as that could make him act lazy when he is suffering from deep depression. your doctor might be able to help him or send him to a consulor who could help with the depression.

First I suppose I should be honest with you and let you know that I have not read many of the responses. This response is only based on what I have seen that people have written... I know that all of the other responders telling you that he is depressed must make you feel like the pits. I am sorry that you feel this way if you do. I do agree though, from what I have read, that he may be depressed. The best thing you can do for him is to be there for him, and let him know that you love him. Try to help him as much as you can and be supportive if you two do choose to have him go see a psychiatrist... I hope it doesn't come to that but if it does the psychiatrist can help you both. Good Luck with whatever the two of you decide.. and let your stresses heal.. Oh and for everyone else Counselor is how you spell it... lol...

I am so sorry to hear this. My husband is quite lazy too. He does do some cooking though. He takes the kids to the store and even to the doctors. He just doesnt liketo bathe them. I have felt like this at times. I have told my husband actually recently that I was thinking of leaving him because of how he treats me! So, I feel your pain. I hope everything gets better.